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Today’s Truth

Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope (Romans 5:3-4 NIV).

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Many years ago, I reluctantly attended my first family member addiction recovery support group. I’d spent years trying to fix an addiction issue in my family, even forcing solutions when necessary. Nothing worked, but that didn’t stop me from trying harder. As my mind spun with hundreds of worried worst-case scenarios, I doubled down with begging, bargaining and at times, a barrage of angry words. As our family situation declined, I became desperate.I was losing hope fast.


While we like to think that hope is found in a happy ending, Today’s Truth illuminates the path to hope. It’s a progression that one scholar calls the “Golden Chain of Christian Growth and Maturity.” As the Apostle Paul defines the progression

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Today’s Truth

“‘My son,’ the father said, ‘you are always with me, and everything I have is yours’” (Luke 15:31, NLT).

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When am I finally going to get what I deserve?


Maybe you’ve muttered those words under your breath while reading an email from your boss. Perhaps you’ve spat those words out in anger after a visit with your parents or your kids. You feel like you’ve bent over backward, but you still don’t feel appreciated, even though you put in the time, effort, or energy to earn it.


One summer, my youngest daughter worked on the restaurant staff at a dream destination theme park. She called home to express frustration with customers who yelled and even bullied restaurant employees when a ketchup container was empty, or an ordered sandwich was missing bacon. She remarked that customers justified their rude behavior

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Today’s Truth

“But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner” (Luke 18:13 NIV).

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During my college years, I lived like a prodigal. Even though I knew that I was chasing my own selfish desires, I pushed aside the shame and guilt by distracting myself with the next party. I pretended that everything was fun and great until I crashed and burned. On the day when I realized that I’d messed up my life far beyond my ability to fix it, I feared that God wouldn’t want me anymore after what I’d done. I was too ashamed to read my Bible or even consider going back to church.


In Luke 18, Jesus tells a story about a Pharisee and a tax collector “to some who were confident of their own righteousness and looked

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Today’s Truth

“Jesus gave his life for our sins, just as God our Father planned, in order to rescue us from this evil world in which we live” (Galatians 1:4 NLT).

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For many years, I treated my faith like I was cooking dinner in the kitchen. Here’s what my Christian life recipe looked like for many years:


1 c. weekly church attendance


1 c. daily Bible study


1 c. volunteering (or 2 c. if pressured to do more)


1 c. Bible study group (sometimes a seasonal ingredient)


1 c. offering (or a dash if money is tight)


1 c. prayer (add more if you gossip, lie or occasionally swear)


1 c. good intentions


Directions: Mix together each week on your calendar. Substitute guilt for any missing ingredients. Pour generous amounts of worship music over the top to cover for anything that might be outdated or less than fresh. Finally, serve with a Sunday smile.


For years, I felt

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Today’s Truth

Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ (Galatians 6:1-2 NLT).

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While walking at a park, a couple in front of me abruptly stepped off the path. The woman reached down to take off her shoe and held onto the man for stability.  It only took her a few seconds for her to pluck out the rock and then she held onto him again as put her shoe back on.


As I watched that little scene unfold, I’m reminded of the times when I’ve been like that woman with something in my life that caused me discomfort or pain. I’ve felt emotional stones in my life such as depression, anxiety, control issues, anger, and disappointment. Emotional stones hurt! But it’s much harder to remove our emotional, spiritual, or relational stones

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Today’s Truth

The Spirit of the LORD is upon me, for he has anointed me to bring Good News to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim that captives will be released, that the blind will see, that the oppressed will be set free, and that the time of the LORD’s favor has come (Luke 4:18-19 NLT).

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When I grew up in the church during the 1980’s, my grandmother and her friends hid a shocking secret underneath their fabulous Sunday hats. Those elegant hats were adorned with fluffy feathers, giant bows, and decorative nets. They anchored those hats to their heads with a legion of bobby pins just in case they felt like jumping up and down as the gospel music started to “get good.” So, what was their secret? My grandma and her friends didn’t style their hair underneath their hats! In time, those hats became a symbol of the kind of Christianity that I witnessed and lived much of my early life: Your life might be a mess on the inside, but as

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Today’s Truth

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:18, NLT).

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One day, I discovered that one of my favorite hoop earrings was missing. It was a pair that I wore daily because they matched all of my outfits. I searched my room while wondering when the earring might have fallen out.


I held onto the remaining hoop for months in hopes that the missing hoop might turn up. While I had other earrings, that particular pair was important to me. I hated looking at that lonely earring in my jewelry box. I couldn’t help but think of how much I missed wearing them.


The loss reminded me of other things I’ve lost. If you’ve ever experienced the loss of a friendship or a fallout with a family member, it’s hard.

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Today’s Truth

Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry (James 1:19, NLT).

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Three-year old Mateo Beltran really wanted some cupcakes and his mother said no. Unfortunately, he did not like her answer. In a viral video on social media, little Mateo is better known as the little boy who says, “Listen Linda” over and over again. While little Mateo’s interruptions were funny in the video, regularly interrupting others is no laughing matter.


Do you tend to be a “Listen Linda”? Here are two ways that we can use interrupting as a control-loving behavior:



When we cut someone off while they are talking.
When we interfere in an other’s affairs.

Chances are that you’re like me and you don’t mean to interrupt others. In fact, you truly believe that what you are saying or doing

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Today’s Truth

…but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.

(Philippians 3:13, NLT)

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My dog, Quimby, is the best forgetter ever. Even though she was abused before she came to live with us, Quimby wakes up each day happily wagging her tail and licking our faces. She never remembers when we yelled at her the day before. For Quimby, each day is a clean slate. I wish I could be a lot more like my dog.


As humans, it’s not easy to forget the past. We’re prone to negative bias, and it’s much easier to remember the bad instead of the good. We drag around mental and emotional suitcases filled with our disappointments, pain, rejection and failure. Then, we lug that hidden baggage into and out of our jobs, relationships, and dreams

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Today’s Truth

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).

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We like happy endings.


During the difficult World War II years, Hollywood movie directors re-wrote the endings to popular books such as The Grapes of Wrath to have happy movie endings. Since there was so much sadness around the war, the movie studios wanted to create a cinematic happy ending, even if the books didn’t end that way. One article called this revisionist process, “happyendingification” or the taking of a bad situation and turning it into a happy one.


Do you ever try to do some “happyendingification” in your life? When we or someone we love is struggling or when a situation we hate is out of control, we grab our control-loving remote to point and click our way to

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Today’s Truth

Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective (James 5:16, NIV).

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Just keep it together until after Bible study.


I begged my tears to stay put as I drove down the road toward my summer women’s Bible study group. For many summers, our group met at a friend’s house around her pond to study and pray together while our kids laughed and splashed in the pond.


On that particular day, I had my very first counseling appointment scheduled right after the Bible study. Everything about me teetered on a razor thin edge, but, I didn’t want anyone to know that I needed help.


As far as rest of the world was concerned, I was a good mom who was extra attentive to her kids. No one saw the complex mental gymnastics that

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Today’s Truth

Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.” (Matthew 26:39, NIV).

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On what should have been a glorious day, I faced two choices: I could suffocate to death, or become a supersize tasty snack for the hairy eight-legged monster lurking somewhere in my room. I pondered my options while stuffed inside of a comforter wrapped tighter than a burrito around me. I needed to breathe, but did I want to risk dying?


I spent hours envisioning all the “what if” ways that I could die of a spider bite. For hours, I sweated and stressed myself out. Here’s the kicker: When I finally got up and out of the bed, I never saw a spider! I’d lost hours of sleep stressing myself out over worse case scenarios that never happened!


Whenever

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Today’s Truth

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. (1 Peter 5:7, NLT)

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Why did I let my mind go there AGAIN?


There I stood, in my kitchen, swiping at the tears rolling down my face. Was I crying about something that had just happened? No. I sobbed about a horrible movie generated in my mind about one of my girls getting into a bad car accident as she drove to a friend’s house.


That mental movie was so graphic, so real. I could see the accident scene and myself running and screaming toward a mangled car with hazy smoke rising from the wreck. I could feel the EMT’s pulling me away. I could hear my screams in my mind. My heart pounded and tears streamed down my face. Why does this feel

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Today’s Truth

The tongue has the power of life and death (Proverbs 18:21, NIV).

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I’m a descendant from a long line of well-meaning women whose nagging is a preferred expression of love. You can calculate just how much you’re loved based on the number of times we call or text you, reminding you to wear your coat, take your medicine, or phone when you get home.


Perhaps you’re feeling like you could be a part of my family because you love to repeat requests and recap instructions or dire warnings to your loved ones. If so, welcome to my family. I’m glad you’re here!


For our first family meeting, we’re going to discuss why the people that we love don’t feel loved by our repeating words. Most of the time, our repeating words come

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Today’s Truth

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

(James 1:5, NIV)

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One Sunday afternoon, my friend, whom I’ll call Leah, called in tears over her adult children. Leah spent large sums of money, time, and tears trying to help her kids, but their reckless life choices kept her up at night stressed out and scared for their future.


Leah struggled with what I call “secondhand worry.” This happens when we suffer the effects of worry because we’re trying to carry the load that someone should be responsible and accountable for managing themselves.


If you can relate to Leah, you know that this is a difficult place to be. When we wear someone else’s worry, it can wear us out! So, how do we get out of God’s way? Do we trust

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Today’s Truth

In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the Lord, weeping bitterly. And she made a vow, saying, ‘Lord Almighty, if you will only look on your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the Lord for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head’

(1 Samuel 1:10-11, NIV)

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Have you ever sat in a hospital waiting room while a loved one had surgery, delivered a baby, or underwent a biopsy? There are many ways we try to keep ourselves busy while we’re waiting. We sit. We stand. We pace. We drink old coffee and flip through even older magazines.


Hospital waiting rooms are a symbol of how we can feel during seasons of unanswered prayer. Unfortunately, when God seems to delay answering our prayers, we wonder if God loves us or if perhaps He’s forgotten about us. It’s even harder when it seems like God is answering everyone else’s prayers!


In our waiting room seasons, it often feels like we just can’t bear another day. However, our waiting

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"We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well…" 1 Thessalonians 2:8