Today’s Truth

For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.

John 3:16

Friend to Friend

“You will never be able to have biological children,” the doctor said. After years of painful tests, expensive treatments, frustrating procedures, and desperate pleas and prayers, our hopes of having children were shattered by his harsh diagnosis. “Then we will adopt” my husband immediately replied. I wasn’t so sure. Could I love another woman’s baby as much as a child I would give birth to? I just didn’t know.

Months later God called Dan to be the Youth Pastor of a church where we met a Christian attorney. “We’d like to talk with you about adoption,” Dan said. Ron’s response wasn’t encouraging. “I rarely do adoptions, but come by my office and fill out the papers – just in case.” The following week, Ron called. “This is the stork,” he said. I laughed. “I have a baby for you,” he continued. I stopped laughing. “A young woman came into my office today. She’s seven months pregnant and wants to give her baby up for adoption,” he explained.

Suddenly, I knew! Every doubt disappeared. Every fear faded into the certainty that this was God’s plan for us. Six weeks later, our son, Jered Daniel, was born and three years later, his beautiful sister, Danna Marie, completed our family. Life was unbelievably sweet. We daily celebrated the fact that Jered and Danna were our chosen babies and wanted them to understand just how special they were. I knew the day would come when both children would have questions about their birth and adoption. I just thought I had a little more time.

As Jered climbed into my arms for our daily “snuggle” time before bed, his question ripped through the darkness and my heart. “Why didn’t she want me?” Jered softly asked. I cried out to God for just the right words – for Jered – and for me. Instantly, it came. Bruno!

When Jered was four-years-old, we were given a chocolate Labrador puppy that quickly outgrew our small yard, our not-so-understanding neighbors, and our apprehensive children. We named this gentle giant Bruno. But it soon became clear to all of us that we were not the right family for Bruno. After an intensive search, we discovered a remarkable organization that finds homes for animals whose owners, for one reason or another, cannot keep them. We were promised that Bruno would be placed in a home where he would be loved and well cared for. We talked and explained, struggling our way to the difficult decision that it was time to put Bruno up for adoption. Still, when they came to pick up Bruno, we all cried. We knew it was the best plan for Bruno, for us, and for a very excited family that wanted and had the room for a Labrador. But it still hurt! Sometimes, doing the right thing – the best thing – the highest thing – is also the most painful thing.

As I looked into the beautiful, blue eyes of the little boy I loved more than life itself, I prayed for wisdom. “Jered, do you remember Bruno?” At the memory of the dog, Jered smiled and sadly whispered, “I still miss him.” I nodded in agreement, “I know, son. I know you loved Bruno and I know you are sad that we had to give him away. But do you remember why we gave Bruno away?” Jered thought for a moment, “Because we loved him so much and we knew we couldn’t take care of him right … and because he wasn’t very happy ‘cause he was so big here … and because we wanted the best home in the whole wide world for him.”

I paused for a moment, basking in the simple wisdom of my Father, spoken through the heart of my only son. “She did want you, honey. And she did love you … so much, in fact, that she was willing to give you away, just like we gave Bruno away. Just like we wanted what was best for Bruno, your birth mother wanted what was best for you!” I fully recognize that it was an extremely simple illustration for a profoundly complex life circumstance – but it was enough.

As Jered drifted off to sleep, tears of gratitude spilled down my face, and I thanked God for two courageous young birth mothers and for His extraordinary plan of adoption that linked our four chosen lives and hearts in love.

Let’s Pray

Father, I am amazed by the truth that You love and chose me to be Your very own. I don’t understand such love, but I embrace it as the precious gift that it is. Help me to remember that in Your eyes, I am planned, wanted, loved and chosen.

In Jesus’ Name,


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6 Responses to “Love That Never Fails”

  1. Rhonda says:

    Lovely life story. Thanks, my husband was adopted and his birthday is tomorrow, I have been married to him for 30 years. His adopted mother has let him know all his short comings (in her eyes) are from him being from sin. He has had a hard time just letting me love him and I try so hard to show him he is worthy of love. He is a Christ follower but as many people can understand some strict churches will agree with a parent that believes the sins of the father are on the child. He knows God loves him. I guess I am asking for strength and prayer for a hard day that will be tomorrow

    • Jenny says:

      I pray your spouse realizes God can make such blessings from the sin on this world. His mother may have fallen short, or someone else may have, but God promises beauty from ashes. His adopted mother couldn’t see it, but I have many times in my work. God loves us and knew how your hubby would come to be, but I have the impression that he created the wonderful gift for you of your husband like he did mine for me. Both don’t understand how we can love them, but mine is so perfect for me. The God of second (3rd, 4th…..) chances is SO in love with us just as we are!

  2. Dawn says:

    Thanks I was an adoptee and my parents waited 5 years for me then 5 more for my wonderful baby brother who is one of my closest friends 66 years Later. My mom had an ER hysterectomy there need to adopt. Thanks for all the adoptive parents who give people Like Dawn and Larry homes!

  3. Gerdyne says:

    Thank You for this. My hubby and I are facing this journey of adoption and we are looking foward it and praying for the Lord guidance in this journey. Thank You again.

  4. julia says:

    this one I can relate to. my hubby and I cant have kids naturally. (my health) we are foster/foster to adopt parents. right now taking a small break. and idk just having a hard time waiting on God for that right child IF there even is a right child out there for us. reading this I guess gives me a very small small SMALL slither of hope that idk maybe one day my hubby and I will become parents of a baby. who knows though. only happens to CERTAIN people I guess. I have prayed and prayed and prayed and keep on knocking. just seems like God don’t hear or answer our prayers.

  5. Lisa says:

    A few years ago I found out accidentally that I was adopted, and my parents were both deceased so I couldn’t ask them why they didn’t tell me. I am having the most difficult time dealing with the fact that the solid foundation of my life was a lie. I have struggled for years with hurt and anger. People always tell me they adopted me because they loved me, but I felt like they just got a baby when their number came up. I felt I was bought like a used car. I have no desire to meet my birth mother, not because I’m angry with her, but because I don’t want to be rejected.

    Only recently God revealed to me,(or maybe I was ready to hear it) that God knew who He was placing me with and my life could have been so much worse.

    I’m still working through my anger, and I randomly came across this post this morning going through the archives. Thank you Mary!

    God is Good!

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