Today’s Truth

“You are precious and honored in my sight…”

Isaiah 43:4

Friend to Friend

Years ago, I bought my daughter a really cute jacket at the mall. It was a hoodie made of a cuddly fabric with cream, lavender, and mint green horizontal stripes. The jacket zipped up in the front and was well crafted, stylish, and simply adorable.

When I bought it, I felt like the price on the tag was a fair one, so I gladly pulled out my wallet and paid the retail amount. I was a kid in a candy store on the way home – fully anticipating a shriek of happiness from my little bag-of-beans when I gave it to her.

I wasn’t disappointed. Kennedy loved her new coat, and I was pleased with my purchase. Happy dances all around… until a week later, when I saw the same jacket in the same store at a greatly reduced price.

Are you tensing up with me?

Suddenly, I felt schnookered! As soon as I saw the red line on the price tag of the unsold coats, everything changed in my mind – Kennedy’s jacket wasn’t worth what I paid for it.

When we speak of the worth of something, we often consider it to be a relative term. One that has shifting factors. For example, the jacket I bought was thirty-nine dollars, and a week later it was nineteen ninety-nine. The jacket didn’t change, but its’ perceived worth did.

Now, consider the worth of a woman. Are the factors that determine her value based upon variable and shifting factors or are they based upon fixed factors? Seems to be a silly question, doesn’t it? Fixed, of course! But, if the answer is so glaringly obvious, why do we struggle so much as women with feelings of worthlessness? Why do we walk around feeling like that red lined jacket? I think it’s because we often allow variable earthly factors to define our worth.

There are so many reasons why women feel worthless:

Because they’ve been abused (raped, molested, physically abused, verbally abused…)

Because they’ve been told that they’re worthless (by a parent, spouse, sibling, teenage child, or another…)

Because of choices they’ve made or that have been made for them (divorce, infidelity, abortion, promiscuity, eating disorders, addictions, uncontrolled anger…)

Because they’ve been cheated on (infidelity, internet affair, pornography…)

Because they’re co-dependent (conclude their value based upon other people – “If my husband isn’t okay, I’m not okay.”)

Because they don’t collect a paycheck (stay at home moms that have left the work force, laid off employees, displaced employees, those on disability…)

Because they’ve battled an illness (unable to care for family, perform basic home duties, participate in ministry or Bible study like they once did, can’t drive, cook…)
Unfortunately, the variable factors that we use to define our worth are endless. Many of us feel worthless. Why? We’ve felt ignored, invisible, insignificant, useless, undesired, ugly, unloved, or forgotten. We girls are emotional; broken in many ways. Great portions of our identity and of our personal value are wrapped into combustible packages of emotion – how we feel about this or that. The truth is, our worth has nothing to do with our feelings.

Trust me, I’m not going to try to convince you that I know everything there is to know about feeling like a woman of worth or about being a woman of worth. In fact, the more I know God, the less inclined I am to pretend to have life or faith figured out. I’m constantly tempted to define my worth with activities, emotions, and accomplishments. I’ve come to realize, however, that way of thinking is a spiritual dead end road. Scripture tells us that anything we do in our own strength or of our own goodness is of no value to God. “All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags” (Isaiah 64:6a).

What I DO know is this: because of Jesus Christ, I’m a woman of highest worth. Not because of anything else. We are His daughters, made in His image, precious in His sight. In light of this, we need to set aside feelings that diminish our value, and embrace our proper identity: Child of the King of Kings.

Hear this, friend: feelings of worthlessness are from Satan himself. It burns me up that the enemy has such a strong grip on God’s daughters in this area. We need to associate the word worthless with the word lie. {Tweet this!} That’s exactly what it is, a big, fat lie! God wants every one of us to experience hope and healing in Christ and have an appropriate sense of self-worth.

So let’s go back to Kennedy’s new coat for just a moment. Imagine walking into God’s department store. There on the rack, you spy a coat that is just plain fabulous – I mean stop-you-in-your-tracks fabulous! One-size fits all, the tag reads. Yeah, right, you whisper under your breath. Then you flip over the price tag and it’s crazy expensive – way beyond what you could ever dream of paying. Like, if you added up every dollar that ever passed through your hands – then multiplied that by ten thousand – that kind of expensive. Then imagine the storeowner walking over to you, slipping the coat off the rack and onto your shoulders.

“It’s a perfect fit,” He smiles.

“Sir,” you manage with a whisper, “I could never afford such a coat. This is meant for royalty and I’m, well, just an ordinary girl.”

“Oh precious woman, this coat is made especially for you, and the price has already been paid in full.”

As the owner straightens the sleeves on your arms and adjusts the collar around your neck, you notice his hands – nail pierced hands. And suddenly you realize that this is the covering you were meant to wear all along.

You are precious and highly valuable in the eyes of the One who sees. And you never, never, never have to worry about being on anyone’s bargain rack again.
Let’s Pray

Holy Father, I’m humbled to be viewed as precious in Your eyes. Thank You for taking on my sin so that I could take on your righteousness. Please help me to see myself as You see me. Help me to thrive in Your beauty as a woman of worth!

In Jesus’s Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

What came to your mind as you read today’s devotion? Are you held captive by feelings of worthlessness? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to reveal truth to your heart about how He sees you.

Ready to put your emotions in their proper place? Click over to my blog and leave this comment of God-confidence: “I am a woman of worth!”

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9 Responses to “Who Defines Your Worth?”

  1. Tanya says:

    Wow! This had me in tears. What a powerful illustration of His love. I want to engrave that image into my mind and recall it every time I feel tempted to believe that old lie! Thanks Gwen!

  2. RENATE' says:

    This spoke to my heart and tears flowed. Glory to God. Thank you for being a vessel and messenger of His truth.

  3. Abbey says:

    This was a wonderful devotion. This has been something I have dealt with for a long time because I am the woman who fit into all those categories (abused emotionally, divorced, cheated on, made fun of as a young girl) talk about baggage! It wasnt until recently that I put the pieces back and truly understood that I was God’s beautiful treasure-beautifully and wonderfully made in his image. He has carefully made me..every bit of me. He knows my baggage and he takes it..all of it..freely with no cost to me. It doesnt get any better than that. It is one of the greatest hardships I think a woman faces. I really had to take a deep look and surround myself with people that see that beauty in me. I am deeply humbled by God’s grace and his love for me. strings attached..there’s no greater love than that!
    Thank you for this devotion!

  4. Yolanda says:

    I am a woman of worth!! Thank you for this!

  5. Tara Triolo says:

    This was amazing. I am blessed that God led my mother to send me this site. I have never felt good enough in the whole of my life. I know that I am in my mind but my heart never felt it. I pray that I will always recall this article and feel and know that I am one of God’s creations and not matter what. That makes me valuable.

  6. Becca says:

    My parents and I moved to a small South Carolina town when I was eight. My father held a high position and my mother was a person of many talents. I was shy and scared. There were three girls that ruled the class of the private academy I attended to the point the teachers allowed them to do as they wished. I was physically small and very cute.They tormented me from day two, i was not allowed to sit at the table with them. If I went to another table they would make the people at that table leave. They would have birthday parties away from school,but pass out invitations in front of me and not invite me. One of the bullies went to church with me and smilled the entire time, while still ostracizing me silently. Their job was to make me miserable and worthless. After five years of this,I wanted to die. We tried everything finally, my mother drove me to another school in a near by town. The new girls were nice and inclusive, and I finally had some peace. I had so much baggage it was hard for me to trust all girls. I was waiting for the attacks. My self-esteem was gone. These church going bullies even stared tormenting me at the new school, by befriending and making fun of me to the girls in the new school. Sometimes it worked but most of the time it did not. I joined groups and won awards, and graduated from high school. I finished college and still no best friends . The zero value was really marked in me and the scares were deep. Finally after praying and help from my family and my savior I feel of value. I have two best friends that value me. I work in a very valued position helping others. I value myself, but it is a battle sometimes to keep those old feelings from creeping in me.
    Those three girls that tormented me are now mothers. I am not. When I return to visit my parents, they will sometimes run into me,and now it is them that avoids me, with their red embarrassed faces. I have forgiven them, and wrapped myself in value and grace from God.
    God is good and I am of value.

  7. DJ says:

    I grew up with a mother who never told me she loved me and was very self centered so I did not have feelings of worth. My grandparents and Dad loved me and gave me their time, so that helped. But it took a long time to feel as good as everyone else.
    Today my mother is a lonely troubled old woman. God stayed faithful to bless me with a family and I parented 180 degrees from the way she did and my kids are wonderful people.
    Point is, who is someone else to ever tell you that you are less. The Creator of the universe made you- what better value can you have !!!
    Media today is awful in it’s portrayal of what a girl should look like and it is sad.

  8. Jovanika says:

    This touched and opened my eyes to the true meaning of the value and worth of a woman. Thank you for this because this is actually the subject my youth and children’s ministry are touching on for a couple of months. At the end of the seminars and teachings, we’ll be holding a “Ladies of Tomorrow” banquet towards December God willing for our younger generation. Once again thank you thank you again, God bless in your calling and ministry.

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