Today’s Truth

I praise You because You made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What You have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together there, You saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in Your book before I was one day old.

Psalm 139:14-16

Friend to Friend

I can still remember the terror I felt each time my elementary teacher announced, “Today, we will play softball at recess.” My stomach clenched in dread as I contemplated the tortuous hour stretching out before me.

I hated playing softball because I was a terrible athlete! Overweight, I huffed and puffed around the bases … if I ever got lucky enough to hit the elusive softball. I had no idea how to wear a softball glove, so the thought of actually trying to catch the ball was terrifying. I was always assigned to the outfield where few balls came and where I had the least chance of doing any damage.

The most horrible part of the whole experience was the dreaded team selection process. It was always the same. First, two captains were chosen, usually Sarah and Tim because they were slender, attractive and popular – everything I was not. Sarah and Tim would step to the pitcher’s mound and begin the process of choosing their teams. I can still remember trying to look as if I didn’t care that everyone around me was defecting to the other side while I waited, praying that I would hear my name called by somebody … anybody. I was usually one of three or four children left standing, staring at the preferred ones already taking their positions on the field. Sarah usually took pity on me and picked me before Jeff and Alicia. At least I wasn’t the last one chosen.

We tend to find our identity and worth in the fact that we are chosen by someone. Over the years, I have spent a lot of life energy and costly time in an ongoing attempt to validate my identity. Much of the pain, frustration and stress I experienced could have been avoided by simply remembering whose I am – a chosen child, a daughter of the King, and an indispensable part of God’s heart. That’s right! I am indispensable to no one but God. No one can take my place in my Father’s heart.

The knowledge that I am chosen frees me to serve Him whole-heartedly and boldly without bowing to the unrealistic expectations imposed by others. The knowledge that He created me allows me to embrace the gifts He has given me and encourages me to strain every choice, every decision through the filter of God’s perfect plan for my life. Knowing whose I am draws my attention away from both the critics and the cheerleaders in life, and fixes my gaze on the only one I have to please … God.

God is an up-close and personal God.

He met Nicodemus at night.

He met the woman at the well of Samaria.

He met the crippled man at the pool of Bethesda.

He touched the blind man, giving him sight.

As He walked through Jericho, Jesus saw a little man perched in a tree and called to him, “Zacchaeus, come down. We have a lunch appointment.”

He met Matthew at the customs’ table and told him, “Rise, and follow me.”

We come to Jesus alone. There are no “group rates” when it comes to knowing God. It’s always one-on-one and very personal. What you believe about Him in the silence and stillness of your own heart is what makes the difference in your life journey. The heart is where all spiritual transactions are made and the transformation process begins.

Just think of it! God Himself supervised our formation. We were created in love – for love – with a specific and holy purpose in mind. We can rejoice with the Psalmist who wrote, “Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to Him; we are His people, the sheep He tends” (Psalm 100:3 NCV).

Knowing whose we are settles our souls and directs our steps toward the path God intended when He shaped us. You and I were created as a living, fleshed out depiction of God’s love.

Let’s Pray

Father, I want to know You and find Your plan for my life. I choose to see myself through Your eyes of love, forgiveness and grace. I want to be the woman You created me to be. Thank You for loving me. Help me to walk each day in the knowledge that I am Your child.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

Read and memorize Isaiah 43:4 and make it one of your life verses. “You are precious and honored in my sight, and I love you.”

More from the Girlfriends

I have spent many years trying to earn the love of God. I worked very hard at being the person I thought God wanted me to be instead of seeking Him to discover who He created me to be. I finally realized that God really does have a plan just for me and that my highest act of obedience is to seek that plan each and every day. My book, Hope in the Midst of Depression is the story of my struggle to see myself as God sees me and in doing so, to be set free from the bondage of darkness. Check it out!

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6 Responses to “Worthy or Worthless”

  1. Jessica says:

    I can totally relate to the baseball ‘team picking’ strategy. I was picked dead last myself, and the teams would fight to not have me on their team!!

    I wish I could go back in time to show my classmates more of God’s love. I didn’t do a lot of hating, but I didn’t have any positive impact in the lives of kids who were from rough homes and ungodly upbringings.

    I know God will use the foolish things to shame the wise! No need to place a low value on what God deems valuable! As long as we can use what happened then (as you have, Mary!) to bless others now, it’s worth it!

  2. Sharrilane says:

    Yes, me too. I fought to be something, to be loved by someone. Now, I am free to be loved but more importantly to teach and give love through Christ. I shut the door of past and hug myself in order to show others thru experience. I am a student for life. Thank you for your writing. It is like looking into my mirror,yep that was me.

  3. Judy says:

    Thank you for sharing these thoughts. We experience rejection on so many ways. When we get to the foundation of our being. We know God did not make a mistake . He made each and every one of us unique. It was only when I began to see myself and others through God’s eyes was I able to believe I had purpose and value!!

  4. Vernessa says:

    Looking back at my childhood, I understand the cause of the pain that I experienced as a young teen and developing woman. My pain was caused simply because I did not know who I was through God’s eye’s. Many years were wasted as I looked hungrily for love and acceptance from anyone who I thought would give me what I lacked in myself. Ironically, I grew up in church…Southern Baptist. However, I did not discover the joy having a personal relationship with God until I was well into my 40’s. If, only I had been taught how valuable I was as child of the MOST HIGH GOD…I know I would have been put on a totally different path in life’s journey. Now, I make it my mission to inform every person…every child…every daughter (especially my own) their worthiness in God’s eye’s. How precious it is when I see HOPE birthed in the eyes of young women who think they are “no-body’s” transformed into the women that God wanted them to be. The hurts of my young womanhood are healed now. I am blessed to be given my purpose from God which is to pass on the message of God’s love, grace and redemption through HIS SON Jesus Christ. His love is for everyone…pass it along!

  5. April G says:

    Thank you so much for this. I can truly relate. Standing there waiting for your name to be called and knowing it will be the last or close to the last. I don’t miss that feeling, always feeling like I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough. Even though I had a mother that told me every day how much I was loved, wanted and I mattered to her and especially to God. I wish I would have known then what I know now. God is so truly good and looking back, I am glad I went through that because I know my worth and it made me stronger. God has truly shown me how GREAT He truly is and to Him I am truly thankful. Be Blessed.

  6. Cheri says:

    It’s all in how you see Worth and have come to understand it by the one you Defines Yours, particularly. The one who loves you MOST would be the best to show you your worth.

    On the opposite side of worth which is Worthless – A bad penny comes up!

    A “bad penny” is a person whose presence is unwelcome on any occasion, but whom fate perversely employs to torment you by making said person appear (“turn up”) repeatedly, often at the worst possible times. The ne’er-do-well nephew who appears only at family weddings, funerals and holiday dinners, never invited but always mysteriously materializing at your elbow and asking for a loan, is the classic “bad penny.” cute eh? Food for thought.

    How Happy we are as God’s Children to feel always wanted and welcome by God who generously supplies us with Friends, Lovers, and Family that we ourselves take pleasure in seeing around us! Amen!

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