Today’s Truth

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.

Proverbs 27:17

Friend to Friend

I went hunting in a clothing consignment store — people watching more than actually clothes shopping. I gathered a few possibilities and then stood in line to try them on.

A group of friends occupied the three dressing rooms with piles and piles of clothes. It was quite a parade as the girls popped in and out of the cubbies to model their finds. All I needed was a bag of popcorn as I settled in for the show.

At one point, a gal came out in skintight, black shiny pants that were at least two sizes too small, a couple inches too short, and about to burst at the seams.

“Do these pants make my hips look big?” she asked her friend.

“What hips?” her friend exclaimed. “Girl, you’re lookin’ good.”

She lied.

Oh my.

My mind raced back to a time when I was with a different sort of friend. On this particular day, I met her for lunch wearing a pink sweater with fuzzy pink flamingos and randomly placed sequins. My friend took one look at me and said, “Girl, you need to take that sweater off and never wear it again. That does not look good on you!”

We had a good laugh…but I didn’t wear the flamingos again.

So which sort of friend do I really want? Honestly? One that always tells me what I want to hear, or one that loves me enough to tell me what I need to hear.

We all need friends, just a few, who will tell us the truth. Friends who will say, “That does not look good on you.” And I’m not just talking about pink sweaters with fuzzy pink flamingos or too tight, shiny black pants that make our hips look big.

I’m talking about what we wear on our hearts and in our souls. We all need friends, just a few, who will have the guts to say:

  • That anger does not look good on you.
  • That bitterness does not look good on you.
  • That resentment does not look good on you.
  • That jealousy does not look good on you.
  • That self-pity does not look good on you.
  • That self-condemnation does not look good on you.
  • That grumbling and complaining does not look good on you.

We all need friends, just a few, who will tell us the truth because they love us too much not to.

But just a few.

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend (Proverbs 27:17 NLT). Do you have a friend who you trust enough to tell you when something doesn’t look good on you…or in you? One that you won’t get mad at if she does? If so, you’re truly blessed.

Let’s Pray

Lord, sometimes I don’t like it when a friend tells me the truth. Most of the time I want my friends to tell me I’m cuddly and wonderful. But I do thank You for a few friends, my deepest and dearest, who love me enough to tell me the truth even when it hurts. Help me to have the right attitude to receive the hard truth when I need it.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

Ouch! This was a tough one. I stepped on my own toes and they’re throbbing.

I’m not going to have you look up any extra Scripture today. I want you to simply pray and reflect on who your iron-sharpening-iron friend might be. Then consider sending her this devotion with a big THANK YOU!

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4 Responses to “Do These Pants Make My Hips Looks Big?”

  1. Sonni says:

    My sister and I were just having a conversation about iron sharpening iron. I boldly suggested that she shouldn’t have said/done something and she immediately said you know what you’re right. I need more friends like you who tell me the truth and straighten me out! I’m sure she’d do the same for me!

  2. Donna says:

    Do These Pants Make My Hips Looks Big?
    Reading this, this morning really made me look at myself and ask the question. Am I that friend who gets mad or can I handle the truth. I hope I’m the one who can handle the truth.

  3. This was a fun post Sharon, but very truthful. My mother always says if you want the truth ask someone who loves you, she also says shine don’t whine, and you’re above it. This is the same woman I saw fight off a nervous breakdown, she wore the same sweater almost every day. I praise the Lord for her. And we have had lots of those friend moments, my aunt was in her 50’s and always dressed like a little old lady, I would take my mother through Macy’s and she would look head to that very rack. I’d say those clothes that mix and match, practically, scream little old lady. And that’s fine if you are one. She never want people to think she’s trying to look young. I said ” You are 73 and can look 53,so why go for 93? ” Besides, the poor woman at the grocery story with long blonde pony tails and super pink attire is way past cheerleading days. Another poor soul while shopping startled me with her red eyebrows, that weren’t even actually on her eyebrows. She was older but she was trying, a little loving help please. It’s what we all need not matter age or size. We all have a flamingo sweater don’t we. Jesus looks good on us. He is altogether lovely.

  4. McKesur says:

    Three of us were talking about this at work yesterday because one of my co-workers asked if we would tell her if her cowlick is all over the place? I said no. The other person stated,”I’ve asked to be told when my nose shines like a new penny, and no one does.” I said, “I’ve asked to be told when my hair is sticking up from wearing our headset and when I have food in my teeth. No one does.” We laughed and agreed we will be more observant and tell the other.

    I shared that because it will be the backdrop for my FB video today for our young people who have and will be starting school this week and next week. “Will You Be A Good Friend?” With bullying, domestic violence at their age, suicide, and mean girls being at school and/or in cyber space, they need to be encouraged on why it’s important to be a good friend. Thanks Sharon

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