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Today’s Truth

“In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.”

(1 Peter 1:6-7 NIV)

Friend to Friend

My son and I sat on the floor in his room playing Rummy. We had just a few minutes before rushing off to register for his summer swim class and wanted to get in one more round of play. This summer was proving to be the best ever. Our Golden Retriever, Ginger, had just delivered seven adorable puppies, Steven was enjoying his sixth summer of life, and after four years of the heartache of negative pregnancy tests, God had surprised us with a new life growing inside my womb.

But as Steven and I sat on the floor, I felt a warm sticky sensation run down my leg. A trip to the bathroom confirmed my greatest fear.

Later that afternoon, our baby died, and is now waiting for us in heaven.

What began as a summer full of life and joy, quickly turned into a season of great loss and sadness. I mourned for that child for which I had prayed. I felt the ache of empty arms.

I once heard someone say, “I never knew I could miss someone that I had never met.” Now I understood. We never knew for sure, but in my heart, I felt that the baby had been a little girl.

During those summer months, I went through the grieving process step-by-step. I’ll admit that I was angry at God for “taunting” me with this gift of a child and then taking her away. But through the months and years that followed, God taught me many lessons about myself, about Him, and about trusting in His unfailing love.

I believe that when we go through a trial that wounds us deeply, God can use it to teach us valuable lessons. Some of those lessons are a deeper understanding of who God is, of who we are, and of what we truly believe. Our faith grows in the petri dish of struggles in the laboratory of life.

One of my most valuable lessons, through all my wounds and scars, was a decision to stop saying “why me?” and to begin saying “what now?” But the lesson that continues to reverberate like a gentle thunder is the truth of God’s unfailing love.

During the months that followed the loss of our child, I struggled with God. Just as Jacob wrestled with God through his dark night of the soul, I wrestled as well.

How could He love me and allow this to happen? Why would God withhold my dream? Is He able? Is He kind? Is He really there?

It was a dry summer…in my heart and soul. No one could help me, comfort me, or lift me out of my deep pit of sadness. And while I didn’t want to talk to God, He never left my side. Patiently, He waited for me to cry out to Him…to say, I will trust you even though I do not understand. 

It is easy to trust God when life is skipping happily along. It is a deeper faith that forms when the skipping halts to the slow crawl of despair. Honestly, I never enjoy the struggles, but I do revel in the deeper understanding of God that is forged in the fire.

As Peter wrote, “In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed” (1 Peter 1:6-7 NIV).

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, sometimes things happen in my life that I just don’t understand. But I know You hold the box top to the puzzle pieces, and You know how the pieces all fit together. I trust You, Lord. Though Your ways may twist and turn as through a maze, I know that You make no mistakes. You are good…all the time.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

What has been a time in your life when you did not understand God’s ways?

What was the final outcome of Job’s incredible trial? (Job 42:10,12)

Can you trust God as Job did when his life fell apart?

Leave a comment and share what you are trusting God with today?

More from the Girlfriends:

Sometimes life doesn’t turn out like we thought it would. But God doesn’t want us to get stuck in our sorrow. He longs to turn our pain into purpose, our hurt into hope, and our miseries into ministry. But the only way He can do that is if we are willing to give Him the broken pieces of our shattered dreams and allow Him to make a beautiful mosaic from the shards. Are you ready? Now’s the time. You can learn how to do just that in my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past.

21 Responses to “Turning “Why Me?” into “What Now?””

  1. Carolyn says:

    Hello! I’m so glad you’re here & I so appreciate your devotions & website!
    I recently watched the video clip of your reflections to emails and heard you say that you set up the devotions a month ahead of time. How amazing is our God as He orchestrates! This devotion has been speaking right to me these last few weeks, especially today. I’ve been longing for children. Just writing that sentence stops me..it’s been heart breaking. At this time last year, I found out that one of my co-workers was having a baby and deep down inside, I was crushed. Since then, Jesus really has held me, built me up, and shown me that having a child was not to be an idol in my life. Yesterday, I found out that my closest co-worker is having a baby, and I am truly happy for her. I’ve anticipated that heart-crushing feeling again, but I honestly feel God holding my heart and my emotions. In my mind, I know I could entertain selfish thoughts and negative emotions, because in moments, they’re there, but it really feels like God is holding me up from sinking into that pit of despair. I’m so sorry for your loss..I will be thinking of you and praying for you and your family. Last summer I thought for sure I was pregnant, but experienced a false pregnancy (didn’t know there was such a thing), but on a minute scale, I felt the heartbreak of a loss for what might have been. Since then I’ve been praying for women who have experienced this loss in a very real way. I always heard people say that Jesus will sustain you, Jesus is enough – when I actually experienced this, those words became truth, filled my heart, held me up, AND made my heart smile!

    Thank you for devotions and dedication..
    Carolyn

  2. Sonda says:

    I am trusting God with my kids and my not-yet-born grandbaby.

  3. Tiffany says:

    I am trusting God, that although my divorce is finalized and my child lives with me, I know that Gods word never returns void and that restoration will come. However instead of focusing on while I’ll praise God for the changes He’s already done in my life and will continue to do

  4. Rose says:

    I really appreciate the wonderful encouraging word. Am in that situation of asking ‘why me and for how long’. I really need a source of income, please join me to pray for financial breakthrough to go back to business and be able to feed my family and be a blessing to others. I feel so helpless. God bless you.

  5. Lisa says:

    I have lost my third job in 6 years, I am a single/divorced mom and I have no family support system. I am truly alone with 2 teenagers I am trying to raise with only a part time job. I just don’t understand why nor why I keep getting no’s at every job interview. I do know He never makes mistakes and I am trying, but I really am struggling with the “why”

  6. Denise says:

    Trusting God with my 2 yr old grandson Declan who we think may have autism.he is nonverbal and has sensory issues. Please keep him in prayer

  7. Kathy says:

    A time when I didn’t understand God was when my 40 year old nephew continues to have Cancer. He has had 3 surgerys.
    After the first one, the Cancer was gone. We praised the Lord. A year or so later, it returned. Why God? We continued to pray, he went through Chemo, nothing. Cancer still there. He had 2nd surgery, They got most of it but not all of it. We continue to pray and trust God. Still praying. Found a Dr. at a Cancer Treatment Center. Third surgery, got the Cancer out they went for, but discover Cancer some wher else. We are heart broken. He tried a different treatment that is not as bad as Chemo. Firs5 scam , one tumor gone….Thank you Jesus, one small victory at a time. So you know we really believing God is going to knock it out. Next scan, no change in the liver, but noe something’s on the lung. What?
    We want to give up, but we can’t. This is where this message touches my heart. Now it’s What Now.?
    This message blessed me and I am going to share it with my niece and nephew.
    Thank you, I enjoy reading Girlfriends in God.

  8. Katjy says:

    What a powerful word. I can totally relate to the whole story that was just told. My situation completely different but I believe he does take our hurts pain disappointments into beautiful Revelations of who he really is. Thank you for sharing.

  9. Jannan says:

    Lord I trust you, that my relationship with my oldest daughter will be repaired not on my timeline but yours!!

  10. Joan says:

    My entire life is falling apart right now. My kids that were supposed to be graduating from college will not be…..adding additional time and expense. Our business is grinding along despite my best efforts. We have had medical, automobile and other major expenses one after the other. I feel like I am being punished for something, but I don’t know what.

  11. Susan says:

    Thank you Sharon for this Wonderful Truth Today, which so resonates with my soul.
    Whenever I face trials, as I have recently, my heart’s cry is that God will be glorified utimately. I am so grateful God has shown His Faithfulness over and over again to me. While our trials are really tough and beyond our ability to understand, we know Who Our God is, and if we trust in Him, He is always Faithful to reveal Himself.

    Since I know in whom I have believed, I am standing on Today’s Truth, 1 Peter 1:6-7, for my Sister-in-Law, Sharon.
    She was recently diagnosed with breast and bone cancer and is awaiting body and brain scan results. Sharon and my brother are both Christians, and they have asked fellow Christians to stand and believe with them for Jesus to be revealed in Sharon’s Complete Healing. I believe He will prove His Faithfulness and be glorified once again, and I pray for you all that in your personal trials you will find that He is there and that He also uses these Trials to equip you with the ability to stand firm for others.

  12. Barb says:

    I am trusting that God will work out a vehicle for me as mine is on its last legs and I don’t want to put anymore money into it.
    Also that my daughter finds a place to live because after helping her for 3 years I just can’t take the disrespect, herlack of appreciation for me and for my sanity I need her to be on her own.
    I am trusting that God will bring people into her life and my sons to bring them back to Him.
    I am also trusting that I can go on vacation in September with my husband because we haven’t had one in 13 yrs. I need a break from my grandkids and daughter. Plus I want to see my sister and relax.

  13. Vee says:

    Thank God for your dedication in His service via your devotionals, and also for sharing your testimony. I am in the “why me” or moreso “why him” portion; my husband recently passed after a sudden illness, but the Lord had been showing/revealing things that pointed towards our future service and life together. It was a real blow and at this point, I am left trying to finance a funeral as we did not have insurance; he and I both were not for cremation (interesting that there was a link to a cremation post on your email) and also, minutes after his last breath, the Holy Spirit discounted cremation to me at his bedside. I have spent the majority of the past 12 days on the internet and phone trying to find a low cost funeral home and the money to pay for it. If He was taking him home now (we are Christians and I know my husband is with the Lord), then I am not sure why He has not provided for his homegoing. It’s a long story, but my husband has been through the ringer the last few years not being able to walk due to a bad fall, now this…I am not sure when I will be able to even think about the “what now!” But I will trust Him and deal with the “why me/him” and “what now” after I get past what He has in store for my husband’s homegoing. Please keep me lifted as I do so for all of you…I am faithful and know that if it was not for the Lord on my side…I would not be able to even type this now. Before I lose it, I will say, “Thank you Lord for Sharon and the Girlfriends, for the uplifting message, and for being our God…we could not make it without YOU!!!” God Bless us all! P.S. If anyone has any suggestions or resources that could help, please email me (threevee@gmail.com). Thanks!

  14. Cherie says:

    Sometimes I feel like I am always in a storm in life whether it be a breast cancer diagnosis, financial issues with job choices that my husband has made, raising three kids in a crazy world, or my sixteen year old daughter totaling her car of 3 weeks, and so many more things going on in our lives in the past sixteen years that has made me say over and over “Why Me God?” However, the mighty God we serve who protected Daniel in the lion’s den, and brought Job out of a series of loss and devastation is always there with His mighty strong right arm to hold me, love me , and most of all show me His power in the storms and struggles in life. As Christians, we are put here on Earth to bring glory to His name amist the storms in life that so easily entangle. It is not an easy task, but if we can just keep our eyes on Him the calm is around the corner.

  15. Christine says:

    I am trusting God now that although sometimes He says no it is only because He has something much better in mind

  16. Jehrica M. says:

    “17 Though the fig tree may not blossom, Nor fruit be on the vines; Though the labor of the olive may fail, And the fields yield no food; Though the flock may be cut off from the fold, And there be no herd in the stalls—
    18 Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my salvation.”
    (‭Habakkuk‬ ‭3‬:‭17-18‬ (NKJV)

    I will keep trusting the Lord to be the Great Physician in my life and to heal my chronic illness and to heal those around me. However He chooses!

    Dear Lord Almighty,
    We praise You and thank You for all you do for us constantly! You never leave us alone! When we suffer, we suffer together. Please, bless each one of the women who read this ministry’s resources. Please, show us Your power and may we worship and magnify Your Name and life it up on high- Hallelu Yah!
    In Jesus’ Precious Holy Name, Amen

  17. Ify says:

    Am trusting God that my 24 year adult son who is continously making wrong and terrible choices and now is depressed abusive and violent will find his way back to God.

  18. Betty says:

    I have clinical depression and I am in the middle of changing my medicine. The doctors do that by weaning you off the medicine you were taking in order to start you on a new medicine. I go through many stages of depression, one of them being anger. At the same time I am dealing with my 78 year old husband who can’t hear very well and is having problems with his short term memory. All we seem to do is argue. I haven’t been going to church because of my anger issues which I know will stop when the new medicine takes over. I have been praying but nothing happens, I don’t know what to do anymore.

  19. abby says:

    even though I don’t understand/i am angry with God now I will trust Him that ill get a early call about my new prosthetic eye that can be fitted in sooner rather than next few weeks. (been on going since last summer plus 2 surgeries). also I guess putting trust in Him as my hubby and I are foster/foster to adopt parents that we would be blessed of a kid that we can possibly call our own. (baby). but that only happens to “certain people”. not people like my hubby and I. just the cards dealt with and need to face it that need to just continue same stuff different day.

  20. Donna says:

    I am struggling with a contractor that was hired to work on our home who claimed to be a minister. He even came to our Church. He took our money and didn’t even do half the work. We took out a 2nd mortgage for this and I’ll have to tell you every time we make that payment it is a thorn in my side.
    I need prayer to forgive and move on.

  21. Lorraine says:

    Thank you so much for the devotion that u write. Sometimes they are just the right one for me on the day I needed it. I have just finished 32 radiation treatments and 4 chemo only to be told I have another spot. I Trusted God through it all and now I just feel sad. I still trust god and I’m trusting him that I don’t have to have more treatments. Since I finished my legs r so bad I don’t no what to do nothing stops the pain. Please pray that I will not have to have more treatments and that the pain will stop in my legs.

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