Today’s Truth

Give all your worries to Him, because He cares about you.

1 Peter 5:7

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My husband often says there are two kinds of people in the world. Some people have ulcers, and some people give them. Can you relate? I certainly can.

Sandpaper people are definitely ulcer giving people unless we learn to choose peace over worry when dealing with them. Getting along with people who rub you the wrong way is difficult at best and can sometimes make peace seem impossible to find. That is only true if peace is dependent on outer circumstances.

It isn’t.

Peace is an inside job and comes only from God. Nothing can take the place of peace, and it is impossible to counterfeit.

Sandpaper people are not peaceful people. One of the very reasons they are rough around the edges is because they are not at rest – with God, with themselves or with others. They may not know God. If they do have a personal relationship with Him, they may not understand who they are in Him and who He wants to be to them.

Sandpaper people continually arrange the circumstances of their lives to set themselves up for failure, proving to everyone, including God and even their own heart, that what everyone believes about them is true – they are worthless. We must not be fooled by their temper tantrums, their boisterous antics, or their brooding silences – all traps of their own making that sooner or later will imprison them in disappointment and defeat. Worry is their jailor … and can imprison each one of us unless we learn to deal with worry and anxiety.

Worry is a control issue. It is playing God, foolishly thinking we can handle difficult relationships on our own. Every time we choose to worry, we are choosing not to trust God.

Isaiah 26:3 “You, LORD, give true peace to those who depend on You, because they trust You.”

Have you ever noticed that the sandpaper people thrive on drama? Everything is a big deal! Drama flows freely through the veins of every sandpaper person I have ever met. Under the spotlight of opportunity, everything, no matter how insignificant it may seem, escalates into a major crisis filled with worry, distorting what is real.

In 1 Peter 5:7 we discover the secret of handling worry – by casting every care on Him. “Give all your worries to Him, because He cares about you.” I love this verse because in essence it is saying God has volunteered to be the dumping ground for every fear, every worry, and every difficult relationship. We must learn to take those difficult people to God and leave them there, in the palm of His hand. I know they will come crawling back into your peace, but stand firm in your resolve to keep taking them back to the place of wholeness.

Queen Esther is an amazing example of a woman who learned how to choose peace over worry. She was confronted with a frightening set of circumstances and had every right to worry:

  • She was taken from her home for the second time since birth.
  • She was thrust into the overwhelming role of queen.
  • She was the wife of a king.
  • She faced her foremost sandpaper person, an evil man named Haman who plotted to kill her and her people.
  • She was responsible for the future of a whole nation.

Talk about the perfect chance to work up a huge mountain of worry! Instead, Esther chose to trust God. After fasting and praying, she threw every fear on God, including her fear of Haman. Because she chose peace over worry, Esther’s problem was resolved and peace reigned in her heart.

I think we sometimes miss the solution to handling our sandpaper people because we have allowed worry to take us hostage. Right now, choose peace and “do not worry about anything. But pray and ask God for everything you need. And when you pray, always give thanks. And God’s peace will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. The peace that God gives is so great that we cannot understand it” (Philippians 4:6-7 ICB).

When we choose peace, we are paving the way for difficult people to encounter the Prince of Peace Himself. Choose peace over worry!

Let’s Pray

Father, please forgive me when I give in to fear and worry instead of stepping out in faith and believing You. Help me learn how to capture my thoughts and train them to focus on You. I want to become a woman who trusts You – no matter how difficult some of the people in my life may be. My faith is small, but I now choose to place it in You.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

Think about the most difficult relationship in your life. How has worry about that relationship affected your life?

What step do you need to take that will help you choose peace over worry in this relationship? What is keeping you from taking that step? Choose now to relinquish that person to God.

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7 Responses to “Choose Peace Over Worry”

  1. Traci L says:

    This devotion had me in tears. I worry about everything as my life around me is crumbling. Its hard when I pray and just dont get any answers.

  2. Tara says:

    Thank You Mary for today’s devotional. God knew I needed it ! I have been so hurt and concerned about my 16 yr old daughter’s POOR choices. She’s living with my Ex, in a Non-Christian home, living a VERY worldly life. She’s NOT pure any longer, won’t go to more detail, because it’s so Heartbreaking !!!! I knew this would happen when she moved w father, and no rules, etc. Most importantly, God knows !! I need to , Again, give it to God, and leave it there !! I need prayers, but even more so, my daughter needs Prayers !!! Thank Goodness we have a Loving God that will take all our hurts, burdens, etc. God Bless You

  3. Leigh says:

    Great devotional this morning, and a great reminder to continue to give my worries to God. He knows that my spouse is my largest sandpaper relationship, and I pray without ceasing to remain true to my vows–for better for worse, in sickness and in health. However, so many times I feel enough is enough; please pray for my marriage and my understanding without the whys my husband is not the man I married. Have a blessed Monday!

  4. Karien says:

    Hi Mary,
    It was great to be reminded of Gods promise of peace. I Must give my worries to God! He always has taken care of me! Thank you for this reminder today!

  5. Maria says:

    Thanks for this message it’s true we do worry of many things. I’ve being struggling to have faith in the Lord He has shown me many time that he is with me in the bad and good times. I’ve been working on having faith and not worrying. This message reminds me to keep putting all my worry in is hand. So THANK YOU LORD ALL PRAISE AND GLORY to YOU for reminding me who you are a loving father. AMEN

  6. matha johnson says:

    I was blessed with choose peace over worry

  7. June Pinder says:

    Oh Tara! I can feel your pain and want you to know that Jesus sees your daughter and is watching her. He knows when it is best to let the Holy Spirit do His work in her heart and that is when she is ready She will not respond no matter what you do until the Holy Spirit prompts her heart to come to Jesus in full repentance. There is nothing but God that can move that along. Your prayers are heard by God as well and He will answer in His timing. Pray for protection on her as you wait for this work and continue to pray. In the meantime you can learn to focus all your love and attention to the only one who really knows the whole situation, our loving Heavenly Father. I too am dealing with some problems myself and I have chosen peace over worry.Because of Gods promise of the Holy Spirit as our helper we can claim that promise and call on the Holy Spirit for the peace of God instead of worry! Chin up girl lets trust God for peace together!!!

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