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My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.

2 Corinthians 12:9

Friend to Friend

“I know I don’t look it…but I feel thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.” Bilbo’s words from Lord of the Rings rattle in my head. You’ve probably felt the same way at some point too, right?

Even the basic demands of life can leave us feeling over extended and stretched out. You spread thin across jobs, spouses, children, church, extracurriculars, and whatever else wants to suck time and energy away from you. Sometimes what’s left of us is so thin it feels as if we have become nearly translucent. Eventually, to avoid anything that requires more, we began to avoid anyone who wants more too. All the spreading thin will eventually scrape away even the good parts life. When you have nothing left to give, if you give at all, people just get whatever is left over.

But here’s the thing, you may look ok. The pieces that are visible from the outside appear put together. But instead of running your life, it seems more accurate that life is running you.

I know you get this. You’re living and loving and doing your thing and somehow find yourself in a place where you hardly even know what’s happening anymore. Life isn’t happening with you, it’s happening to you. One day you’re doing the planning, and then something weird happens and all the planning is now the ruling factor of your life. Jobs, kids, spouses, sports, carpools, church, friends…it is all too much and you become mechanical in your execution of tasks or you shut down completely.

I get it friend. I burned the candle at both ends for a long time. Somewhere in there though the candle broke in half and I found myself burning both sides of the candle at both ends and whatever was left in the middle got burned up. Which really means that I burned out.

And what probably burned me out more than anything else was when I inadvertently started burning bridges that I didn’t even mean to set fire to at all. I hurt friends because I didn’t make time for them. I felt alone because I was so overwhelmed that I disconnected myself from the people and activities around me that I loved. I stopped doing things that I enjoyed like art, or creative projects, even cooking dinners that tasted good. But dinner wasn’t the only thing that had lost it’s seasoning, my entire life had begun to feel that way too.

When it comes to making extra space for neighbors or friends or even just one more person, sometimes it feels like you just can’t.

2 Corinthians 12:5 reminds us that we need not boast about ourselves, except about our weaknesses. Because it is in our weakness, that the Lord makes us strong. In a very area of his life where Paul struggled and asked the Lord to remove the struggle, Jesus said to him “ “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” He goes on to declare that he would “boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.1

I know what it is to be worn out, spread too thin, stretched beyond my limits, and I know that’s not the way you want to begin a new year either.

Scripture is full of people who felt not enough and spread thin across too much. But as we begin to search the Word of God to find more in our thin places, it seems most often the greatest thing God asks is that we trust Him even (and especially) when we come up short.

He asks us to offer what little we have to him so that He can make much of our offering. And in doing so, He makes much of His goodness to us. In the places where we have little, he promises to make more. In the areas we feel weak, when we lean into Him instead of ourselves, he promises to make us strong. He takes the moment we come with little left to give and blesses us with a Kingdom kind of leftovers that aren’t so much all that remains, as they show God’s abundance, excess, sufficiency, and strength.

Maybe spread too thin is the very place that God wants to show us exactly how much abundance there is for us? That instead of trying to spread ourselves over the world around us, we can uncover what can be when we spread our lives across the abundance that is the Bread of Heaven himself.

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, You know what it is to walk in human skin on this earth. You know the expectations we face each day, the requirements on our time, the commitments to those we love, and Father you promise to meet us in each and every space. Lord in your Kingdom, you always produce fruit from places of lack to prove your kindness and love. Quicken our hearts to give you our thin places and trust in your lovingkindness to make them into abundant streams of life. Thank you Lord for loving us in the midst of our weakness.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

What are some ways you feel spread thin? What would it look like to find the Lord’s abundance in those areas?

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Logan Wolfram would give you full access to her pantry if you lived next door. She is a plate-juggling mom and interior decorator who desires to see women live fully in Christ. She is a National speaker and the author of Curious Faith; Rediscovering Hope in the God of Possibility. Logan and her husband, Jeremy, divide their time between wrangling two inquisitive boys, a 175-pound mastiff named Titan, and a little mutt named Sugar. They reside in Greenville, South Carolina. Connect more with Logan on her website www.LoganWolfram.com

16 Responses to “Spread Too Thin”

  1. Tammy Croyle says:

    I am so there girlfriend, thank you for your encouraging words.

  2. Wendi Rader says:

    I so needed to hear this today.. thank you!

  3. J'Nae says:

    These beautiful words came right on time. Thanks, girlfriends.

  4. Askia says:

    Thank you for reminding us that where we are weak, He makes us strong. I am so guilty of shutting people out and inadvertently hurting the feelings of those I love because of my busyness. Then I don’t understand why the invitations are less and less. I have to make time for the things that are good for my soul – not the things that make my schedule pretty with all the color-coded activities! 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • Marilyn says:

      Thank you Askia…your words hit me today. They were exactly what I needed, to, realize I need to stop sometimes, “pause” and spend more time with the ones I love and care about. It’s easy to put off sometimes. The thought of getting back in the car or getting ready to go somewhere seems like just more than you can do. Especially when you have been running all week…Sometimes you just want to spend time at home. There is nothing wrong with home time, but, I need to realize not at the expense always of those you are closest to.

      Thanks, 💕

  5. Pam says:

    I used to be the home school mom of four. I was the soccer mom and dance mom. I carted kids to guitar and drum lessons. We did art, drama, music… Then divorce and single parenting happened about five years ago. My ex-husband was recently diagnosed with stage four cancer. It’s all on me now and I share with you that is seems so unfair. I am tired.

    Three of my children still live with me. One is in community college and one is starting community college in January. Financially I sometimes can’t breathe. I am an artist by education and desire and I manage a business office. My group of girlfriends is a thing of the past. The loneliness is sometimes staggering for companionship. The desire to paint is gone. I tread water rather than live. I want to live.

    Praise God that He is strong in our weakness. My plight is for a season. Thank you for the reminder of His abundance. I will think on that today.

    • Beth says:

      My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. It sounds so awful to be where you are. I’m praying for your needs to be met and your children to make the most of the precious and few memories they can make with their dad. You’re a child of God and you can do this❣️ You’re right it’s just a season, but it’s tough to grasp what we know is true. God is honing you so you can use your experiences in the future to help others. And what help you will give, dear.

  6. Sherrie D says:

    This message hit home for me in many ways. I became aware of being stretched too thin over the past three years. However, I know that during my stretching, GOD was working on me. I thank God that for allowing me to yield all my circumstances, trials and tribulation, difficulties, weaknesses to Him. Hallelujah!

  7. Alga says:

    This message really hits home for me to, Darling Friends.

    dont yall just hate when you ask Jesus to remove like em say in we island by in Princesstown, “move de ting from me life already, Jesus” and with sweet eyes him look upon ya and say Me Grace Sufficient for you and leave ya right there with Bazookas to endure. But Him Love We! We must trust in the Jesus of We soul!

    Me dont love me salary but Me love ya, Jesus!!!!!!

    Me and Val!

  8. val says:

    Reading today’s devotional By Wolfram, made me tired just reading it.It was rushed &
    more full of his/her content than time with the Lord.

  9. Chandra says:

    Today’s devotional really touched me. Four years ago I lost my mother to cancer and then one year later almost to the day I lost my father to cancer. I have two daughters who have been struggling with depression and defiancy. Both of them have had numerous inpatient hospitalizations. My younger daughter who just turned 16 is in the process of going into a long term residential treatment program to help her with the depression, defiancy and other issues. After significant thought and prayer I knew in my heart I had to do something drastic to try and help her get back on track before she becomes an adult. My older daughter is struggling with substance abuse now as well and I am raising my four year old grandson. The Lord blessed me with a wonderful man shortly before I lost my parents. He has been my rock through all of these struggles. We pray together and he has helped me through some of my darkest days. I am constantly feeling overwhelmed, exhausted and like there is never enough of me to go around. Thank you for reminding me that the Lord has made me stronger through all of the difficult things I’ve had to face. I know the Lord must know I am strong enough to endure the trials I’ve been through. It is these circumstances that has made my relationship with the Lord much stronger !

  10. I know what the butter feeling is like, thin…that’s why His rest is important.

  11. Marlea says:

    In my life experiences Jesus helps as I take just one day at a time. Life is fragile and prayer is my peaceful space. Yes I am a butter-girl too. ICorinthians 16:13-14 is my heart song when I need to add a bit of sugar and spice to my “butter”. “Be strong, brave and courageous, faithful and loving” . . . Appreciate this message today a great perspective for 2018!

  12. Gwen says:

    This was so encouraging. I’ve been there.
    The past year has been so hard. I let the hurt and anger eat at my heart and avoid my friends. I needed to turn to Jesus for strength and will begin today ask for help with my weaknesses.

  13. Abby says:

    Thank you for this post. I feel like a hamster in a wheel just trying to survive. I have friends & relatives I need to call or see but just don’t have the energy.

  14. Frannie K says:

    Praise God and Praise you for this post! I so needed to see that it isn’t just me. I once was a great caregiver but became like butter. Now I can’t even take care of me. Oh I am stuck in a pit. Trying to just survive and thrive again. I am weak but he is stong. Thank you and I will check your website out. Thank you Girlfriends in God for your awesome site too.

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