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Posts by Kelly Balarie

Today’s Truth

Unless the LORD builds the house, the builders labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain.

Psalm 127:1

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There are two ways champion athletes act. Consider the game of football. The guy who runs the winning touchdown either kneels on the ground, pounds his fists against his chest, and yells, “I’m Da’ Man!” or he runs to the 10-yard line, points up to God, and says, “All due credit goes to You, Jesus.”


May we do all things to the glory of God.


A girl can hope, right? Sometimes I misplace due-glory. It’s not that I don’t want to thank, praise or give credit to God. I do. It is just that I get busy, distracted, and focused on all that I need to do. All the people who need me. All the happenings around me.


Are you at all like

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Today’s Truth

It is a land the Lord your God cares for; the eyes of the Lord your God are continually on it from the beginning of the year to its end.

Deuteronomy 11:12

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I sat on the curb after practice, wondering, “Is mom ever going to come?” It was a particularly hard high school year. For one, my nose got hit with a field hockey stick. Even today, it sits a little crooked. And on this particular day, after all those sprints, shooting pains shot up my legs. I could hardly sit. Every position was agony. So with my teammates long gone, I moaned. Then, I replayed everything: the shots I didn’t make, the girls that were faster than me, and how I must have looked downright stupid.


Five minutes turned into twenty. Would she ever come?


Times of waiting are battles – the sense of “not knowing” compounds everything. Here, we tend

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Today’s Truth

Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.

Colossians 3:2

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My 4-year-old daughter looks at me and cries, “Mommy, I’m falling!” I know it’s a test. In actuality, her falling-off-the-couch body is just half a foot away from the ground. It doesn’t matter. For her, this is a test of epic proportions. She’s asking, “Mommy, can I trust you to catch me? To really be there for me? To pull me through?”


I’ve asked these very same questions of God during various trials. God, how will You possibly show up when my bank account is tens of thousands of dollars in debt? Will You be there for me when Multiple Sclerosis makes me unable to walk? Will You abandon me too, like those people did? Will You really be

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Today’s Truth

For He chose us in Him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in His sight.

Ephesians 1:4

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I looked down at the empty box of cookies stashed in the trash. I just devoured them. The more I started at the box, the more it reminded me, if I left it there, I’d likely be caught red-handed. So, I did what any smart sweet-toothed woman would do – I dug deep into the yuck and hid the “evidence.” However, as I stepped back, to catch a glimpse of the trash bin from various angles, all I could see, taste and feel was guilt:What if my husband hid “evidence” like I do?


What if I continue to eat and eat and eat?
What if I start to hide in other ways?


Anxiety feels not only like sweat, but also

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Today’s Truth

For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace.

Romans 6:14

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She put me down, right there in front of “all them.” Sure, it was subtle, but it was real and … worst of all, it wasn’t the first time. In fact, every time I encourage others around that one particular subject, she circles right back and shoots it down. You can’t get one thing past her.


Hmph! Well, if she’s going to put me down like that? Well…I’ll show her. I don’t have to put up with this.


I thought about leaving the gathering. But I didn’t. I just sat there, internally fuming, while externally smiling.


Later, when I got home, I wondered why I even bother speaking up, encouraging others or taking the risk to be open and honest. Women

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Today’s Truth

For I have come down from heaven not to do my will but to do the will of Him who sent me.

John 6:38

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I care a lot about what others think. If you commented that you didn’t like this devotional, I admit my feelings would probably be hurt. If I invited you to a party and you didn’t respond, I’d wonder what I did to offend you. If I was excited to see you at church, and you turned the other way to meet another friend first, I’d feel let down. If I had plans to do great things with God, but you questioned the details, I’d consider a new direction. I’d look away from God.


Ever noticed? With our eyes on everyone else’s intentions, opinions and afflictions, it becomes hard to look up to God. Looking upwards when your head is

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Today’s Truth

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

Galatians 1:10

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My husband said to me, “Kelly, you need to be more straightforward with people. Answer with an outright ‘no’ when you know you need to say ‘no.’”


I mulled over his words, considering them. 


He had a good point. I have a hard time saying no. I want to make everyone happy. I don’t want to let people down. My central goal is to leave them encouraged.


And to avoid feeling unlikable. To avoid dealing with those awful residual icky feelings of knowing a person may not want me anymore, think highly of me, or desire to be my friend. Or worst yet, they talk behind my back and form some kind of club that hates me. The idea of all

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Today’s Truth

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit

Romans 15:13

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They were everywhere. Every corner, wall and shrub seemed to be lined with them. . . cobwebs. I sighed, acknowledging the subliminal messages behind them. I’d gotten behind on taking care of my house. I wasn’t in control of all the stuff I needed to be handling. Things were acting on me more than I was acting on them. I was just as caught up in the web called busyness as the spider that spun the sticky trap.


All these webs were signs of falling behind.


Wasn’t I created for more than trying to keep up with life?


I’ve hit many moments like this in my past. There have been times I’ve been wiping a baby’s behind saying, “Is this

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Today’s Truth

For we through the Spirit, by faith, are waiting for the hope of righteousness

Galatians 5:5

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My house has green water. Yes, it’s true. We packed up our entire little family and moved what I’m sure is 1000 miles away, only to land in a home with fluorescent green hyper-chlorinated water. Go figure. 


Welcome home!


Not only that, but the garage is all torn up; I can hardly inch the car through the entrance. So much for a new home. I could go on and on … (oh how I want to), but I won’t.


Needless to say, we are moving. Far away. I hope.


The problem is that we searched for houses far and wide and found nothing. Places are too small or big, too pricey or high traffic, too dark or too dirty. Everything is wrong

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Today’s Truth

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Philippians 4:8

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Do you ever have a hard time seeing the bright side of things?


I do. After pulling all of our luggage, pillows and boxes from the car, I plopped on the couch in my brand new home, in a brand new city.


It’s not safe enough here, in this neighborhood. They are doing construction right next to us. There are no families around. 


The anxious thoughts were eating my moment of joy.


The previous night didn’t help. Our train ride to the new home was horrendous. We slept in the passenger car. My three-year old daughter pleaded in 30-minute increments for a tissue for her nose. The door rattled. The train leaned in, then out, as it went down the track.

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Today’s Truth

Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD.

Psalm 27:14

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Recently, I met with a friend. This friend’s been praying forever for things to change. To say she’s waiting is an understatement. She’s been enduring and persevering for years. She’s been gripping her dreams for what seems like forever. She’s been fighting to act God-honoring, almost every day.


Her life feels like a hard-fought battle.


No doubt, she’s wanted to give up, turn away from it all, lay in bed, dream a new dream, find an escape, indulge in chocolate and turn herself over to it. In many ways, I don’t blame her; her situation is hard.


Yet, while she’s lost days and emotions within the great abyss of frustration, I applaud her – she’s pushed on.


So, with her wait

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Today’s Truth

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.

Philippians 4:8

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Some days, it feels like a woman’s work is never done.


These words coursed through my mind as I swung left and right around the kitchen tossing dishes into the dishwasher, removing food stains from the floor and shoving ketchup into the open nook in the side fridge door. I exhaled. I’m nearly there – nearly to the moment I fall back and put my feet up.


Trash still lined the counters: a paper towel by the sink, a wrapper by the coffee maker and an old straw that was nearly too grimy to pick up. I surveyed it all. I considered what to grab first and how to do it most efficiently. I had a plan! The

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"We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well…" 1 Thessalonians 2:8