Today’s Truth

Teach me your way, Lord, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name (Psalm 86:11, NIV).

Friend to Friend

“Mom! We have to go buy sponge rollers! They’re incredible! Last night, before we went to bed, Mrs. Robertson rolled our hair in sponge rollers and when we woke up this morning our hair was curly!”

My flaxen-haired little girl bounced with uncontainable effervescence.

“Wow! That’s exciting, Kennedy,” I replied amused. “I used sponge rollers when I was a little girl too… but I wasn’t a big fan. They made my head hurt when I laid down. Are you sure you want sponge rollers?”

“Yes, mom! I loved having curly hair! It was so great. We just have to get some!”

So, the very next day we went to the store and got us some.

Fast forward to that evening. I gave her a few basic sponge roller instructions:

“After your shower, blow dry your hair to be mostly dry. Leave it just an itty bit damp and then I will come up to roll it. And in the morning your hair will be nice and curly for school!”

“No, mom! I know how to do it. I watched Mrs. Robertson last night. I don’t need help.”

“Kennedy, it’s a bit tricky. There are a lot of important little details that I can teach you, but I really think it would be best if you let me roll your hair tonight so you can learn.”

“I can do it, mom! I want to do it myself,” she stubbornly insisted.

And she rolled her hair… exactly as you would expect an eight-year-old-sponge-roller-novice to roll her hair. It was a whack job. I knew the next morning would not be her finest hair moment, but I also knew enough to bite my tongue for the sake of the lesson she would learn. With an ache in my momma’s heart, I tucked her in and prayed for the best.

The next day…“Mom! It didn’t work! My hair is a mess! Half the rollers fell out onto my pillow… sniff… and I look horrible!”

“Honey, I’m so sorry. It’s okay. Just go wash your hair again and wear it straight for school today. We can try again tonight, and I will help you this time.” I used my most consoling mom-voice… stuffing down the I-told-you-so that wanted to slip out.

That night after Kennedy’s shower, she blew her hair to mostly dry and then handed me her sponge rollers. As we sat on the edge of her pink comforter, I taught her how to use sponge rollers.

Morning brought the beauty she had hoped for! Springs of blonde bounced lively around her unstoppable smile. I snapped a photo as she ate cereal because it was a darling moment. A little girl and her happy curls.

I journaled about the sponge roller ordeal once she and the boys had gone to school. I was struck by how stubborn she’d been that first night. She simply would not hand over the sponge rollers to me – even though I had a lifetime of experience with the squishy beauty tools. Once she surrendered them, however, lessons were learned, and she began to understand the proper way to accomplish her beauty goal.

As I wrote, the Lord whispered to my heart. “You know, darling, you do this all the time with Me.”

And I do.

I frequently and stubbornly insist on doing things on my own. Without help from God. Without help from the One who is all-wise, all-knowing, all-powerful, all-gracious, and fully able.

Perhaps you do too?

Let’s pray as the psalmist David did. “Teach me your way, Lord, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name” (Psalm 86:11, NIV).

Your way, Lord.


Not mine.

And that is our charge for today. To relinquish control of our actions, thoughts, and responses to the LORD. When we do, the world around us will surely see His beauty.

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, I’m sorry. I know I often take matters into my own hands. I want You to lead. I need You to lead. I need to want You to lead – so much more than I do. Teach me Your ways. Empower me with Your Spirit and give me an undivided heart that I might follow tight to Your Word and to Your will.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn 

What do you need to hand over to God today? Will you do it?

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3 Responses to “Got Control Issues?”

  1. April says:

    This spoke to my heart today. Thank you.

  2. Kami says:

    God has been urging me to tell my best friend who grew up christian that Jesus loves her, she is His, is written on the palm of his hand and very much wants her back. She is Wiccan now. She believes in God, but no longer that Jesus is the messiah. I’m terrified and keep putting it off. I need to relinquish my wanting to control the situation and let him make this work out well. I’m just lost as to how to actually do that.

  3. Connie says:

    i hope you see this. i am praying that God will give courage, wisdom, grace and His right spirit to talk to your friend.

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