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Today’s Truth

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here.

2 Corinthians 5:17

Friend to Friend

Most Christians see their conversion as a cleaned-up version of their old self, rather than as a brand new creation who did not exist before. The Bible says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here” (2 Corinthians 5:17). The old is gone, not just spiffied up.

After high school I went to college where I met and married an awesome Christian man whom I met at a friend’s Bible study. I saw him sitting on the floor with his back against the wall and his red flannel shirt rolled up his masculine arms. He had a worn Bible in his lap and an easy smile on his face. Before the year was up, I became his wife. About four years later, I became a mom.

Life was good, except for this termite-like gnawing in my gut that I just didn’t quite measure up to all the other church moms with their smiling faces. I went to Bible studies and even taught a few. However, I walked around with the fear that one day I would be found out—that one day folks would figure out that I wasn’t all that I was cracked up to be. I lived under an undefined self-imposed standard of approval.

Childhood echoes of “you’re so ugly” and “what’s wrong with you?” and “you did a terrible job” left me feeling congenitally flawed. I sat in Bible study groups like someone in a hospital waiting room: hoping for the best but expecting the worst. My greatest fear was that I’d be no closer to being free of the insecurity than I was before the study began.

When I was in my mid-thirties, I sat under the teaching of an older woman in my church, Mary Marshal Young. She opened my eyes to the truths in Scripture about who I was, what I had, and where I was (my position) as a child of God. I had read those verses scattered throughout Scripture before, but when she encouraged me to cluster them altogether into one list, God began a new work in my heart.

You are a saint.

You are chosen and dearly loved.

You are holy.

These truths were right there on the pages of my Bible in black and white and a few in red. I knew it was the infallible Word of God, but I felt rather squeamish hearing them, reading them, believing them.

They didn’t feel right.

They didn’t sound right.

They made me downright uncomfortable.

At the same time I was studying about my true identity, the devil taunted me with lies. Who do you think you are? A saint? Are you kidding? This stuff might be true for some people, but it certainly is not true about you.

One day God asked me an important question—one that He is asking you right now. Who are you going to believe?

That’s what I’m asking you today. Who are you going to believe?

When I decided to believe God…that changed everything. I believe it will do the same for you.

Let’s Pray

Heavenly Father, thank You for choosing me! Help me to believe that I am who You say I am, even when I don’t feel like it. I am standing on the truth of Your Word with shaky legs, but I’m standing all the same.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

Do you have echoes of the past that taunt you? Lies from the enemy that tease you?

Here’s the plan for changing the way you think:

  1. Recognize the lie.
  2. Reject the lie.
  3. Replace the lie with truth.

Think of one lie that you believe about yourself, and then write down the verse about how God sees you to replace that lie.

More From the Girlfriends

To learn more about how to recognize the lies, reject the lies, and replace the lies with truth, check out my book, I’m Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. It will transform your stinkin thinkin into confident joy! It also includes a Bible Study guide, which is perfect for group studies. And for a quick reference guide of Your True Identity in Christ, see my laminated card that fits snuggly in your Bible.

9 Responses to “You’re More Than a Cleaned-Up Version of Your Old Self”

  1. Crystal Tipton says:

    I love reading the testimony of ladies and their stories and struggles!

  2. Laura says:

    Just what I needed to hear. I have always had that voice in my head telling me I will never be good enough. Thanks for sharing and reminding us we are worthy.

  3. Sabrina Jones says:

    My husband died when I was 29, 11 months after we were married. I did not remarry until I was 50, I was unable to have children. My second husband would not let me have foster kids. My family hates me. I am half Canadian Indian and live on reserve where I am rejected as I don’t speak the language or know the culture. My skin is brown and growing up in Kansas city, I went to a very prejudice school, but didn’t know why I had no friends. I have no friends now. I have been a Christian since a little girl. My dad beat me growing up. I graduated from Calvary Bible College in Kansas city, then became an RN 5 years later. Here where I live is no church, so I watch Christian TV, Christian podcasts, and read my Bible. But my prayers don’t seem to reach the ceiling. I want to die.

    • Sabrina Jones says:

      I forgot to add my mother died 6 months ago after taking care of her for 12 years. Now I am taking care of my 82 year old father who has dementia really bad. None of my 4 siblings want him. My husband is German and goes back to Germany every year for 6 months because he misses Germany.

      • Suzanne says:

        Sabrina,

        I just read your post and wanted to let you know that as your sister in Christ, I am lifting you up to our Father who calls you daughter, chosen and dearly loved. I pray that you will be surrounded by His outpouring love and care for you and that those chains of dispair will be broken and the heaviness you have felt will be lifted. May you find refuge and shelter in the Lord and may you be wrapped in comfort and protection by His peace.

      • Luc says:

        Dear Sabrina,

        You are an amazing woman to take care of your 82 year old father. God sees your kind, serving and selfless heart! Read the verses below and beg God to send Godly people to you. Our out your heart to him, tears and all. He hears you. Psalm 119:18-20
        18 Open my eyes that I may see
        wonderful things in your law.
        19 I am a stranger on earth;
        do not hide your commands from me.
        20 My soul is consumed with longing
        for your laws at all times.

        Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can share its joy. Proverbs 14:10

        And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Rom. 8:28

  4. Pat Wyatt says:

    I desperately needed to hear this today. I am always worried, always doubting, but still knowing God is there for me. So HOW do I set these worries aside?

  5. Kathy M says:

    I was always trying to be perfect, trying to live up to some imagined standard I could never obtain. I always felt ‘unworthy’ like I could never do enough to earn God’s love. Then one day I realized that in myself I will never be worthy by my own standards or God’s standards. However Jesus is worthy and he loves me to death and He makes me worthy. He knows everything about me and he still loves me! I still struggle with feeling like I am not ‘good’ enough then Jesus will speak gently into my heart through a Bible verse or the words of another person and I will realize once again that I am loved by the Creator of the universe! Hallelujah!

  6. Mary M Bakari says:

    I love to be saved but I hearing that I cannot be.But the story l read today has made me believe that God loves me more and cares for me

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