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Today’s Truth

For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.

(2 Timothy 1:7 NIV)

Friend to Friend

Maybe it’s when I get on the scale. Or when I see my walking shoes in the closet, where they have lived for the past two weeks, never seeing the light of day. Maybe it’s when I walk into my laundry room and see the piles (plural) of clothes that I swore I was going to get to this week. Or when I pick up a pile of mail that shamefully has been sitting on my counter for a month, only to find my even more-neglected Bible sitting under it.

“Loser.”

“Hopeless.”

“Pathetic.”

These are just a few of the many words that I have used to describe myself when, once again, I have failed at something I’ve set out to do.

Whether it’s losing weight, reading my Bible, avoiding the drive-thru, or decluttering my home once and for all, I have tried and failed more times that even I’m willing to count. (Another thing I’ve given up on. Sigh…)

And I’m guessing that I’m not alone in this kind of self-talk. We say things to ourselves that we would never even say to that bully (the mean guy at work, the meanie mom at our kid’s school) because we are so much more compassionate to the worst people around us than we are to ourselves.

When we’re in that place of being defeated and dejected, how do we summon the energy to keep on going? One. More. Time.

You are More Powerful than You Know

When I’m looking at making a change in my life, my mind immediately goes to all those times I tried to change before and failed. I immediately start to think, “What will be different this time? You are just doomed for more failure.”

But here is what I’ve learned about trying and failing: you learn something new in each attempt. You become better and stronger. And more importantly — you learn something new about God, about His love and His mercy every time you try, and it doesn’t come out the way you intended.

And, ultimately, you learn that God is more powerful in your life than you’ve previously given Him credit for.

You are Not Alone

If you talk to other women, and I mean really talk, you will realize that you are truly not alone in all this loneliness of giving up.

Yes, I know it seems like everyone around you is scaling new mountains, starting new diets, completing new projects, and just winning all over the place. What you don’t see are the women who are quietly falling, picking themselves up, and trusting God for another day.

Find those women.

Hang out with those women.

Be with the people who aren’t just showing you their mountaintop experiences, but also their pits. Women who are triumphing after they have tripped up are the women who will inspire you the most and help you keep going.

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, Thank You for giving us power, love and self-discipline. As a loving Heavenly Father, You don’t expect us to be perfect on every attempt. You see us making progress, like a toddler taking her first steps. Lead us to women who’ll inspire us to keep going. Help us to pursue those things You want us to accomplish.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

What is one thing you can stop beating yourself up about today?

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13 Responses to “It’s Time to Give Up on Giving Up”

  1. Trish says:

    Kathi,
    I thank God every day for all you gals and your Ministry of Girlfriends In God.
    You all have hit the nail on the head so many times but this morning I put more checks than ever before.
    I often think God uses my health to keep me reigned in. There’s always something for me to do, above all, PRAYER. I am 71 and feel so useless at times. Jesus walks with me at all times and helps carry me when I’m in need and when I am rejoicing, oh my how we dance if only in my mind. I love the Lord and know he loves me just as I am. Just plain old ordinary me. He has my heart and I will be doing all God’s will as long as I am breathing. I will be waiting each morning and evening to enjoy God’s sunrises and sunsets. I will sing to him every day and thank Jesus Christ for saving me.
    May the coming year be all and more than we expect.
    Thank you Jesus Christ for everything and everyone. Amen 🙏

  2. Darlene Pope says:

    Kathi, our church is a elderly church, these ladies do some much, I at 75, am amazed at what new things we learn, and are able too do for God’s work, you are important and God has things we both can do to encourage others younger mothers how important God is in a young family life in Christ, and still is in the aging ladies . You are not ordinary, not plain,you are necessary, beautiful. Darlene.

  3. Kathye says:

    Just what I needed today. I need to change needy lil me. I am not the only one struggling, the successful women I keep trying to focus on have an equal amount of not there yet women that see me as the success..

  4. melissa says:

    Thank you for these words; I needed to hear them so much today.

  5. Wendy says:

    Kathi,

    What a fantastic devotional for this time of year… a time of letting go and a time of renewal. Thank you for taking the time to share this meaningful message!

    Blessings for a happy, healthy, love-and-grace filled New Year.

  6. Deanna says:

    I have to quit beating myself up that I did something wrong that has caused my 30-year-old daughter to not live a Christian life. We did all we could to raise her in the church with Christian values and relationship with Jesus. I can’t make that decision for her. I can only try to be a good Christian witness, continue to pray and never give up. Thank you for reminding me that I have to stop beating myself up.

  7. Sherri says:

    Thank you Kathi AND the women who responded. Your testimonies and encouragements are soooo needed. I pray for each of you name by name.

    May God richly bless each of you.

  8. Sherri says:

    Thank you for this devotion today and for all the women who shared…it is so encouraging to know that we are not alone in our struggles 🙏❤️🙏

  9. Kathi says:

    Trish –

    Isn’t it amazing what God uses to keep us focused on Him? Thank you for being faithful in your praying and recognizing God’s goodness. You’ve encouraged me today.

    kathi

  10. Kathi Lipp says:

    Darlene –

    Thank you for your sweet encouragement! God bless you!

    kathi

  11. Kathi Lipp says:

    Oh Kathye –

    Isn’t that the truth. We can’t trust our own minds on this. We can only ask for eyes to see as God sees those around us.

    Kathi

  12. Kathi Lipp says:

    Melissa –

    I’m so grateful that the words came when you needed them. God is so good.

    kathi

  13. Kathi Lipp says:

    Deanna –

    So many of us moms are in the exact same place. I pray for my adult kids and know that seeds have been planted, they see that I love God, and them, no matter what. The rest is up to them and God. Hugs my friend.

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