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Today’s Truth

But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light” (1 Peter 2:9, NIV).

Friend to Friend

Have you ever felt left out?

I remember, as a kid, sitting on the curb at recess while the other girls in my class jumped rope. I sat alone. I stared at them. Inside, I knew where I stood with these girls. I wasn’t welcome. I had tried to join their club before; it didn’t work out so well.

Recently, I felt like that little girl on the curb again. It happened when a group of women laughed. They simply shared an inside-joke that I didn’t understand and, yet again, I felt left-out. I got triggered. I called the women “clique-ish” in my head and I hated their actions.

Yet, when I got home, I believe God prompted a thought. It occurred to me like this: “Is it the girls that you really hate – or, is it you, Kelly, that you really hate?”

Wow. Maybe my hurt has nothing to do with them and everything to do – with me.

I stopped to think…maybe I hate how I don’t feel good enough. Maybe I hate that I don’t have a best friend. Maybe I hate how that fact seems to declare me unworthy and unwanted.

Am I flawed?

My husband told me this morning, “Kelly, you are who God says you are. Walk in the fullness of that reality.”

He’s right. Scripture says that we, as believers, are a “chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that (we) may declare the praises of him who called (us) out of darkness into his wonderful light.” (1 Peter 2:9, NIV.)

My friend, no matter how people treat you, I want you to know that you, truly, are chosen by God. He handpicked you. He gave you a unique fingerprint. He formed and fashioned you just right, even before you were born.

You are royalty in His eyes. You are the kid of The King. Not only this, but you are holy. Holy means “set apart”, which means you may not be included in everything, at all times. God sets us apart to set good and important things within us.

You also are God’s possession. He owns you. God takes care of what He owns. Look at nature. Doesn’t nature testify of God’s amazing ability to steward beautiful things? The sunrise. The ocean. The birds. God’s creation is beautiful. You are too.

It is vitally important for us to know that we are wanted, chosen, and worthy of God’s love. Hard things will sometimes happen to us, but we rise above circumstances when we remember who we are in Christ Jesus. Keep your eyes on God more than you keep track of the offenses of man.

Why? Because it is through Christ’s love that we learn to stand firm and strong – no matter what we face.

In this, your heart won’t continually break; but instead, it will continually proclaim the excellencies of Him who is great. You will have much to be thankful for and much to share with those around you. This sort of Christ-sourced life is powerful.

Truly, my friends, the more you know God and the more you know who you are — the less insecurity has leeway to plague you.

Do you know who you are? Do you know the great love of Jesus?

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, sometimes I do not feel that great about myself. I am asking You to heal the places of insecurity and uncertainty within me. I am asking You to restore me in Your love. I am asking You to renew me in the fact that You are faithful and true, righteous and good, holy and wise. In You, I am safe. In You, I am loved. In You, I am chosen. May I know this in my heart, even more than I do in my mind.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

Where have women hurt you?
How might God’s truth want to heal you right now?
What might you need to see differently?

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18 Responses to “Dealing with Feelings”

  1. Audra says:

    I have experienced those exact two scenarios many times in my life. Thank you for this message today, thank you for reminding me who I am!

  2. Susan says:

    Oh Kelly, this could have been pulled right from the pages of my journal. This past weekend, I had all those same ugly insecurities surface (again) and spoke almost the same words to my husband-

    “I stopped to think…maybe I hate how I don’t feel good enough. Maybe I hate that I don’t have a best friend. Maybe I hate how that fact seems to declare me unworthy and unwanted.

    Am I flawed?”

    And I prayed for God to fill me and remind me that I am HIS, created by Him for Him…loved, chosen and wanted!

    Thank you for your words of honesty, pain and faith!

  3. Sheila says:

    Dearest Kelly, you are so loved, not only by our Lord, but by all us women you touch through your devotional s. I always look forward to hearing from you. Thank you for sharing your inmost weaknesses and for showing us how to turn ours over to Him. You are enough! We love you!❤️

  4. Amy says:

    It’s seem so odd to me that there are so many of us women who long for that heart of my heart best friend and yet, don’t have one. Somehow, just knowing I’m not alone in that desire helps. I love the last few phrases of your prayer in particular, as they are a wonderful declaration to say daily to help remind us who we are. For years I have often prayed “God, I declare this day that You are who You say You are and You can do what You say You can do. I am who YOU say I am, I can do all things through Christ, and Your word is alive and active in me. I am believing You this day.” I now think I will add “In You, I am safe. In You, I am loved. In You, I am chosen. May I know this in my heart, even more than I do in my mind. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    Thank you for sharing with us!

  5. Cyndie says:

    Wonderful devotion. So true!!!

  6. Cindee says:

    Oh, girl! These words are just what I needed to digest right now! Thank you for sharing your Godly insight and know that you were able to nudge the heart of a sister in Christ. ❤️ Thank you!

  7. Melissa says:

    Please pray for me today. I feel like such a nothing. I’m in mess with husband and issues with teens. I wish he would just take me home today.

  8. JoAnn says:

    Melissa,I pray God will give you strength today and the next and the next. I have felt exactly the way you are feeling. God can and does turn the ashes into beauty. hang in there. stick close to Jesus. listen to christian music. pamper yourself. i’m praying for you. Your sister in Christ (in WI)

  9. April says:

    This spoke directly to the feelings I have had for years. It seems that God has set me apart to shine his light on others. Using me as his servant to help others save their souls from the enemy trying to take them away from God in various ways, women as well as men in my life. This has presented animosity, jealousy and envy from folks who believe they know more or are above me and not want to adhere to the truth and made them remove their friendship, exclude me but God continues to weigh on their hearts because they keep coming back in some firm or fashion as if they did nothing and without apology. God expects a lot from me, he thinks I am stronger than I am and I grow weak and tired, having to take lots of time re-loading fir the next set of people and issues. What I know fir sure is that God must delight in me because he has answered almost every desire of my heart and I believe he is not done yet, he has taught me to forgive myself and others as myself and to accept and love people inspire of themselves and not being able to apologize. They do what they can and I remain who God says I am andI am his freely,

  10. Audra,
    I get it! I am so glad that this post is reminding you of who you are!

  11. I know those thoughts well. The enemy is real and he tries to get us to rely on those feelings. I pray that you are able to draw near to God and resist the lies. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

  12. Kelly Balarie says:

    Sheila! You make me want to cry. It is my honor to share.

  13. Kelly says:

    Amy! That’s a powerful prayer! I love it. I love the part about the Word being alive and active.

  14. Thank you, Cyndie.

  15. Melissa, I pray that the comfort of God be all around you. I pray that you feel encouraged and loved as you get in God’s presence. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

  16. Jen says:

    Thank you so much for this. It felt like you read my heart and soul – I have felt like this countless times. God has been opening my eyes to truly see myself as He sees me – not others or myself. I cannot tell you how much this devotion meant to me.

  17. Connie says:

    Thank you Kelly for this heartwarming devotional and for being vulnerable in the presence of your sisters in Christ. Melissa, I am currently in a seemingly never ending life storm and I have on several occasions felt overwhelmed like you. However, I can attest that when the enemy comes in like a flood, the Spirit of the living God lifts up a standard against him. God WILL provide a way of escape so you can bear it. We would rather a quick escape from our trials, but God helps us to bear them so that the genuine of our faith can be proven. Jesus never promised to keep us out of the fire, but he has promised to always be with us. There have been times when the intensity of the fire is such that I have vented my anger to God and let Him know in no uncertain terms that I am “done with Him.” However, when I am done one undone, the Spirt of God gently reminds me that absolutely nothing can separate me from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus. Know that you are loved by God and by your sisters in Christ. Praying for you.

  18. Divine says:

    Thanks for such a wonderful truth.

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