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Today’s Truth

But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

John 14:26-28

Friend to Friend

For years, home was not my happy place. There were tense words, loud conversations, lots of noise, and a whole bunch of chaos. I remember thinking, “When these kids grow up…When my husband is nicer…When we have more money…things will calm down.”

But peace isn’t determined by our circumstances; it’s determined by the way we respond with God’s help to those circumstances. God sent His Son so we could experience peace, not just in the quiet of life, but also when chaos hits.

If you are approaching your home with dread at the end of the day, perhaps your place needs a peace makeover, like mine did. Here are a few things you can be intentional about when it comes to creating a peace-filled home:

Speak Words that Build Peace

So much of what determines our level of peace is the choice of words we use in our home. Are we speaking words of respect and kindness? Are we lifting up the people we live with? How can you build into the lives of those you love with an “I love you!” and “I’m proud of you!” A “You make me happy!” and “I forgive you”?

And it is not just the words we speak, it is the words we allow into our home. Carefully consider TV programs, music, and especially sites you visit on the internet. All of those words that come into your home can promote or tear down peace within your four walls.

Create a Home that Promotes Peace

One of the main biblical definitions of peace when translated from the Greek includes “to be complete or whole” or “to live well.” A home that promotes peace is one where healthy food is served, clutter is controlled, systems are in place and people are cared for. These may feel like the everyday acts of a woman just keeping her home running, but really, they are the hundreds of small decisions we can make every day to promote peace and live whole lives in our homes:

Create meal plans for healthy eating.

Put things away when we are done using them.

Balance our bank account.

Pay our bills.

Invite others over to share a meal.

Serve our neighbors when there is a crisis.

Tend to a garden.

Be a Woman Who Promotes Peace

When someone insults me online, on the phone, or even in the line at the grocery store, I need to commit deliberate, defiant acts of peace toward that person. Those acts of peace can be, depending on the situation and the person, quick forgiveness, kind words to quench the hurt, or praying for them instead of responding. Peace is not powerlessness but refusing to give someone else the power over your response.

As you drive home tonight, think about what feeling you have as you approach your front door. Is it relief that you are finally home and have a soft place to land, or do you hesitate because inside your house carries the same amount of chaos as the rest of the world?

If peace doesn’t meet you at the door, make the decision to be someone who doggedly pursues peace in your home starting today.

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, Thank You for making peace possible in every circumstance. Thank You for loving us so much that You sent Your Son to make peace a reality on this side of heaven. Let me be a peacemaker within my home and outside of its walls.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

What is one thing you could do to promote peace within your home today?

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2 Responses to “Love Lives Here”

  1. Robin says:

    I also want to encourage the girls to follow your advice. The chaos in our home landed my husband in prison. He had an anger management problem. No, he NEVER was abusive. It wasn’t because he didn’t have a good education or a good job. It was because of the things going on in his job that others were not being truthful with him and doing the right thing. This went on for a very long time. He was judging them. He couldn’t live with what he’d done, so he confessed. My husband has been a born again believer for over 45 years. I had been a born again believer for over 30 years. But, he allowed his anger to take him down a path that could have ruined his life forever. No, prison did not ruin his life. Though prison was horrible, just horrible, Prison saved his life and our marriage. We did have a fairly good marriage, but there was definitely something missing. After my husband had been in prison for a month or so, I lashed out at God. Yeah, I was the one who couldn’t believe anyone would question God. Famous last words, right? But, I wanted to know WHY, especially since God knew the whole truth of the situation. He told me that day, “because it was the only way I could reach him.” Wow, that brought me to my knees. Many years and 7 parole hearings later, God finally released him. Yes, GOD released him! He was released on parole, but God is the one who felt he was ready. He’s been home now for 18 months. He’s going through a hard time right now, even though he’s determined to always do the right thing. Now, though, he knows how to handle his anger. His anger has been replaced with a perseverance to make things better for himself and for us and to pursue God’s best for us. He is the man God chose for me. I am so thankful that He did that. Prison taught us that God needed to be in the center of our marriage. Now that He is, I cannot explain in words how incredible, blessed, cherished and wonderful our marriage is, in every way. No comparison to the way it was before. WOW!!! My encouragement to the girls is that it didn’t have to take this long. We’ve been married 40+ years. God made the difference. We have the marriage He always intended for us to have. Oh, what time we wasted, but at least we are now living His marriage for the rest of our lives. My husband keeps apologizing for the years we lost. My response to him is always, Oh, but to have what we have now, it was so worth it!

  2. Rebecca Jones says:

    This is a great post. He left us His peace. John 14:27, no matter what is going on.

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