Today’s Truth

Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand. Proverbs 19:21

Proverbs 19:21

Friend to Friend

Ants have been known to ruin a picnic or two, but recently they messed up my beach time and flustered my heart.

Yeah. I know. God made ants to live on the earth and we have to share space. But I just wasn’t prepared for my first afternoon away from home to be altered by the annoyance of their small yet mighty presence.

I’d really been looking forward to vacation and wanted to relax. To sit by the shoreline, chill out, and soak in the sun with my people. I wanted to enjoy the presence of God in the glory of His creation, not flick uninvited ants away from my towel and off my legs.

No rest was happening because it seemed that all of the ants in America had arranged a massive dance party on the East Coast and had failed to inform me ahead of time.

I had to leave.

The ants didn’t want me to join their beach party and I didn’t want to be there. I walked away disappointed and threw a little tantrum in my head. Why should I have to leave? I’m the human here! Ants are supposed to hang out in the dirt, not the sand!

I adjusted my plans and went to the pool instead.

There are times in life when things don’t work out as planned. Times when our expectations go unmet and we have to move on or make major adjustments.

You might feel like you’re spinning your wheels in a relationship right now. Maybe you haven’t moved on from something because you don’t like to quit, even though your time and energy might be more effectively spent elsewhere.

I don’t know the particulars of your unmet expectations and beach-ant frustrations, but God does. Even if you haven’t talked with Him about them yet.

And you’re not alone. We all have to wade through cloudy waters at times.

The Apostle Paul continually found himself in situations that were uncomfortable and frustrating. He was re-routed many times as he was rejected, thrown out of towns, beaten, and jailed. The Lord kept him from going to certain areas and led him in his journeys. (Acts 16:6) Through it all, Paul yielded his days to God’s leading. And that’s what I want to do.

We can’t change hearts or make people do what we want them to do. Yes, God may have called you to a ministry, a person’s life, etc. for a season of time, but that doesn’t mean you will stay on that beach forever.

Proverbs 19:21 says, “Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.”

So how can we know when to stay and when to go?

How can we know whether we should say yes or no to that opportunity?

How can we know when our uncomfortable situation is to refine us, to rebuke us or to re-route us?

There’s no simple answer, but there is a simple action: PRAY. Christians don’t have a crystal ball that shows us our future, but we do have access to God who delights to inform and lead His children.

Ask God for direction.

Be still before Him and listen.

Be faithful to go where He leads… even if it means that you need to change your plans, your attitude, your location or vocation.

Let’s Pray

Dear God, Please forgive me for the times when I am stubborn and unmovable. I want to go where You lead. Please direct my steps and help me to know what to do next about _______________ .

In Jesus’ Name,

Now It’s Your Turn

Proverbs 11: 14 says, “Where there is no guidance the people fall, but in an abundance of counselors there is victory.” Are you applying this principle in your life? What godly people do you go to when you need advice and prayer?

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9 Responses to “How to Know When to Go”

  1. Carolyn says:

    I learned this 332 years ago when one of my twins passed away at age of two. I now pray if it is your will. If asked if am going somewhere say now GOD willing. It’s a very hard lesson for most Christian’s to learn.

  2. Lori says:

    Excited to learn more about God

  3. CJ says:

    Your message today is very timely for me. I’ve had a falling out of sorts with a friend and am at the end of myself wondering how to fix it. Her propensity to gossip has become so distasteful to me. I have asked several times for her to leave me out of her gossip conversations but she insists she is sharing “prayer requests” (although we both know that’s not true and she has rarely included a prayer request in her revelations). I have reached the end of my tolerance for it but struggle with the fact that we have been friends a long time and she particularly needs a friend now. I feel, though, that our relationship is toxic to me as gossip is a sweet poison and hard to resist. I have spent many hours in prayer over it. Hanging out with her is like an alcoholic hanging out in a bar. I feel like your message today was written expressly for me (that’s not unusual). Thank you for starting my day on the right foot. Today, when I think of her (as I often do), I will not focus on what has me bugged but on praying for God to show me where to go next with this relationship.
    God bless you and the work you do.

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  5. Anne says:

    Thank you for this, it is obligation and not wanting to dissappoint that keeps us when we knwo the Lord wants us somewhere else. This gave me a big kick in the right direction today. God’s perfect timing, thank you.

  6. Bukky says:

    Your word came in timely 4 me today. God has used you to bless me And give me peace. I have struggled and struggled to make my relationship work but it finally time to Let go and word dis morning has reminded to Let Go and allow God’s plan come to pass.

  7. Jen says:

    Thank you for this good word! I’m sending this to my husband who has been stuck in an unhealthy, toxic work environment for years now to encourage him. He is trying to discern whether to stay and cope/look for what God is trying to teach him in such a bad situation or whether he should go- radically by taking a leap of faith (which we can’t financially afford) by quitting or by trying to find another job soon. I pray for him daily and just can’t figure out what God is trying to do in this harsh season that affects our whole family…but I know it isn’t for me to figure out. God’s up to something good…always. Even with ants and toxic workplaces…

  8. Wendy says:

    Hi, I am new to this website, but not new to trusting and worshipping God. 5 years ago I suffered a traumatic brain injury. I’m now disabled, but if you looked at me you could never tell. If you talked to me, you’d eventually figure something is different about me. This change in my life is difficult for me, but I’m really trying hard to follow Gods plan for me. I’m not positive what His plan is yet, but I try to let my light shine for Him. It’s very hard to let go of the old Wendy and accept the new, but God is helping me through the changes in myself that really hurt. I still have a lot of figuring out to do, but I know God will carry me through them all the way!

  9. Beth says:

    This is so good. I recently switched jobs and by all indications (because I prayed hard over it and got the go-ahead) it was a good move. No, an EXCELLENT move. More money, a better schedule, brand new pretty EVERYTHING. Kind, supportive colleagues, COMMITTED folk! MY KIND OF TRIBE!!! A savvy move. Everything looked SO beautiful from the outside looking in. I’m in this thing now and it is more than what I EVER imagined. I’ve been in this line of work for almost 30 years and have seen a LOT in my time- but I have NEVER dealt with or seen ANYTHING on this level of crazy before. Stay or go? Right now it’s pretty horrible on the daily and it’s not within my power to change any of this- it’s hardcore demonic oppression and this system is WAAAAY bigger than me. I get anointed with oil to make it through, because I am God’s anointed. I’m always reminded of Jesus’ ministry and the stuff that Paul went through. I love on those who will let me and the others I pray for and love them according to their needs and keep it moving. This too shall pass and I’m going through this thing one day at a time. Don’t know where I will be a year from now, though. God is in control!

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