Today’s Truth

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Philippians 4:8

Friend to Friend

Do you ever have a hard time seeing the bright side of things?

I do. After pulling all of our luggage, pillows and boxes from the car, I plopped on the couch in my brand new home, in a brand new city.

It’s not safe enough here, in this neighborhood. They are doing construction right next to us. There are no families around. 

The anxious thoughts were eating my moment of joy.

The previous night didn’t help. Our train ride to the new home was horrendous. We slept in the passenger car. My three-year old daughter pleaded in 30-minute increments for a tissue for her nose. The door rattled. The train leaned in, then out, as it went down the track. I slept for half an hour.

It’s easy for me to see what’s wrong instead of what’s right. Things that stress me instead of what God has put there to bless me. Everything annoying, disturbing and wrong instead of the things that are right.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8)

What about you? What does your mind go to? What do you reflect on?

You know, that morning after our horrendous night on the train, I saw a woman I’d met earlier. After smiling, I asked her, “How was your night’s sleep?”

Her answer? “Good, I got some naps in.”

She chose to speak what was good rather than sinking into what was bad. She still smiled, her eyes looked happy and her face seemed ready for the day.

Later, I passed by my cabin neighbor. She recounted the night by saying, “Last night, I was awake. So all I did was stare at the beauty of the wide-open skies. You should have seen the stars. They were magnificent.”

Again, this woman chose to find the find the good in the bad.

What is the good in your bad?

God has left it for us, if we choose to see it. We can see Provider God over our anxiety. We can see hope rise above uncertainty. We can see little lights shine out from our vast darkness. We can give thanks for spurts of goodness when everything else is blah.

We can always:

  1. Praise God’s character.
  2. Give thanks for eternity.
  3. Remember the good times.
  4. Dwell on God’s promise that He’ll always be with us.
  5. Decide to truly believe God is our Provider.

When Jesus came into this dark world, He brought goodness. And even better, He left it. Our job is to search it out, to draw it near, and to return to thinking about it, even when we’re prone to forget. This keeps our head up and our hope strong.

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, things often go wrong in my life. They often don’t turn out the way I plan. Yet, one thing is true – You. Help me to rely on You, to trust You and to see You in all things. Help me to know my strength in Christ Jesus. Help me to lean on Your promises in my time of need. May I know the depths of Your love.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

Think of your greatest annoyances and complaints. Rather than thinking of what you detest, count up what is true, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent or praiseworthy and think about them. Make a list.

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21 Responses to “When Your Whole Life Stinks”

  1. Mina Carlson says:

    Thank you Kelly, for this beautiful reminder we so often forget. The good in everything. 😊❤️

  2. Tommie says:

    Thank you for this post…I recall a time in my life when I was able to see the good, the beauty and the positive instead of the bad, annoying and disturbing. I’m not sure when my perspective changed, but it has and I am daunted by it. It’s like I am suffocating in the negative and can’t stay focused on those twinkling lights of goodness for long enough to make a shift in my mindset. Please pray for me.

    • God, I pray that Tommie is surrounded by your love in a powerful and meaningful way. I ask that Tommie’s eyes can remain on you and dwell on you continually. Pour out your grace. In Jesus’ Name, we pray. Amen.

  3. Jackie Diamond says:

    Thank you Kelly for your devotion. There is always good to be found! Philippians 4:8 is my scripture for 2017💜

  4. It is a good reminder to give thanks in all things as hard as that may be.

  5. It is a good reminder to give thanks in all things as hard as that may be.

  6. Kathy M says:

    Second reminder in two days. Guess I had better listen. Thank you for your practical advice to keep my focus on the positive things. God is good – all the time.

  7. Kristan T says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this devotional. One of my favorite hymns come to mind. Only trust Him, only trust Him now.

  8. ST says:

    Stirred in my heart to get up and read a devotional this evening instead of inducing my own panic attack over all that seems to be going wrong in my life and enduring another sleepless worried filled night – my heart overflowing now with a calm and peace just knowing God provided exactly what I needed through this message yet again, so grateful, so truly filled with gratitude 🙂

  9. Tamie says:

    Praise God; I don’t think my life stinks but there are some stinking things that happens in life but this truth remains God is faithful and his promises are true. I am grateful for the reminder to look for the truth of God in what ever I am going through although it may be hard uncomfortable or just stinks If I change my focus I can see God’s goodness in it.

  10. abby says:

    t y for this

  11. Ribin says:

    Going through my mother’s death, a cancer diagnosis, surgery, chemo/radiation, and my husband of 22 years leaving all within a year time there were many days that I had to willfully make myself “count it all joy”. It was the only way I got out of bed some days. Joy is a decision.

  12. Lana says:

    Thank you so much for this devotion, and thank you Jesus for providing the perfect timing in allowing me to read and ponder it. I have allowed myself to fall into the bitter habit of negativity and have failed to see the positive in all things. It has even reached a point in a relationship of mine that I am afraid I’ve caused too much of a rift to make it sweet again. Please pray for me that I will turn my sorrow into joy and see the good in all things…thank you again!

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