Today’s Truth

Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else (Galatians 6:4 NLT).


Friend to Friend

I was checking out my Facebook posts and feeling a little bit left out. It seemed everyone was having a big ole time with family and friends, and well, I wasn’t. It was Christmas time and it appeared that all the family gatherings were picture perfect…and mine wasn’t.

Pinterest postings of perfect sausage pinwheels. Facebook pics of glittery table setting with Christmas China and matching napkins. Instagram reels of happy families decorating a freshly cut tree. A passel of grandparents, parents, and kiddos dressed in matching Christmas pajamas. And you’re thinking, good for them, kinda.

And don’t get me started on Christmas letters—highlight reels that don’t show the part of the story left on the cutting room floor for no one to see.

Social media accentuates the culture of comparison by sending the false message that your monotonous tedious boring existence is a poor excuse for living compared to others whose lives are awesomely exciting all the time. Secretly, you hope your husband never stumbles across Pinterest to realize what a loser wife he really has. Mercy!

Social media breeds instant comparison at the click of a button. Comparing who has more “Facebook friends,” “re-tweets,” “followers” and “re-pins” is maddening. The age-old comparisons of appearance, accomplishments, possessions, and position are still around. Technology has simply magnified the access to other people’s lives, even though you’re only seeing what others want you to see. And I’m not talking about just the holidays, but the every days.

Comparison is the devil’s tool that he uses to undermine our confidence and kill our contentment like nothing ever will. It magnifies insecurities and fosters a self-absorbed pre-occupation of our inadequacies.

Comparison sullies the canvas upon which God longs to display His greatest work. Nothing will rob you of your confidence in Christ-like comparison. The measuring stick will get you stuck every time.

I love what Jesus said when Peter asked about John’s future. (Yes, he was comparing his future with John’s) “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You follow me!” (John 21:22) In other words, “It’s none of your business! Stop comparing!”

I love what Paul told the Galatians: “Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else” (Galatians 6:4 NLT). In other words, do your best and don’t worry about what someone else is doing or not doing.

Have you ever wondered why Jesus picked such a ragtag bunch of blundering, blubbering misfits to be His disciples? Even though they stumbled their way through much of the gospels, once they were filled with the Holy Spirit, this uneducated, unrefined, untrained bunch of unruly fishermen changed the world.

A few days after Pentecost, the Jewish Supreme Court questioned Peter and John about their persistence in preaching the gospel and their audacity to heal a beggar lame from birth.

The dynamic duo preached a mini-sermon that struck the religious rulers to the core. But here’s my favorite part of the story: When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus” (Acts 4:13).

The Sanhedrin leaders were mystified at how this bunch of scrappy, saw-toothed misfits could wax so eloquently. Then they had an aha moment. They realized the men had been with Jesus. That explained everything.

That’s what I want people to say about me! She’s an unschooled ordinary girl. How does she do what she does? Oh, I get it. She’s been with Jesus! Can you think of any better accolade? I sure can’t.

So, this holiday season, resist the tendency to compare your life to what you see of others. They are a mess just like you are…like I am…like the disciples were.  But the more time we spend with Jesus, the more we will be resistant to Christmas comparison and refreshed by Christmas contentment.


Let’s Pray

Heavenly Father, help me not to compare my holiday celebration with others’. Christmas is not about the glitter but Your glory, not the parties but the Person of Jesus, not the presents but Your presence.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.


Now It’s Your Turn

What are some ways you have compared your life with others in the past five days?
Think of ways others have compared their lives to yours during the past five days. (You don’t think they did? Oh sister, they did. Believe me.)


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12 Responses to “Comparison Kills Contentment”

  1. Avatar photo Joyce says:

    Amen sister!!! I don’t Facebook, Tweet, moo, crow, or oink!! Facebook is poison, way too much information and as you said, it’s stuff people want you to see, not reality. And forget the Hallmark channels. Ha!!! No town that has snow is so beautiful. I know, we live in northern Maine and snow is dirty, nasty and messy afterwards unless you go to a ski resort. Everyone’s hair, makeup and fashion is perfect and trendy….not reality. You dress in the north to keep warm, not to go to a fashion show. May we all keep our eyes focused on Jesus and the simplicity of the season. Love you and thank you fit sharing your gift of writing.

  2. Avatar photo Paul says:

    I remember making a comment that Gwen was probably okay to speak in a large dining room with chatter in the background but not little Ms Sharon Jaynes, she was too quiet. I guess I forgot, she’s been with Jesus and with His spirit her voice will be heard!

  3. Avatar photo Karen says:

    This was such a timely and very needed devotion this morning for me. I have made this a matter of prayer in my life and so appreciate you allowing the Holy Spirit to speak through you.

  4. Avatar photo Carol says:

    WoW, Acts 4:13 definitely a light bulb moment for me. “…they were astonished & they took note that these men had been with Jesus.”
    Yes, we all should remember when we are in consistent prayer, we have been with Jesus!!

  5. Avatar photo Sherry says:

    I love this post!!! It is spot on!

  6. Avatar photo Mardiece says:

    I was just thinking about this as I woke up this morning. It’s hard not to compare yourself with others who seem to have it all together, especially at Christmas. I went to a party yesterday at a neighbor’s house. I was stunned at how beautifully decorated it was. My decorations were mostly made by my children some 15-20 years ago! God did not gift me with the talent of house dressing (nor body dressing, for that matter) so I wouldn’t know where to start updating my decor. But as I read this devotional, I realized that it doesn’t matter. No one else needs to like my house but my husband and me. While many people around me really do have “those houses” like magazines, I don’t care. God lives here. His presence makes my house beautiful to me because I am so grateful for it. Thank you for this devotion! I’m new to this site, but will surely be coming back!
    May God’s grace, mercy, and love bless you all this season!

  7. Avatar photo Deb says:

    Love your post, Mardiece… you are spot on!!!

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