Today’s Truth

For I have come down from heaven not to do my will but to do the will of Him who sent me.

John 6:38

Friend to Friend

I care a lot about what others think. If you commented that you didn’t like this devotional, I admit my feelings would probably be hurt. If I invited you to a party and you didn’t respond, I’d wonder what I did to offend you. If I was excited to see you at church, and you turned the other way to meet another friend first, I’d feel let down. If I had plans to do great things with God, but you questioned the details, I’d consider a new direction. I’d look away from God.

Ever noticed? With our eyes on everyone else’s intentions, opinions and afflictions, it becomes hard to look up to God. Looking upwards when your head is cast downward in defeat is never easy. Even worse, with our eyes to the floor, the glory of God passes overhead, unobserved.

Yet, I don’t want to miss out on God. I want to be intimate with Jesus. Don’t you?

With this in mind, I wonder, what the secret is to letting go of man so I can grab hold of God?

I’ve discovered, I must remember these three things:

  1. Jesus didn’t come to do His own business, or even man’s business. Jesus came to do the Father’s business. This is vitally important. God’s will isn’t for us to be the rescuer of man’s every emotion or the fixer of every problem. His will may be that we let people do as they do so we can wait on God and observe what He is about to do.”For I have come down from heaven not to do my will but to do the will of him who sent me” (John 6:38, NIV).
  2. Jesus didn’t let man’s opinion disqualify Him. While Jesus certainly could have been thrown off by the continuous trial-like questioning of the Pharisees, He chose to keep His eyes on the Father’s plan and to keep walking. Jesus didn’t give up His calling because of other people’s questions.
  3. Today’s rejection is tomorrow’s renewal.
    Ask yourself, “Why? Why do I feel so hurt right now? What am I looking to get from man that God already gives me in full?”

When we do these three things, the God who is Faithful reminds us that He is faithful. We remember how He never fails to be an ever-present help in a time of trouble.

Then, we relate and minister to others from a heart of fullness rather than neediness.

Lets Pray

Father God, You love relationship. You love to see Your children connect with a heart of love. Help us to come to You more, so that we can come to others with a heart full of You. We need You. Thank You that you teach us through our pain. You are faithful.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now Its Your Turn

Consider a problem in your life that is distracting you from God. Examine it in relation to the three points above. How does it change the view of what you are confronting?

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Kelly Balarie, blogger at Purposeful Faith and author of “Fear Fighting: Awakening the Courage to Overcome Your Fears” is passionate about joining hands with women who often find themselves stuck in the pits of life. Step-by-step, word-by-word, her dream is that together they can emerge better – fear, fret and panic-free. Get all of Kelly’s Purposeful Faith blog posts by email for a dose of inspiration and encouragement.

5 Responses to “What do they think of me?”

  1. Stephanie says:

    Thank you for this thoughtful devotion. As a lifelong “people pleaser” and “what will they think of me if I do/do not______,” this devotion is just what I needed to read this morning.

    God is in Control and His opinion is the One that matters. My prayer is to see the day through God’s eyes and handle each task with His work-ethic and not that of others.

    Blessings to you!

  2. Rebecca Jones says:

    Thanks for the continuing questioning comment, Jesus wasn’t thrown off nor should I be. even questioning myself.

  3. That is right, Stephanie. We can now, be still and know – God is God.

  4. That is right. We can trust God to be faithful even if we make mistakes. We can also rest in that. What peace we’ve been given!

  5. Jane Lowery says:

    Hi Kelly,
    There are a group of college friends that get together every summer for a weekend at one’s lake houses. We’ve been doing this every year for many years. I am in recovery so I usually just go for the day, before the drinking begins. This year I wasn’t invited and found out by a picture posted on Facebook. Needless to say, I was heartbroken. The hostess and owner of the lake house and I have been friends since kindergarten. She has had a bully mentality as long as I can remember, and I have been a target of that behavior on several occasions.. I have tried on many times to extend invitations to get together for lunch or something else, but over the last few years, she has has always found an excuse to decline. I even called her once to help me understand what exactly I had done to cause this “rub” between us. Her response was “there’s no problem, we’re good,”

    Can you help me decide how to respond (or not) to this obvious rejection? I considered calling her and asking (in love) why I was excluded. I’ve often heard that “rejection is often God’s protection.” I also know that as a believer, God accepts and loves me more than I could ever imagine. But even knowing that, the sting and tremendous hurt are still alive and well.

    I need help letting go of this resentment. In AA, we often use the phrase that resentment is like me drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

    Thanks Kelly. GIG has spoken to my heart more times than not.

    His by grace,


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