Today’s Truth

“Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me”

Psalm 51:10 NIV

Friend to Friend

I just got my braces off…again.

I have had braces on my upper teeth three times. Count them. One. Two. Three.

As the orthodontist explained, “Teeth have a memory. They always want to go back to the way they were.”

As soon as he said those words, I felt convicted. I have a tendency to go back to the way I was.

We all do.

Karen (not her real name) admitted to single handedly destroying her marriage with passive aggressive coldness, destructive words, and disrespect of the worst kind. After her husband walked away from the marriage, she had a Holy Spirit moment and realized what she had done. Karen’s heart softened and she vowed never be that woman again.

She immersed herself in Bible study and began to pray for her ex-husband even though the marriage was over. Karen took on the beautiful holy glow of a woman who knew she was totally forgiven and completely loved by God. Miraculously, her ex-husband saw the change, and the marriage was restored!

However, after a few years, the destructive behavior began to creep back in.

A word here.

A cold shoulder there.

A retreating into self for weeks at a time.

Ten years after the miraculous restoration, the marriage crashed and burned.

“Teeth have a memory. They always want to go back to the way they were.”

Jesus saw this tendency to fall into old ways when He cleaned out the temple. In the beginning of his ministry, after his first miracle of turning the water into wine at the wedding of Cana, He traveled to Jerusalem to celebrate the Passover.

“In the temple courts he found men selling cattle, sheep and doves and others sitting at tables exchanging money. So he made a whip out of cords and drove all from the temple area, both sheep and cattle, he scattered the coins of the moneychangers and overturned their tables. To those who sold doves he said, ‘Get these out of here! How dare you turn my Father’s house into a market.’” (John 2:14-16 NIV)

Three years later, during his last week of life on earth, Jesus came upon the unholy mess again.

“Jesus entered the temple area and drove out all who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the moneychangers and the benches of those selling doves. ‘It is written,’ he said to them, ‘My house will be called a house of prayer, but you are making it a den of robbers’” (Matthew 21:12-13 NIV).

How did the corruption happen the second time? I don’t think it happened all at once. After Jesus cleared out the temple initially, I suspect it stayed that way for a time. But one day, a moneychanger set up his table. Then another brought in a few birds, followed by a couple of sheep, and then here came a cow.

The next thing you know, the temple wasn’t any different than it was before Jesus cleared it out and cleaned it up three years earlier. In three years it had reverted back to an unholy mess.

And God whispers in my ear: “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own” (1 Corinthians 6:19 NIV).

Sometimes I am that messy temple.

Swept-clean sinful behavior, ungodly thoughts, and jump-off-the-cliff emotions are itching to creep back in at all times. It is up to me (and to you) to keep the temple clean.

Perhaps you’ve had a Holy Spirit moment at some point in your life—a moment that caused you to make a major lifestyle change.

But for the moment to maintain momentum, we need to be constantly aware of our tendency to revert…to go back to the way we were.

I am so thankful that Jesus went back to clean out the temple a second time. It lets me know that He will graciously return to my messy self again and again with broom in hand.

I don’t know about you, but I never want to go back to the way I was. If you’re willing to take a few moments and ask God if there is something you’ve allowed to creep back in, join me in praying Psalm 51 in the prayer below.

Then leave a comment and say, “I’m doing it today!”

Let’s Pray

Be gracious to me, O God, according to Your lovingkindness; according to the greatness of Your compassion blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. For I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me. Against You, You only, I have sinned and done what is evil in Your sight, so that You are justified when You speak and blameless when You judge. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and restore a steadfast spirit within me.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

Can you think of any behaviors or habits that you have committed to change in the past, but that have crept back into your life?

If so, today’s task is simple, but not easy. Renew your commitment to clean out the temple once again. Then cooperate with the Holy Spirit to keep your resolve. Remember, God’s mercies are new every morning.

More From the Girlfriends

Nothing keeps old habits from creeping back in like prayer. One of the ways I keep my marriage strong is by praying Scripture over my husband. In Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe, I map out sixteen landmarks to help you consistently and effectively cover your husband in powerful prayer. From his mind and the thoughts he thinks, to his feet and the path he takes. This resource will change your marriage and your man…and even you.

And now I’ve expanded my website to include The Praying Wives Club ™. Click on over and join a community of Prayer Warriors interceding for their marriages and their men!

24 Responses to “When You Don’t Want to Go Back to the Way You Were”

  1. Carolyn says:

    I’m doing it today!

  2. Bernadette says:

    I am doing it today and every day.

  3. Angela says:

    I am starting today! I never want to go back to the way I was!

  4. Shannon says:

    I am doing it today!!!

  5. Shelly Burns says:

    I’m doing it today!!

  6. Ashley says:

    I’m doing it today!

  7. Jill says:

    I am doing it today!

  8. heidi gardner says:

    I’m doing it today!

  9. J.B says:

    I am doing it today!

  10. Jannan says:


  11. Teleda says:

    I’m doing it today!

  12. Randi says:

    IM DOING IT TODAY! Thank you Jesus!

  13. Patty says:

    I’m doing it today, by Grace and Your power. Thank You for convicting me! You know I can’t do anything without You.

  14. Terri says:

    I AM DOING IT TODAY!! Amen!!🙌

  15. Carol says:

    Dear Sharon, i have been praying this Scripture since early January of this year. God is so very Goof to me.

    Thank you for expounding on this meaningful plea.


  16. Melissa says:

    I’m doing it today!

  17. Kathye says:

    I’m doing it today!

    Thank you so much for this devotion. Just what I needed on so many levels.

  18. Areum says:

    I’m doing it today!

  19. Amy says:

    My weight/health… I see the see the consequences of unhealthiness in my family and all around me but I’m still so stubborn. I try and fail, over and over again. I even pray for forgiveness and ask for help. Ugh 🤦

  20. Kris says:

    I’m doing it today in Jesus name! Amen

  21. Lynn Burrell says:

    I’m doing it today!

  22. Jamie l Harrison says:

    I’m doing it today!!!!

  23. Vicki says:

    I am doing it today!

  24. Margarita says:

    I am doing it today!!! What a powerful message, it touched my heart, thanks for sharing it.

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