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Today’s Truth

Who is man that you are mindful of him?

Psalm 8:3-4

Friend to Friend

I may look confident and put together on the outside (when I’m not in my exercise pants and a ponytail) but on the inside I often wander back to that little girl who questions her value and wants to make a difference.

There are lots of ways this inner struggle presents itself in me …

  • I tether my value to how I look.
  • I tether my value to how my jeans fit.
  • I tether my value to how I perform.
  • I want my husband and kids to love me perfectly,
even though they can’t.
  • I want to love others perfectly, but I don’t, so I
juggle guilt like a hot potato.
  • I get distracted and waste time, so I feel unproductive.
  • I want to make a difference, but I try to do too
much.

The Bible showcases a perfection that I implement pathetically. Like that love chapter in 1 Corinthians that most of us had read at our weddings. Verses like “love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way” (13:4–5 ESV). Wait, what? Geez! The way I love doesn’t even come close to this list! And then the big left hook smacks me hard: “Love never fails” (v. 8). The magnitude of God’s perfect love is epic. The magnitude of my love is minuscule.

I try to be patient. I try to be kind. I try not to envy or boast. All of it. But my efforts are less than. I stub my toe on my ego all the time. I get edgy and loud. I insist on my own way. And then I beat myself up!

If I were a better mom, I would’ve ____.

If I were a better friend, I would_____.

If I were in better shape, then maybe _____.

If I were more talented, I would be able to _____.

And because I’m not content with my own body, my own behaviors, and my own abilities, I struggle to see how a perfect God can look past my brokenness. I know in my heart that He loves me, but I sometimes struggle to accept that He likes me, because sometimes I don’t even like myself.

These doubts and insecurities cause me to question my value and my ability to make a difference. They cause me to feel insignificant. Invisible and ineffective.

Yet I know that the Bible says the opposite. And because of this, I’m reminded to, instead, tether my value to truths like these:

I was created in the image of God.

I am sealed with the Holy Spirit.

Jesus loved me so much that He endured a horrific death so I could be saved.

These truths matter. And because they matter, they confirm to me that I matter. And they confirm that you matter too.

Don’t think for one little minute that I don’t sense you bristling up. It’s what we girls do when the spotlight of attention is shined on our significance. We shy away. Throw our hands up to shield the light. Contest with our best excuses…

Some of us contend,I’m really nothing special. That word valuable makes me nervous. My life is less than. Average at best. Mac and cheese is my jam. I drive a minivan, wear ponytails, use off-brand detergent, and live paycheck to paycheck. Where is the value in that?”

Others of us contend,I cannot believe you’re going to go there! Did you not read my bumper sticker and T-shirt? I am nothing. Jesus is everything. Hide me in the cross and stop trying to make me feel special. Slap! Slap! Slap! Shame on you for even bringing up such a topic of the flesh!”

Some of us acquiesce:Okay. Let’s talk. I know in my mind that I’m precious to Jesus, but that often gets lost in translation on its way to my heart. Yes. Let’s have this conversation. I want everything God has for me, and I’m ready to move forward as a woman of greater impact.

Wherever you find yourself in these responses, my prayer is that you will join our last friend with an expectant and curious heart. With a heart that is ready to move forward in the truth of your significance so that you can live out the purpose for which you were created.
I am going to leave it here today. Let you marinate in thought and prayer. In part two, we will go a bit deeper and see what Jesus has to say about all this.

Let’s Pray

Lord, Help me to accept that You are the One who defines my significance. Please sift through my thoughts, doubts, insecurities, and emotions that leave me feeling like less instead of more.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

Read Jeremiah 1:4-5. When did God first know Jeremiah? Take a few moments to read over these verses again and personalize them. How does this make you feel? Click here to tell me about it on my blog.

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6 Responses to “Stop Doubting Your Value, Part One”

  1. Noma says:

    Thank you so much for this. This is such a timely message from God.

    Lately I’ve been struggling with feelings of self doubt and self condemnation. Worrying about how my colleagues perceive me. I’ve been worried about saying the wrong thing. I’ve been robbed of peace, but this message is exactly what I needed to hear.

    I thank You God for this message and for choosing Gwen as Your vessel. I pray that You will continue to bless her, in Jesus’ Name. Amen

  2. Cindy Jenkins says:

    Thank you for this devotion. It is where my mind goes first many times–my faults. I will acquiesce moving forward because I know God loved me and had plans for me. He had them from before my beginning.

  3. Deb says:

    I spent the entire weekend at a Women of Joy event in San Antonio. The theme: Immeasurably More.” It is difficult to look in the mirror and see myself how Jesus sees me. My shortcomings so many, my clarity for God’s desire for me diminished, and my body too tired to want to change old habits on most days. I related to every “if only” thought you mentioned. The daily reminder that I am immeasurably more in His eyes is necessary for me and I thank you being that reminder today.

  4. Barbara says:

    I truly needed this & it was God’s timing that this is the devotion I read today. I thank you for these Girlfriends in God devotions, they are such an important part of my mornings & have such wisdom. I have recommended your site to many of my friends. Again thank you for sharing.

  5. Carola says:

    Gracias novias.cada día el. Espiritu las usa.porque que nada es de casualidad.hoy me hacen recordar que soy importante para Dios y,aunque no tenga los dones que gira base era querido tener.me aceptó tal cmmo soy y se que Dios me amo y por ende
    mi esposo e hijos y amigos.gracias nuevamente novias. Bendiciones

  6. Gretchen says:

    I was just crying with a friend this morning saying, “I’m just struggling to see my value.” (As you can see from my previous post on my blog today!)

    This devotion was perfectly timed for me. Thank God for his sweet Spirit that guides and directs us with eternal mercy to get us where we need to be.

    Another fun fact – I’ve heard of this site before and have a friend that continually references it, but it has been a long time since I’ve been by. So glad I came by today. Thank you.

    Your writing matters. Your obedience matters.
    Thank you.

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