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Today’s Truth

The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results (James 5:16 NLT).

Friend to Friend

Allan was a tough man. Raised by a single mom with five siblings, he learned how to scrap his way through life and climb to the top of humanity’s heap through sheer determination and grit.

He married at nineteen, had his first son at twenty, then a baby girl at twenty-five. Over the next two decades he advanced from driving a delivery truck at a lumberyard to becoming part owner of a building supply company.

Allan drank heavily, fought with his wife verbally and physically, and terrorized his children emotionally. He gambled, dabbled in pornography, and had questionable relationships laced with a host of unsavory vices.

But when his teenage daughter gave her life to Jesus and began praying for her family, God grabbed the chisel of grace and began chipping away at Allan’s proud heart of stone. One day he told her, “I’ll go to church with you from time to time, but I could never become a Christian. I’ve done too many horrible things in my life. God could never forgive me. I could never be good enough.”

His daughter explained that no one could ever be good enough. If we could, then Jesus wouldn’t have had to die on the cross to pay for our sins. But Allan couldn’t wrap his mind around that kind of grace.

When Allan was forty-six years old, his life took several hairpin troublesome turns. Because of a business deal gone terribly wrong, he was sued for breach of contract and breaking a no compete clause with a former employer.

Allan teetered on the brink of a nervous breakdown. From man’s perspective, it appeared he was on the verge of losing it all. From God’s perspective, Allan was right where he needed to be.

It was that year that Allan met a Christian man, a pastor, who had done everything he had done, and yet knew the forgiveness of Jesus. Through this man, Allan gave his life to Christ. The way Allan later explained what happened that day was this: “That man had done everything I had done. I knew that if God could forgive him and he could be a pastor, then God could forgive me too.”

Allan was my dad.

From my earliest years as a Christian, I experienced the power of prayer to change a man’s life—to strengthen a man’s resolve, to protect a man’s heart, and to mature a man’s faith. My firsthand encounter with God’s faithfulness to hear our pleas for the men in our lives began with my father and continues with my husband and son.

James tells us, “The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results” (James 5:16 NLT). The Amplified Version says it this way: The heartfelt and persistent prayer of a righteous man (believer) is able to accomplish much [when put into action and made effective by God—it is dynamic and can have tremendous power].

As a praying woman, you have the power to open the floodgates of heaven through prayer on behalf of your husband, your son, your daughter, and your friends.

If you are married, whether your husband has a lukewarm fledgling faith, or lives a fiery firm faith, there is no one more qualified to pray for his relationship with Christ than you. No matter where your husband is on the continuum of faithlessness to faithfulness, I encourage you to pray with “the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not see” (Hebrews 11:1, NASB).

Let’s Pray

Today, we’re going to do our prayer a little different. Use this guide from my book, Praying from Your Husband from Head to Toe to pray for someone special in your life.

Dear Lord, I pray for ________________.

Shoulders – No matter what                    goes through today, assure him that nothing is too hard for You. Empower him to cut the cords of worry with the saber of praise and to place his burdens on Your able shoulders. Genesis 18:14; Deuteronomy 31:8; Psalm 9:10.

Heart – Place a hedge of protection around                  heart to keep corruption out and purity in. Proverbs 4:23; Proverbs 17:20; Proverbs 17:22.

Back – Protect                   in the physical and spiritual realms. Keep him from the devil’s schemes that would attempt to trap him or trip him up. Thank you that no weapon formed against him will stand. John 10:10; 2 Corinthians 2:11; Ephesians 6:10-18.

Arms – Help                      be strong and courageous in Your mighty power. Bolster his courage when he is afraid and reassure him when he doubts. Deuteronomy 31:6; Joshua 1:9; Isaiah 30:15.

Hands – Bless the work of                   hands. Reward his efforts and bring him success. Deuteronomy 33;11; Deuteronomy 28:12-13.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

What is your most pressing prayer for your marriage or the man in your life?

Leave a comment with your prayer request and then pray for the woman’s name above yours. You don’t need to share a lot of details. God’s got them all!

More From the Girlfriends

As a wife, you have been given the privilege of serving as a mighty prayer warrior for your husband. Yet sometimes, even when poised with the best of intentions, the task can feel overwhelming. You wonder: What should I pray? How should I pray? What prayers does he need right now?

In Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe, Sharon Jaynes maps out sixteen landmarks to help you consistently and effectively cover your husband in prayer – from his mind and the thoughts he thinks, to his eyes and the images he sees, all the way down to his feet and the path he takes, Sharon teaches you how to pray for your husband in ways that are powerful, practical and life-changing.

© 2021 by Sharon Jaynes. All rights reserved

75 Responses to “How Prayer Can Change a Man’s Heart”

  1. Carolyn says:

    Thank You for this prayer today & reminder that I can be a prayer warrior for my husband. Since I’m the first to comment, I’ll pray for you Sharon. My request is for my husband’s work – it is physically demanding & stressful – he is considering a change & we’re looking for the path. <3

  2. Lorelei says:

    Thank you for this prayer today. I have prayed for Carolyn and her husband to find a pathway to a new job that is more rewarding and less physically demanding. My request is for my husband Gordon, to find his way to the Lord. I also pray for his work that it may be rewarding and successful in the coming years.

  3. Carol says:

    That he will see past the physical, into my heart and soul.

    Carol praying for you,Carolyn

  4. Janice says:

    Thanks for the reminder I have the awesome privilege to pray for my husband an family. This ministry had blessed me. Thank you for all of your transparency an truly sharing the real of it all. It gives hope to all who read.
    Xoxo

  5. Michele says:

    Thank you for the reminder that I can be a mighty warrior for my husband and my father- in -law that they can find Jesus and that their journey in Faith is far from finished. Our God is so good! Praying for Janice, her husband and for the countless women who find peace and strength in your writing. God bless!

  6. Rebekah says:

    Thank you for your words of encouragement today. Your timing is impeccable. I ask for prayers for my fiancé, Jonathan. He and I live an hour apart and he is in search of a job that can allow us to live in the same town when we get married next year. A lot of doors have been closed during his job search and he is becoming discouraged. Pray for God to put him in the right place at His perfect time. Thank you!

  7. Angela says:

    My husband is in a lot of pain every single day. He has had multiple back surgeries. I work a lot of hours and he is on disability. We both crave physical intimacy but I think it effects my husband more. Please pray for him to be lifted up emotionally, spiritually and physically. Also that I will be able to find ways to encourage him and let him know that he is still the leader of our family.

  8. Michelle says:

    Thanks for the reminder to continuously cover our husband in prayer. Praying for my husband Pat as God builds his business to another level.

    I’m praying for Rebekah and Jonathan her finance,
    Michelle

  9. Melissa says:

    My biggest prayer for my husband is that he put God first in everything he does. My husband knows the Lord but will not fully surrender. I know that if he was to put God first the hurtful words would stop, the lying would stop, and we can begin to build our marriage and family back.

  10. Sherri says:

    Prayed these prayers not only for my husband, but also for my wayward son and troubled teen daughter — I am weary — and this was a sweet relief

  11. Carol says:

    Dear Angela….I’m praying that your husband, is given a release of pain today, so that he can come back to a place of peace, through Jesus.

    Sharon, Thanks, for this writing. I’m so wrong, when it comes to family. I need to stay in consistent prayer for my family and in particular, my husband.
    They need Jesus, and I need His strength. Your prayer is so powerful, it was my “light bulb” for today.

  12. Pam says:

    I am praying that he will lose his taste and craving for alcohol.

  13. Pam says:

    Dear Sherri,
    I am praying this for your husband and children.

  14. Marie says:

    Thanks today devotional came in the right moment. My pray request is for my son he is a teenager and is having many disappointments with his father. I pray that God help him keep his heart at peace and give him wisdom.

  15. Marie says:

    Pam I will praying for you

  16. Mary says:

    Prayer for my relationship with my son, his wife and I. It is broken between us and they are not responding to my requests for a conversation. I’m praying for healing of this relationship. I have four beautiful grandchildren I have not spoken with.

  17. Kms says:

    And who will pray for me? I was told yesterday to search my heart to see what I have done to make my husband lie to me about drinking and chatting with other women. That I will win Him over with quiet mouth. It felt like salt in an open wound to someone who already feels ugly and worthless.

  18. KATHLEEN says:

    I SO PRAY THAT MY HUSBAND GAIN RESPECT FOR ME AND TO KNOW THE LORD INSIDE & OUT. HE NEEDS GOD’S TO WAKE IS SOUL.

  19. Kami A Root says:

    I pray that my husband, Jonathan, will be able to handle the huge amount of pressure put on him at work daily.

  20. Kami A Root says:

    Marie, I prayed for your son and his father.

  21. Pattie says:

    I have been blessed with a wonderful loving Christian husband and so my prayer today is one of thankfulness and clarity of mind as he does his church books and manages personnel issues.

    I am praying for you Marie.

  22. Brenda says:

    I am praying for your husband Kami.

    Please pray for my husband , we so need to be in church together. He says he is a Christian and I don’t question that, but we are so far apart in our walk with the Lord. Also, pray for my son’s family who have strayed away from God.

  23. Elsa Gemma says:

    BLESSINGS to you all don’t have a husband, so I placed my loved ones in the spaces just eight of us and need the Lord to continue 🙏 to provide and protect their hearts

  24. Sue says:

    My husband has a critical spirit.

  25. Cathy says:

    Prayers for my Dad. They are putting in a pace maker today.

    Praying for you Marie and your son.

  26. Gina says:

    Thank you for this Sharon! I have seen this devotional from you before and this is one I constantly go back to. I’m asking for prayers for my husband who has a very physically demanding job and carries the stresses of our finances at the moment since I was “laid off” from my job.

    Elsa, I am praying for you and all your loved ones! I pray the Lord will protect you all physically, mentally, socially and spiritually!

    May God bless all of you that have posted in this forum today! I’ll say a prayer for each and every one of you! May you be filled with the Lord’s peace and may he give you strength in your time of need!

  27. Alicia says:

    Elsa, I pray for you and your loved ones to feel the protection of the Lord.

    My husband is going through a season where he is very negative and depressed. He is having a hard time seeing the light in many things. I pray for the Lord to see him through his depression, and for Him to give me the right words to help my husband as well.

  28. Sarah says:

    I pray for my husband and our relationship. God knows the details. Elsa Gemma I will hold you and your loved ones in prayer, praying for continual provision and protection.

  29. Maureen says:

    Complete healing of body,mind and spirit for my husband. Complete healing of my marriage and for God to remove my selfishness.

  30. Julia says:

    I really loved the prayer for today that covers every part of the body. I am going to continue to pray that prayer each day, thank you! My husband is deployed right now and I am asking for prayers for his safety moment by moment. Kami, I am praying for your husband and his work load and stress and that you will both have joy and room for enjoying each other!

  31. Shannon says:

    Elsa Gemma, you, your friends, and family were in my prayers. Praying for God’s goodness to touch all of your hearts, for salvation and repentance, for protection, for God to plant His divine seed in their hearts and to water them, for your wisdom and faith to pray for your loved ones. God bless you!

    Please pray for my husband, Paul’s, salvation and the healing of his heart, mind, soul and spirit. Please pray for his heart to be softened and true forgiveness towards me. Ultimately, pray for God’s will to be done in our marriage. Thank you.

  32. Kelly says:

    Prayed this for my husband ,son ,and brother. Please remember them in your prayers. Thankyou

  33. Stephanie says:

    This devotion was so timely, thank you. Pray that my SO, Bill, will follow the Lord in all things, be willing to share more of himself with me without fear so we can have a better relationship

  34. Boitumelo says:

    Sarah I lift your husband and your relationship to the Lord. May you find peace and comfort at the feed of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

    I pray that there will be peace and harmony in my house. I pray for my husband to take up his role as the Spiritual leader and head the of our home. I pray that he will rely on God more and lean on Him more.

  35. Stephanie says:

    Praying for Sarah and her relationship with her husband

  36. Vickie says:

    I pray fir my husband giving his life to Christ.

    Sarah, I am praying for your relationship.

  37. Andrea says:

    Sarah I am praying for your husband and your relationship.
    I am asking for prayers for my husband to be able to “see” and understand the issues that have taken place in our marriage and with our children. Also asking for leading and wisdom for myself.

  38. Father God, please direct David in your pathway as he makes choices that honor you! May Sarah and her husband experience your love in a refreshingly new way. Bless Sharon as she continues to serve you with all her heart.

  39. Stephanie says:

    Praying for Hope’s husband David that you will direct his path in every decision he makes. Pray William Jamal will seek you 1st and work to remove things that stifle our relationship

  40. Tina says:

    Thanks for the encouragement I get to pray for my husband and our family, our son has not Jesus in his heart ♥️

  41. Jessica says:

    I will lift up your husbands and children may God bless you all as we continue to press forward trusting Him to do the great work. Please lift up my husband as well. This was a divine appointment God knows what happened yesterday. Thanks Sharon for allowing God to speak to us this way. Honestly yesterday’s devotional was a huge blessing as well God speaking to me. But today I definitely wanted to ask you lovely ladies to please lift up my husband as well! Thank you 🙂

  42. Deborsh says:

    I’ve been separated from my husband for 9 years. He said he wasn’t happy and wanted to be happy. Not sure what I want to do. I’m doing well. His bros and sister’s have the same problem, they don’t stay in relationships long. Their father left them.
    Hope praying that God will order David footstep’s according to his will in heaven amen.

  43. Kristi says:

    Jessica, may God bless you and give you peace as you pray for your husband. I am asking for fervent prayers for our son, Brian…many details God is fully aware of. Job, relationship, responsibilities, and an open heart & mind to accepting Jesus. This devotion could not have been more perfect today for this mom’s hurting heart.

  44. Grace says:

    I prayed this prayer for my 21 year old son and his friend, for my nephew and his mom my sister.

  45. Lu says:

    I love this prayer, and Jessica I will be praying for your husband! This is mine and my husband’s second marriage each. He is a Christian, but his upbringing (or lack thereof), former marriage (non-Christian, unloving woman who turned their two sons against him), and career in federal law enforcement(now retired), has left him floundering with issues of anger, resentment, and little empathy – not even knowing what a traditional loving family “feels” like. He is very intelligent, and seeks deep knowledge and understanding from the Bible and God’s will, but still struggles with bitterness and overall happiness – mainly because of the estrangement from his sons – one he hasn’t heard from in 6 years. I’m trying to convince him to see a counselor who can professionally help him through his struggles and grief. Please pray that he will seek this help, and that he will seek God’s help even more than he does, and fully and completely lean into and trust God’s will and timing. Pray that God will fill him with peace and happiness in Him so that he can move forward in a truly Christ-filled life. Thank you!

  46. Julie says:

    Jessica,

    I have prayed for your husband and that whatever happened yesterday God will turn into a divine blessing for him and you!

    Please pray for my wonderful husband who is in the midst of trying to retire from a business he founded in 1985 and that God’s will will be done for the successor.

    Blessing and prayers to all and remember never quit praying!

  47. Monica says:

    Julie,
    May the Lord give your husband wisdom, guidance and courage to continue to press forward to retirement. May the Lord give him peace and assurance regarding the successor of his company.

    Please pray for my husband and I that we will be able to spend more quality time with each other. I love him so much and he is wonderful. I ask that our schedules can calm down and we can just be.

    Thank you and many blessings to everyone!

  48. Angela says:

    What an awesome devotion as always.
    Jessica, I thank God for you and your life and family today. I pray that God will perfect all that concerns your husband today In Jesus Name, Amen.
    I’m praying today that God will strengthen my husband to work in a position were he is moving from place to place doing the job of two men amidst health issues and that he will continue to build a better relationship with our daughter. God bless you all

  49. Joy says:

    Julie,
    I pray for your husband and family during this period of transition.

    My husband needs prayers for his salvation. And I and my husband need prayers for his depression and anxiety.

  50. Tammy says:

    Pray for my Fiancé and I, we have been together for 4 years off and on. I am living with him now since COVID, I knew I should have not stepped into this situation though mainly fear . And I feel now that my relationship with God is being tore apart with my decision. Not being married. He know how I feel but definitely do not want to push.
    He is a good man and saved, but he struggles with a lot of strongholds he is dealing with as well. I pray and pray for God to change our situation and give wisdom if not meant to be. Thank you for prayers!

  51. Denise says:

    Please pray that my husband would forgive his mom and and show her grace and kindness and patience for all.

  52. Denise says:

    Lord, I am praying for Julie’s husband who has worked long and hard. May this be a wonderful new beginning for him and not the end of the road. It’s hard to let go of what we have poured our heart and soul into but we ask that he will trust that You to lead the right person to be his successor. Help him to seize every opportunity that arises and to explore the skills and gifts that You have given him, so that they may be used to glorify Your name, Amen

  53. Kayssi says:

    My husband struggles with lies. Please help me pray for him. Thank you

  54. Pat says:

    Pray for my adult son who suffers from anxiety & some depression & self-medicates with alcohol.
    I’m praying for your husband, Denise, that he is able to forgive his mom and love her with the love of Jesus.

  55. Deanna says:

    My husband was your dad, Sharon. Raised in a strict legalistic family he kept it all inside until we were married. The drinking, fighting, affairs all took it’s toll on our son. He was a sweet child until 15 when he began drinking. He made very poor decisions that led him in jail. He’s bipolar and currently has been in and out of homelessness sadly for 10 years. My husband still struggles with anger but with years of counseling and now 70 years old he’s making progress. I too have gone through counseling, including forgiving his behaviors. Throughout it all he maintained a good job in corporate America, providing a home for us. Years spent praying for both my boys continues. My husband will soon be retiring. We hope for a life of service to God as He blesses us.To God be the glory. When all we see are the ashes God sees the beauty!

  56. Sandi says:

    Please pray for my son that he finds his way to Jesus and opens his heart to God. Help him to find faith.

    Denise – I am praying that your husband shows mercy and grace to his mother and finds patience and kindness for all. May the lord bless him and keep him.

  57. sandi says:

    Denise,

    I pray that your husband is able to find the love in his heart to show his mother forgiveness and grace. Please remind him that Jesus has forgiven us for everything. May he find patience and understanding in all he comes in contact with and with himself.

  58. Carola says:

    Me confirmas Sharon , que Dios escucha nuestras oraciones.oro por qué mi esposo deje de mirar mujeres ,se que Dios me responderá.

    Gracias por Compartir tu vida ,es un aliciente.

  59. Judy says:

    I pray for my husband’s health both mentally and physically. I pray that he will always know that you are in charge. I also pray for my son’s safety and well being and that he will give his life to Christ. I also pray for Carola and whatever she may be dealing with.

  60. Rebecca says:

    I need prayer for my husband’s salvation. Pray that he finds his way back to God & stops listening to friends giving him unGodly advice. Please pray that a Godly man comes into his life & witnesses to him. Pray that God makes his heart receptive to God’s teaching.

    I am praying for Judy’s husband’s health both mentally & physically. Also for Judy’s son to come to know Christ & give his life over to him.

  61. Vane says:

    I am praying for everyone’s husband! May God take control of every situation and may the Holy Spirit give each of you peace that surpasses all understanding.

    I recently started praying for my future husband. And this devotional is very encouraging :).

  62. Nicki says:

    Today my prayer requests from my son. He is struggling emotionally with the divorce of his dad and I. He feels like it’s his fault. He feels like our divorce has ruined his life. He’s been struggling for more than seven years! Thank you for giving me the prayer of your son from head to toe I will save it and use it daily. I would appreciate your prayers too! Thank you.

  63. Jenny says:

    My husband and I have been separated for 3 months now. I pray for God’s healing touch over our brokenness. I pray for my sons and for their personal relationship with Christ. May they walk through life with the confident assurance of the Lord’s power, protection, and providence over every area of their lives. May they feel His loving presence comforting and guiding them. I pray for the Lord to put a shield over their hearts during this confusing time and grant them peace of mind.

    For Judy, may the Lord’s goodness manifest through her husband’s health and well-being. May the Lord reveal his presence to her son at every turn so that His grace, love, and mercy may be undeniable.

  64. Tisha says:

    Prayers for my 2 prodigal young adult sons to embrace God’s mercy and grace. And all 3 of my children to be surrounded by Christian friends to encourage their walk through salvation. Lastly, my husband to let go of trying to remain in control and trust completely in Jesus finished work on the cross and surrender all to Jesus and be saved! Thank you for your prayers.

    Judy praying by His stripes your husband is healed and restored and for your sons salvation and protection in Jesus Mighty Name! Amen.

  65. Tenisha says:

    I really enjoyed this devotional and although I am not married, I used the fill in the blank prayer for my cousin (whom I was close to) is missing. I am praying for all you ladies prayer request. Love you all and have a blessed day.

  66. Karen says:

    Tisha, I’m praying for your two”prodigals “, that they would experience Gods love and know that they are loved by their family who wants to welcome them home. I am also praying for your three children, that The Lord will surround them with Godly friends that they can be safe with and trust, and learn from as they journey to salvation.

    For your husband, I pray that he is able to let go of control that we humans crave and to give it Jesus who already has it covered.

    I am praying for my husband and our marriage, we are struggling with intimacy issues, and my husband is suffering from anger, deep anger, at the state of the world and our country. He often takes it out on me and our teens, not physically but mentally. He is drinking too much and sometimes I want to leave but I love him and we’ve been married 27 years. He believes in God and supports my Christian beliefs and my guidance in this area for our kids but won’t share if he’s given his life to Jesus. I will start this new prayer for him tonight. Thank you.

  67. Karen says:

    Tisha, I’m praying for your intentions, that the Lord may hear you and answyypur prayers in His best and most beautiful way.

    I left a prayer request for my husband and our marriage, but it did not post and it’s too upsetting to retype it. Please pray for me.

    Love in Christ.

  68. Jen says:

    I’m praying for Tisha’s 3 children and husband and for Tisha to feel God’s love and peace surrounding her.

    Please pray for my sweet son who is struggling in early sobriety and is challenged with depression and anxiety. And please pray for my husbands heart to soften towards our son and for my husband to feel God’s love and to see His hand at work in his life. Thank you❤️

  69. Kris says:

    My prayers to you Trish and your family. I prayed over my husband hundreds of times , his eyes, his mind, his heart, his feet…. over and over again. And he still walked away with his work girlfriend and left me shattered after 26 years together. But he’s blessed new house, new car, vacations , he’s living well now!

  70. Cailin says:

    I’m praying for you Kris, that God can place his hands of peace and healing on you. <3

    Prayers requested for my husband who is dealing with significant depression that is bleeding into his work and our marriage. Thank you!

  71. Kristin says:

    Trish, I’m praying for healing, faith, and comfort. You’re a strong prayer warrior for you and your family. God bless you.

    Six years of growing together in our relationship seemed to take an unexpected pause after our recent marriage. Stress and worry has taken hold of our quality time, expression of love, and joy for one another. I pray we find that passion for each other again and block out the worldly stressors when we are together.

  72. Deborah says:

    Needed to read this devotional this morning. I have spent so much time with God praying for my husband the last few months. As he starts 6 weeks of radiation that zaps his energy and will, I ask for prayers for healing, patience, strength, and courage for my husband. He tries so hard to be optimistic, but there are days thrown in where he just has to be down. Thank you all for your prayers of healing.

  73. Sara says:

    My friend and her husband do not know the Lord. She has known me for years, about 15. I got the chance to pray for her the other day. First time! Please pray for their salvation and God would protect her husband from the devil’s schemes and evil work in his mind and heart. Please pray for a pure heart and new desires for holiness.

    Thank you so much!

  74. Carol says:

    sara I pray for your strength in guiding your friends. I pray also against the evils in her husband’s mind and heart.
    I’m needing strong prayers against the same things for my husband. Hes had to move 5hrs away for work. Which outs him in the home of an unsaved alcoholic brother who tells my husband to be done with me. Has no boundaries on causing pain and drags my husband down.
    Please pray against our impending divorce.

  75. Rita says:

    I have been a widow for almost 4 years, I have been praying for a godly companion, and I currently have a godly friend in my life that I’m praying for God’s will to be done in our lives. I love the prayers in this devotion, while my friend is not my husband I will pray these prayers over him, as I only want God’s best for him.

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