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Today’s Truth

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

John 14:27

Friend to Friend

As I stand in the middle of Sur La Table, my favorite kitchen store, I pass over the cookware and utensils that beckon me (I’m a sucker for kitchen gadgets.) and head straight for the cookbook I came to get. It’s my stepson’s birthday. Jeremy is a talented chef and I know that the new Alton Brown cookbook will be exactly what he wants.

But then, right there in the middle of the store, I start to panic. Will it be enough?

Will it be enough to show Jeremy how much we love him? Step-relationships can be tricky, and I want to make sure that Jeremy knows he is a priority for me. Will this cookbook, along with the party and the other gift, be enough for him? I start to doubt myself and the book I hold in my hand. So, I start marching around the store, throwing utensils and towels into my basket so that I can make sure the gift looks like enough.

This has been a common theme throughout my life—feeling like not enough. And when I’m feeling like I’m not enough, I hustle by doing more, buying more and trying to be more than I am to make up for my lack of “enough.”

But hustle is the world’s answer to fear: work harder, do more, buy more and you will feel okay.

God’s answer to fear is dramatically different: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2 NIV) God wants us to reject what the world thinks—that hustle is what will get us peace—and instead renew our minds. God knows that the world’s pattern will never lead to peace, only the radical, counter-cultural act of replacing our worldly thoughts with His thoughts.

So, when the ugly, broken thoughts of being not enough start to invade my thinking (and my shopping cart) I need to break those patterns of thinking and replace them with these truths:

  • The goal of giving gifts is celebrating the person, not building the relationship.
  • It is presence, not presents, that builds relationships.
  • I will never become more by buying more.
  • God has promised He will provide everything I need. I don’t have to hustle when I’m in God’s perfect plan.

God says we are already enough, not because of who we are but because of who He is.

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, thank you for being more than enough for me, in my life, in my day and in my relationships. Let me always look to You when I am feeling less than enough.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

Are there areas of your life where you overspend or overdo because you feel less than enough? What is one step of faith that you could take (A week-long spending fast? Taking two to-dos off your calendar?) to trust in God more when fear rises up?

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9 Responses to “When It Never Feels Like Enough”

  1. Jessica says:

    This really spoke to me today because I am a new step parent to a five year old girl. I go through the is it enough and the ok it’s enough step back everyday and sometimes it’s crazy. I have found that my presence for this girl is much more valuable than presents.Its a hard road being a step parent but rewarding as well.

  2. Frances says:

    So convicting. Thank you for sharing <3

  3. Rachel says:

    This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you, Kathi!

  4. I agree. God is always enough, actually more than. Step relationships are difficult, especially if they are like night and day. But then there are families that are just the same, they know so little about each other. That’s a shame.

  5. Vicki says:

    I can certainly relate to this one as a step parent and in general. Thanks Kathi. You are right on as usual. Warm regards and best wishes gal. You are certainly enough and more. Vic

  6. Tina says:

    Wow! The 4 truths are well said. Thank you for reminding me of my identity in Christ–that following His will brings us peace, knowing that in Him, I am more than enough. God bless you, Kathi! 🙂

  7. Jordan says:

    So beautifully written! As a graduate school student I have a strong desire to make sure my friends and family know I adore them by sending them things, but of course…. I am a broke college student!! I needed to the reminder to focus on building the relationship with my presence though it is limited! The Holy Spirit really spoke to me in this devotional addressing an issue I did not know I had! Thank you!!! <3

  8. Pam Gonzqlez says:

    Your words were sacred to me today! in this season of my life, I am doing so much better about NOT hustling, but I allow guilt to settle in. Still working on that! Today was a good reminder that GOD Is enough and I just need to breathe in HIS perfect plan! Thank you for sharing.

  9. Cyndee says:

    Thank you for sharing this message…God bless you always!

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