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Today’s Truth

“You are precious and honored in my sight…”

Isaiah 43:4

Friend to Friend

Years ago, I bought my daughter a really cute jacket at the mall. It was a hoodie made of a cuddly fabric with cream, lavender, and mint green horizontal stripes. The jacket zipped up in the front and was well crafted, stylish, and simply adorable.

When I bought it, I felt like the price on the tag was a fair one, so I gladly pulled out my wallet and paid the retail amount. I was a kid in a candy store on the way home – fully anticipating a shriek of happiness from my little bag-of-beans when I gave it to her.

I wasn’t disappointed. Kennedy loved her new coat, and I was pleased with my purchase. Happy dances all around… until a week later, when I saw the same jacket in the same store at a greatly reduced price.

Are you tensing up with me?

Suddenly, I felt schnookered! As soon as I saw the red line on the price tag of the unsold coats, everything changed in my mind – Kennedy’s jacket wasn’t worth what I paid for it.

When we speak of the worth of something, we often consider it to be a relative term. One that has shifting factors. For example, the jacket I bought was thirty-nine dollars, and a week later it was nineteen ninety-nine. The jacket didn’t change, but its’ perceived worth did.

Now, consider the worth of a woman. Are the factors that determine her value based upon variable and shifting factors or are they based upon fixed factors? Seems to be a silly question, doesn’t it? Fixed, of course! But, if the answer is so glaringly obvious, why do we struggle so much as women with feelings of worthlessness? Why do we walk around feeling like that red lined jacket? I think it’s because we often allow variable earthly factors to define our worth.

There are so many reasons why women feel worthless:

Because they’ve been abused (raped, molested, physically abused, verbally abused…)

Because they’ve been told that they’re worthless (by a parent, spouse, sibling, teenage child, or another…)

Because of choices they’ve made or that have been made for them (divorce, infidelity, abortion, promiscuity, eating disorders, addictions, uncontrolled anger…)

Because they’ve been cheated on (infidelity, internet affair, pornography…)

Because they’re co-dependent (conclude their value based upon other people – “If my husband isn’t okay, I’m not okay.”)

Because they don’t collect a paycheck (stay at home moms that have left the work force, laid off employees, displaced employees, those on disability…)

Because they’ve battled an illness (unable to care for family, perform basic home duties, participate in ministry or Bible study like they once did, can’t drive, cook…)Unfortunately, the variable factors that we use to define our worth are endless. Many of us feel worthless. Why? We’ve felt ignored, invisible, insignificant, useless, undesired, ugly, unloved, or forgotten. We girls are emotional; broken in many ways. Great portions of our identity and of our personal value are wrapped into combustible packages of emotion – how we feel about this or that. The truth is, our worth has nothing to do with our feelings.

Trust me, I’m not going to try to convince you that I know everything there is to know about feeling like a woman of worth or about being a woman of worth. In fact, the more I know God, the less inclined I am to pretend to have life or faith figured out. I’m constantly tempted to define my worth with activities, emotions, and accomplishments. I’ve come to realize, however, that way of thinking is a spiritual dead end road. Scripture tells us that anything we do in our own strength or of our own goodness is of no value to God. “All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags” (Isaiah 64:6a).

What I DO know is this: because of Jesus Christ, I’m a woman of highest worth. Not because of anything else. We are His daughters, made in His image, precious in His sight. In light of this, we need to set aside feelings that diminish our value, and embrace our proper identity: Child of the King of Kings.

Hear this, friend: feelings of worthlessness are from Satan himself. It burns me up that the enemy has such a strong grip on God’s daughters in this area. We need to associate the word worthless with the word lie. {Tweet this!} That’s exactly what it is, a big, fat lie!

God wants every one of us to experience hope and healing in Christ and have an appropriate sense of self-worth.

So let’s go back to Kennedy’s new coat for just a moment. Imagine walking into God’s department store. There on the rack, you spy a coat that is just plain fabulous – I mean stop-you-in-your-tracks fabulous! One-size fits all, the tag reads. Yeah, right, you whisper under your breath. Then you flip over the price tag and it’s crazy expensive – way beyond what you could ever dream of paying. Like, if you added up every dollar that ever passed through your hands – then multiplied that by ten thousand – that kind of expensive. Then imagine the store owner walking over to you, slipping the coat off the rack and onto your shoulders.

“It’s a perfect fit,” He smiles.

“Sir,” you manage with a whisper, “I could never afford such a coat. This is meant for royalty and I’m, well, just an ordinary girl.”

“Oh precious woman, this coat is made especially for you, and the price has already been paid in full.”

As the owner straightens the sleeves on your arms and adjusts the collar around your neck, you notice his hands – nail pierced hands. And suddenly you realize that this is the covering you were meant to wear all along.

You are precious and highly valuable in the eyes of the One who sees. And you never, never, never have to worry about being on anyone’s bargain rack again.

Let’s Pray

Holy Father, I’m humbled to be viewed as precious in Your eyes. Thank You for taking on my sin so that I could take on your righteousness. Please help me to see myself as You see me. Help me to thrive in Your beauty as a woman of worth!

In Jesus’s Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

What came to your mind as you read today’s devotion? Are you held captive by feelings of worthlessness? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to reveal truth to your heart about how He sees you.

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10 Responses to “Who Defines Your Worth?”

  1. Merran says:

    This made me cry… It’s as if God was speaking directly to me. Exactly what i needed to hear.

    Thank you and God bless…

  2. Stephanie says:

    Thank you for this! I have struggled with this most of my life. Now that I’m older and more secure in my worth in God and not the world, this same message is the one I dream to reach younger women with. If our younger generation of women can grow up with their worth in God, they can avoid so many of the pitfalls that bring heartbreak and add to a decrease in self worth.
    God bless you and your ministry!

    Stephanie Trejo

  3. No matter how many times I read these devotions over and over daily, I continue to feel unforgivable. I suffer health issues and constant oppression from my past. Unforgivable.
    I pray constantly, my days are filled with continual prayer for forgiveness and that God would remove my regrettable past far from me yet it continues to be a constant thought away.

  4. Teikisha says:

    Thank you Gwen for such a wonderfully written and sculpted devotional! I really need this one. I pray that we all know and fully embrace our God-given worth. We were bought with a price!

  5. Jehrica says:

    🎚 So grateful for His sacrifice on the cross that gives us our worth! Jesus paid the ultimate price for us-WOW! Let us never cease to be amazed! Praise Jesus 🙌
    Dear Lord, please help us to not focus on our feelings of worth but to meditate on Your Word which tells us our true worth is found in You alone! Don’t let us give in to the lies of the enemy- we pray! Amen 🙏🏻
    Jesus said it perfectly~as always,
    ““Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.””
    ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭10:31‬ (‭NKJV‬‬)

  6. Kathy M says:

    Thank you for this great Truth! I am always struggling with my worth because of many of the factors you describe. I am learning to realize that I am worthy because of Jesus! I am sharing this on my Facebook because there are so many of my girlfriends who need to know they are precious in His sight.

  7. NENA says:

    I would like to receive your daily devotionals. When can you start sending them? Thank you.

  8. julie says:

    ty for this! I agree karen c.! I am right there with ya! I too am struggling with a few of these (illness well few illnesses/disabled cant work/cant drive/cant have kids but are foster/foster to adopt parents (but for whatever reason we aren’t placed right now)….and just feel also forgotten because no family/friends comes to visit b c either to far (hour to hour half away) or they too have illnesses or they have families of their own or they work. just tired of the excuses. im sorry not like everyone else (I am basically introvert) just feel like a bother to people so its like why bother. the unforgiveness I have gotten a lot better at. just need to keep telling myself atleast once a day that I am worthy I am well we all are on here daughters of the one true king. ty again gwen for doing these

  9. Amy says:

    Your coat example brought tears to my eyes. Even though I’m not struggling with something it’s wonderful to know he cares that there is always prayer and grace not hope. I shared this with a friend. We can all use this. ❤️

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