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Today’s Truth

You are precious and honored in my sight.

(Isaiah 43:4a, NIV)

Friend to Friend

Years ago, I bought my daughter a really cute jacket at the mall. It was a hoodie made of a cuddly fabric with cream, lavender, and mint green horizontal stripes. The jacket zipped up in the front and was well crafted, stylish, and simply adorable.

When I bought it, I felt like the price on the tag was a fair one, so I gladly pulled out my wallet and paid the retail amount. I was a kid in a candy store on the way home – fully anticipating a shriek of happiness from my little bag-of-beans when I gave it to her.

I wasn’t disappointed. Kennedy loved her new coat, and I was pleased with my purchase. Happy dances all around… until a week later, when I saw the same jacket in the same store at a greatly reduced price.

Are you tensing up with me?

I felt schnookered! As soon as I saw the red line on the price tag of the unsold coats, everything changed in my mind – Kennedy’s jacket wasn’t worth what I paid for it.

When we speak of the worth of something, we often consider it to be a relative term. One that has shifting factors. For example, the jacket I bought was thirty-nine dollars, and a week later it was nineteen ninety-nine. The jacket didn’t change, but its’ perceived worth did.

Now, consider the worth of a woman.

Are the factors that determine her value based upon variable and shifting factors or are they based upon fixed factors?

Seems to be a silly question, doesn’t it?

Fixed, of course!

But, if the answer is so glaringly obvious, why do we struggle so much as women with feelings of worthlessness? Why do we walk around feeling like that red lined jacket? I think it’s because we often allow variable earthly factors to define our worth.

There are so many reasons why women feel worthless:

Because they’ve been abused (raped, molested, physically abused, verbally abused…)

Because they’ve been told that they’re worthless (by a parent, spouse, sibling, teenage child, or another…)

Because of choices they’ve made or that have been made for them (divorce, infidelity, abortion, promiscuity, eating disorders, addictions, uncontrolled anger…)

Because they’ve been cheated on (infidelity, internet affair, pornography…)

Because they’re co-dependent (conclude their value based upon other people – “If my husband isn’t okay, I’m not okay.”)

Because they don’t collect a paycheck (stay at home moms that have left the work force, laid off employees, displaced employees, those on disability…)

Because they’ve battled an illness (unable to care for family, perform basic home duties, participate in ministry or Bible study like they once did, can’t drive, cook…)Unfortunately, the variable factors that we use to define our worth are endless. Many of us feel worthless. Why? We’ve felt ignored, invisible, insignificant, useless, undesired, ugly, unloved, or forgotten.

We girls are emotional; broken in many ways. Great portions of our identity and of our personal value are wrapped into combustible packages of emotion – how we feel about this or that. The truth is, our worth has nothing to do with our feelings.

Trust me, I’m not going to try to convince you that I know everything there is to know about feeling like a woman of worth or about being a woman of worth. In fact, the more I know God, the less inclined I am to pretend to have life or faith figured out. I’m constantly tempted to define my worth with activities, emotions, and accomplishments.

I’ve come to realize, however, that way of thinking is a spiritual dead-end road.

Scripture tells us that anything we do in our own strength or of our own goodness is of no value to God. “All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags” (Isaiah 64:6a).

What I DO know is this: because of Jesus, I’m a woman of highest worth. Not because of anything else.

We are God’s daughters, made in His image, precious in His sight.

In light of this, we need to set aside feelings that diminish our value and embrace our proper identity: Child of the King of Kings.

Hear this, friend: feelings of worthlessness are from Satan himself. It burns me up that the enemy has such a strong grip on God’s daughters in this area. We need to associate the word worthless with the word lie. {Tweet this!} That’s exactly what it is, a big, fat lie!

God wants every one of us to experience hope and healing in Christ and have an appropriate sense of self-worth.

So let’s go back to Kennedy’s new coat for just a moment. Imagine walking into God’s department store. There on the rack, you spy a coat that is just plain fabulous – I mean stop-you-in-your-tracks fabulous! One-size fits all, the tag reads.

Yeah, right, you whisper under your breath.

Then you flip over the price tag and it’s crazy expensive – way beyond what you could ever dream of paying. Like, if you added up every dollar that ever passed through your hands – then multiplied that by ten thousand – that kind of expensive. Then imagine the storeowner walking over to you, slipping the coat off the rack and onto your shoulders.

“It’s a perfect fit,” He smiles.

“Sir,” you manage with a whisper, “I could never afford such a coat. This is meant for royalty and I’m, well, just an ordinary girl.”

“Oh precious woman, this coat is made especially for you, and the price has already been paid in full.”

As the owner straightens the sleeves on your arms and adjusts the collar around your neck, you notice his hands – nail pierced hands. And suddenly you realize that this is the covering you were meant to wear all along.

You are precious and highly valuable in the eyes of the One who sees. And you never, never, never have to worry about being on anyone’s bargain rack again.

Let’s Pray

Holy Father, I’m humbled to be viewed as precious in Your eyes. Thank You for taking on my sin so that I could take on your righteousness. Please help me to see myself as You see me. Help me to thrive in Your beauty as a woman of worth!

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

What came to your mind as you read today’s devotion? Are you held captive by feelings of worthlessness? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to reveal truth to your heart about how He sees you.

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7 Responses to “Who Defines Your Worth?”

  1. Lisa says:

    I absolutely love today’s word. We as women need to encourage each other. We face so much. But to know with Christ we are never alone and that we are truly loved …… is an awesome feeling.

    I’m a woman of highest worth. Not because of anything else. I’m God’s daughters, made in His image, precious in His sight. I’m a Child of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. In Jesus’ Name AMEN.

    Thank you!

  2. HMSUZY says:

    Good morning,today’s written word is pure,raw,profound truth that moved me to tears. I felt your emotions. You have written the tale that most women keep hidden in their soul and never say out loud. Thank you for a on time message, may you continue to be used as God’s on time vessel.

    Everytime you write, it’s for a reason. Never discard any messages, just store them until God guides you with the finishing pieces that elevates them to reach others. Thank you for touching me ever so deeply.

  3. Sarah says:

    What a beautiful message! I pray that my children and students always know their worth in God’s eyes. Thank you!

  4. Pam says:

    My morning devotion has come from Girlfriends in God for a long time. I read it every morning from my desk at work. This one surpasses them all. Wow!!! What an understated under-lived truth. Fixed worth. Amazing message!!!

  5. Erin says:

    Oh my goodness! I subscribed to the girlfriends in God devotional when a new friend from my Bible study table, Pam told me about it. Am so thankful and grateful for this ministry and the devotions y’all put out. So many, especially recently have just met me right where I am and spoken to right what I needed. Y’all are mighty tools in the hand of God! Today’s “truth” was once again so timely when I was feeling g myself inch toward the lie of unworthiness- a lie that I had fought my entire life- so many of the reasons you listed apply to me. I had just got finished telling my husband that I am where I am and doing what a m doing because God has called me to do it so I’m not going to have a pity party party (I was legit having this conversation out loud to make Satan and his lies stop like a crazy person -luckily my husband understands this about me now!) and then I read your devotional from today (which I usually read in the morning). But God knew I would need it when I needed it and it just spoke so much life into me. It spoke the truth into my very soul! So thank you for your obedience and your commitment to put these out!

  6. Amy says:

    Thank you so much for this message.

    I literally googled “devotional and self work” this morning and your page popped up!, with this exact message.

    I’ve been doing so much work lately on my value, especially as it pertains to abuse, trauma and eating disorders/addictions. Sometimes I feel like all I read and focus on is ‘heavy’. To find this message this morning is a definite wink from God!

    Thank you!

  7. Dalila says:

    The devotion was timely. I appreciate the reminder and encouragement of Gods words says. We are so worthy and the enemy knows it.
    The devil spends so much time getting us to accepts his LIES.
    God says we are heirs and his righteous through Jesus Christ.
    It reminds me to to be meditating on this Truth, so I can be a light and a support for my son and daughter on this topic of personal worth.

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