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Today’s Truth

“Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down:

Proverbs 26:20

Friend to Friend

In my last devotion I talked about gossip. Something tells me I need to talk about it again.

As a review, Webster defines gossip as ”easy, fluent, trivial talk, talk about people behind their backs.” It is repeating information about another person’s private affairs. If you have to look around to make sure that no one can hear what you are saying, you are probably gossiping. If you would not say something in front of the person you are talking about, then you’re probably gossiping.

But it takes two to tango the gossip dance. “Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down: (Proverbs 26:20). The Bible tells us to make every effort to avoid gossipers (Proverbs 20:19). A good rule of thumb is if you are not part of the problem or part of the solution, then keep the information to yourself.

Paul warned, “Some of you are living idle lives, refusing to work and wasting time meddling in other people’s business,” (2 Thessalonians 3:11 NLT). Other translations call such people “busybodies,” (NASB, NIV). And listen, putting the words, “we need to pray for so-and-so” before the gossip doesn’t make the gossip any less gossip.

One day a woman felt overwhelmed with guilt over her years of malicious gossip. She went to the local priest and confessed her sin. The priest was all too aware of her wagging tongue and had experienced the sting of her words first hand….or rather second hand.

What can I do to rectify all the damage I have caused with my gossip?” she asked.

“Gather a bag of feathers,” he began. “Then go around to each house and place a feather at their door.”

That seemed like a simple enough request, so the woman did just as the priest had instructed. After the task was complete, she returned. “I have done what you requested,” she said. “Now what am I to do?”

“Now go back and retrieve each of the feathers,” he replied.

“That is impossible,” the woman argued. “The wind will have blown them all around town by now.”

“Exactly,” replied the wise priest. “Once you have spoken an ill word, it drifts through the air on wings of gossip, never to be retrieved. God has forgiven you, as you have asked. But I cannot remove the consequences of your hurtful words or gather them from the places they have landed.”

Here’s an idea. If a friend approaches you with some “news” or a “concern” about another person, stop and ask, “May I quote you on what you’re about to tell me?” That will usually “put a lid” on the conversation before it even begins.

In my last devotion, I asked if you would be willing to make your life a NO GOSSIP ZONE. I just thought we might need to ask that question one more time. (I love you! Don’t be mad at me!)

If you are willing to take the challenge, click over to my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and type in the words: “I’m still living in a NO GOSSIP ZONE.

Let’s Pray

OK Lord, I’m coming to You with this request again. Please help me not to gossip. Help me not to repeat a matter that is none of my business. If I’m not part of the problem or part of the solution, help me to keep my lips zipped. May the words of my mouth be pleasing in Your sight!

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

Since my last devotion on gossip, have you been more aware of the words coming out of your mouth?

Have you begun a story, only to stop before it actually came out of your mouth? I have! Praise God!

Consider writing this verse on an index card and taping it to your bathroom mirror.

“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.” Psalm 19:14

More from the Girlfriends

Today’s devotion was taken from my book, The Power of a Woman’s Words. If you would like to learn about how to control your words and use them to speak life into those around you, then this is the book for you. Visit www.sharonjaynes.com to download a free chapter or watch a video. It also has a companion Bible Study Guide and DVD.

7 Responses to “Revisiting The No Gossip Zone”

  1. Lisa McKinney says:

    Sharon,
    I despise gossip, and am in the midst of it right now. I will share this, and hope your words will be read by those that need it.
    Your devotional today is a wonderful reminder, which we call need at times.
    Thank you!

  2. Donna says:

    Your previous post on gossip has truly opened my eyes and has helped me to be much more mindful of the words coming out of my mouth. Thank You!

  3. Rebecca says:

    I am still living in a gossip-free zone with the help of my God!

  4. Mary says:

    while what i’m interested in would possibility not be gossip, it involves the words we say. We know in Word and Deed we are do all for the glory of God, so when we see things on TV, news programs, etc, as Christians how should we respond, or should we not respond. Many times things said in respond to news or other programs, or even general conversations we say things that would not really be for God’s glory. Thanks

  5. Chris says:

    I love praying for people but I do not need to know the details- thank you!!

  6. Deb Cardenas says:

    Good morning, Sharon.

    My family “cannot keep a secret” for anything. My mom, sister, daughter, niece and yes, me too, seem to share everything with each other. When we do not, it seems we have been left out of the mix and then, that too, can cause friction. I don’t think any one of us consider it gossip, but after reading your article, I believe I need to reassess. I like your guideline – if you wouldn’t say it to or in front of them, then perhaps it should not be shared at all.

    On another note, I can no longer pull up my Girlfriends in God book I purchased. It states “the developer of this app needs to update it to work with iOS 11.” Can you pass this information on?” I like be having y’all with during those times I do not have access to the web. Y’all keep me grounded. 🙂

    Thank you.

    • GiGs says:

      Hi Deb,
      Thank you for sharing –
      Concerning the GiG App; we are aware of the problem.
      GiG has been working on releasing a new App – it was to be released before the previous app became obsolete.
      We are so sorry for the delay in the new app going live. The new app is in line for approval at Apple, and we are at their mercy.
      Be assured the new app is on its way. As soon as Apple gives the approval, we will be live. Thank you for your understanding and grace as we wait for Apple to give us the go!
      Please join us in prayer that it will be soon!
      Blessings!

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