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Today’s Truth

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

(Ephesians 4:29 NIV)

Friend to Friend

Have you ever said something you wished you could take back? Silly question. We all have. But what if we could stop the words before they tumbled out in the first place? That would be a win-win for everybody.

I remember taking my son, Steven, to an amusement park just before he began fourth grade. It was hot, the lines were long, and I began to feel queasy from being gyrated and jerked to sudden stops from 60 miles per hour. Feeling quite the martyr, I was just about to remind Steven how lucky he was to have a mother like me to bring him to an amusement park. But before the words escaped my mouth, the Holy Spirit gently stopped me. Was that what I really wanted to say? Would those words make Steven feel “lucky” or would they make him feel guilty, as though he owed me something?

Instead of saying my initial thought, I wrapped my arms around my precious young son and said, “Steven, I am so lucky to have a son like you that I can bring to an amusement park.”

With those words, a dimpled smile spread across his precious face, and I was thankful for the splash of the watery roller coaster that disguised the tears streaming down my face.

If I had spoken that first sentence, Steven would not have felt lucky to have a mom like me at all. He would have felt guilty and that he needed to pay me back for my “kindness.” However, the revised version made him feel special, treasured, and loved.

The writer of Proverbs tells us, “Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything.” (Proverbs 13:3 NLT). Here’s one thing I know for sure: Opening our mouth with the wrong words at the wrong time can ruin everything. It would have ruined Steven’s day…and mine.

Here’s a smidgen of what the Bible tells us about the power of holding our tongues.

There is a time for everything…”a time to be silent and a time to speak” (Ecclesiastes 3:7 NIV).

“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing”

(Proverbs 12:18 NIV).

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29 NIV).

I had success with my words that day at the amusement park, but not every day has been a banner day. I have used my words to tear down instead of build up. I have failed many times. “The tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity,” as James so aptly points out (James 3:6 nasb). It can only be tamed by the power of the Holy Spirit, prayer, and practice.

So let’s practice! The next time you get ready to say something to someone that will tear them down rather than build them up, zip it up. Then think of something positive to say to that person instead. You can do it. I know you can!

Let’s Pray

Heavenly Father, please keep guard over the door of my lips. I ask that the Holy Spirit convict me of careless words before they slip from my lips. Help me to think about how words would make me feel before I speak them to others.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

Read Psalm 141:3

David prayed that God would guard his heart and set a guard over his mouth. What does it mean to set a guard over our mouths?

What does a prison guard do?

How can we consider the role of a prison guard in relation to our words?

More from the Girlfriends

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Words are one of the most powerful forces in the universe, and God has entrusted them to you! They echo in hearts and minds long after they are spoken. How will we use this gift? Your words can change the course of someone’s day…even someone’s life. Learn how to

  • exchange careless words that hurt for intentional words that help others succeed
  • recognize words that tear down confidence and replace them with words that build others up
  • overcome the negativity that pushes people away and become a well of positivity that draws others in
  • tame your tongue by practicing practical principles that help you think before you speak
  • stop being disappointed in your lack of control by taking hold into the power of the Holy Spirit

2 Responses to “Zip It”

  1. carole says:

    Whoops!…..should have read this devotional first!
    Had a “Mars/Venus” discussion just now, with my hubbie….and as you would expect, two seconds later, I’m apologizing.
    “Stay at home” orders does create a situation for God to work directly with us (Me)
    Sometimes, how you say something is so critical,as to how is it perceived by the listener. “Lord, help me to “put a sock” in it, when it is needed”.
    Thank you Jesus, for truly understanding me.

  2. SAMANTHA says:

    I am needing this as i get frustrated and impatient with being home 24/7 with my kids. Its hard to keep my tongue and say only good words. I get short with my words and swear out loud when frustrated. I pray, frequently, for God to help me keep my cool and calm my words. Thank you for this.

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