Today’s Truth

I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:38-39 CSB).

Friend to Friend

God brought our daughter, Lovelle, into our lives when she was twenty years old through Saving Grace, a home for girls aging out of the foster system or who would otherwise be homeless. She got married a year or so later but we did have a brief window of time when she lived in our house.

One night Lovelle got in late and I heard a loud crash come from the kitchen. Concerned, I got up to check on her and found my beautiful daughter on her knees, frozen in fear, pieces of ice from the belligerent machine on the front of the refrigerator scattered all around her. Lovelle, after going from place to place, felt sure we were going to kick her out because she had bothered us.

I hugged her tight and told her no, of course not, I’d only gotten up to make sure she was okay. When I went back to bed I lay in the dark for a long time asking a single question, “How can I convince her that she’s really, truly loved?”

I thought then of God asking the same question and all the ways He’s answered it. He spoke the world into being. He wakes us with a sunrise every morning and scatters the stars into place as we go to sleep every night. He sent His Son to die on a cross for us.

Yet I’m often like Lovelle, living in fear that one wrong move will make God change His mind about me. I need the words of Paul, “I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39).

Years later Lovelle stood in our kitchen again. We’d just finished family dinner and she held a big glass pan in her hands. It slipped and shattered like a thousand diamonds being thrown across the room. It seemed time stood still as I waited to see what she would do. She hesitated, looking at me for just a second, then threw back her head and laughed. That laugh sounded like church bells, a symphony, a here-and-now miracle.

“Finally!” I thought, relieved and giddy. I didn’t care that she broke a pan. She could break a million of them and I’d help her clean up every one. What broke my heart before was that she couldn’t let herself trust the love and grace freely being offered to her.

When I blow it, when it seems I’m surrounded by my failures, when fear tries to tell me I’m not worthy, I think of that moment with Lovelle and how much joy it brought me. As we celebrate love this month I find myself thinking of it as well. It has taken me a long time too but I’m coming to understand what our Heavenly Father wants most from us isn’t to be perfect. It’s to believe we’re really, truly loved.

Let’s Pray

Dear God, thank You for loving me no matter what. Sometimes at Christmas we say “Love came down.” That’s true, and it’s a gift greater than we can comprehend, but I’m so grateful that You love me every day of the year. Today I choose to trust that there’s nothing I could do to lose Your love.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn  

What is one way you’ve seen the love of God in your life this month? Thank Him for that gift today, and then spend a moment asking Him to empower you to show that love to others as you go about your day.

More from the Girlfriends

Holley Gerth is a bestselling author, encourager and life coach who loves empowering women to embrace who they are and become all God created them to be. In her book You’re Loved No Matter What, Holley shares how God wants to set our hearts free by revealing the lies we believe and reminding us of the truth: His love has no limits, His love has no expectations, His love has no requirements, and His love is not dependent on us.

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7 Responses to “You Really Are Loved, No Matter What”

  1. Christine says:

    I have been blessed over so many years by the writings of girl friends. Today’s reading made me cry as it brought back so many memories of my childhood when we used to visit my grandma and auntie every Sunday. I still vividly remember getting off the tram to walk half hour to our home and I’d always ask my mum ‘was I a good girl today mummy?’ With the knot of fear in my 5 year old tummy. If it was yes oh my a sigh of relief but if no I’d feel absolutely sick knowing what was called in Scotland, a leathering before bed. My mother was not intentionally cruel but she used wet cloth or strap to punish me. It was part of life back in the 1950s. Nothing was talked about it would be a smacking or leathering. I gave my life to our Lord when I was 8years old and couldn’t wait to tell her. … response. Roll on the years when my mum was 85 years of age I had the honour and privilege to lead her to our Lord. My dad was a gentle man who as a young man had given his life to The Lord snd he very rarely contradicted my mother. She ruled the roost but was a very nice lady Thank you again and again for your beautiful writings. May our Lord richly bless you all. Christine

  2. Jean says:

    Thank you Holley I needed to hear what you wrote today.
    “What our heavenly father wants most from us isn’t to be perfect. It’s to believe we’re really truly loved.”

    My girlfriend and I were talking a few days ago and this came to my thoughts. God’s words written for us are everlasting never ending truth we can truly have faith in and learn from every day. And gives us reassurance of his love for us.

    Dear heavenly father I pray and ask you to please take away any doubt we may have in our hearts that you love and care for us.
    In Jesus name Amen

  3. Kellie says:

    Thank you so much Holley for the beautiful encouraging story about Lovelle. I am so happy to hear she has you in her life. I know we all can be so hard on ourselves. The devil is trying to put all kinds of negativity in our head. Our Father on the other hand, only wants the best for us, he loves us as we are. He wants us to grow closer to him, trust him with all our heart and love him. I am truly thankful I am never alone, God is always with me. Dear God, may you continue to work in our hearts. Please also use us to be a blessing to others. Amen!

  4. Dennia says:

    II have found that when I feel that a barrier exists between me and heaven; when, frankly, I’m a little scared to talk to my Father, or when I simply don’t want to, that there is a Key. Yes, this key is simply stopping to think, realizing the truth: Abba does love me and it’s a love deeper than I can fathom. And no matter what I do or fail to do; no matter how I feel, his vast love for me does not change one tiny bit. He is worthy of my loving him back. He is worthy of praise.

  5. Joan says:

    I realized how much God loves us when I was telling my dying daughter how much I loved her even after all the hurt she has caused me during her years and years of alcoholism before breast cancer invaded and took over her body. As Iwas telling her how much I loved her crying and kissing and stroking her bald head and frail face, I heard God say to me “and now you can understand my love for my children.
    It was truly an amazing and wonderful revelation for me.

  6. Tiffany says:

    Holley, thank you for taking the time to write this. The line that stood out to me the most was: “…what our Heavenly Father wants most from us isn’t to be perfect. It’s to believe we’re really, truly loved.”

  7. Madame Tjoe says:

    With the wind blowing through my hair in the Arizona heat on my bike as I don’t have a vehicle yet, I am taking this all in!

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