Today’s Truth

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

Hebrews 11:1

Friend to Friend

As the basketball game heated up and the man-to-man coverage got up close and personal, he took an elbow to the ear. Seconds later his world went silent on the trauma side. Stunned, he continued to play and pointed to his ear as he ran down the court telling his coach about the situation.

“I can’t hear in my left ear!”

Wait, what? I read his lips from the stands and wondered if I accurately interpreted what my son had just communicated. (My stomach did the I-hate-when-my-kids-get-hurt twist.)

“I think he just told coach that he can’t hear out of his left ear!?” I said to the friend beside me.

My guess proved to be accurate.

Preston came out of the game and spoke with the athletic trainer. She listened to the recap of what happened, evaluated his ear, and then allowed him to go back in the game since he wasn’t in pain and no bleeding was visible. He finished the game in an oddly muted reality.

We got home late with our tall, tired teen and decided that we would get him in to see a doctor if his hearing didn’t come back or improve by the next day.

Morning did not bring the healing we had hoped for so we headed to the urgent care.

The doctor listened to the accident recap and then looked inside Preston’s ear. He saw through the tympanic membrane and quickly identified the source of the silence: bloody fluid had puddled on the other side of his eardrum due to the blunt force of the trauma.

The bad news? There was no immediate solution for the hearing loss. An invasive procedure could be done by a specialist, but wasn’t recommended.

The good news? He said that Preston’s hearing should return and his ear will eventually heal. His body will absorb the fluids over time. We just have to wait. It could take a few days. Possibly even a few months.

The diagnosis was as much sweet as it was bitter, but honestly we were hoping for a quicker solution. A speedier healing. A faster resolve.


Make the pain go away, Lord! Now. Now. NOW!

I like things to happen right away. {You too?}

When our hearts are wounded from unexpected relationship traumas, we want to click a simple prayer button and make everything whole and well.

When questions are many and answers are few we want vision for a mile but often get just enough sight for the next step.

When our over spending choices slash us like falling prices, we try to throw a little sanitizing scripture on the gash of our debt and get out of it in the microwave minute of extended credit.

But life doesn’t work that way. Freedom doesn’t work that way. Quick faith fixes are not a biblical guarantee. Healing often takes time… and sometimes it doesn’t look like we want it to look. The way we think it should look.

Yes. God does sometimes rescue and bring us healing immediately, but He’s not obligated to. He’s God, He’s able, and He’s sovereign. Remembering this helps me to trust Him when life gets scary and stressful.

I think on this and a barrage of questions flood my mind.

Are there really life-impacting lessons to be learned in this lingering?

What if God wants to use the strains, stains and disappointments we face to refine us – restore us – strengthen us – and to draw us to His side in the desperation?

What if God’s plan is to teach us to know Him in new ways as we struggle to hear, to hope, and to heal?

What if instant healing or quick answers would rob me of greater depth?

If these “what if” wonderings are on point then I’m all for the waiting. Because I really do want to be a woman of depth. Don’t you? Isn’t that what faith is all about? The assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen? (Hebrews 11:1)

If I always get what I hope for right away and can always see clearly, then how will my faith grow?

Preston is waiting on his healing and I pray that the lessons we learn will be rich along the way. And in the waiting of each trial, you and I will grow in faith as we lean in closely to listen to the whispers of the One who is compassionate, faithful, and trustworthy.

Let’s Pray

Lord, Please forgive me for the times when I tell You how to fix me. You are the all-knowing One. You are the all-powerful One. You are the God of all wisdom, grace, compassion and strength. I need You, Lord, and I choose right now to trust the plan of healing You have for me and for my loved ones. Thank You, Father.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

Read Hebrews 11 and take a walk down history’s holy halls of faith.

Write a “by faith” statement for your life. What would you like to be written about you in the archives of humanity? {Share your “by faith” statement with me here!}

More from the Girlfriends

Gwen’s next book, I Want It ALL, is now available for pre-order. Here’s the burden in her belly: she believes that you were created to be a woman of impact who is so in love with her Lord and so aware of His might that she cannot help but expect great things and move in His power and grace. That’s the message of I Want It ALL. Pre-order yours today from Amazon, Barnes & Noble or

{UPDATE: Gwen wrote this post several weeks ago and is happy to report that Preston’s ear has healed and his hearing has returned. We are grateful.}

7 Responses to “Please Make the Pain Go Away”

  1. Tanisia Murrell says:

    Wow!!!! I am in awe sometimes, well really all the time, of how God will respond to me crying prayers. Yesterday was emotionally challenging. Struggling with thoughts and feelings (depression, insecurities, and jealousy) that I really hate and wish would just go away. I so desire to not be ruled by my emotions and continue to pray for the Lord to take it away. Frustrated that God just won’t fix me! Then this morning comes this devotional. Thank you Lord for the reminder that you are at work in this too. You are preparing and pruning me for my good and Your purpose. That you hear my cries, your with me, and love me!

    Gwen, thank you for your obedience and sacrifice in ministry. Even though we have never met you are a beautiful reflection of God’s love for me and many others. May the grace and love of our awesome God keep you!

    • Felecia says:

      I too have been struggling with the same. Depression, shame over past and recent sinful mistakes, regret, and fear that God’s seeming silence proves that somethig is desperately and devastatingly wrong.

      I’m crying out about how lost I feel and how I desperately need healing. Then, I come across this.

      SO needed!

  2. Yolanda Healy says:

    Thank you for your devotionals. I love to to read each morning this little piece of haven that you describe so clearly and honest in each and everyone of the daily devotionals. Today was written specially for me! I struggle with chronic pains in my body and after reading this morning devotional and Hebrew 12, I can accept the pain as a sign that the Lord is working in my body for the better of me.
    Thank you and many blessings to you, Sharon and Mary

  3. A. Nony Miss says:

    Thank you so much for this piece – God’s timing with this couldn’t have been more perfect. I too am in the midst of a healing process, one that has been much slower than I anticipated and requires extensive physical therapy. Even though progress has been steady and God has been so faithful, sometimes I just get tired and want to be fully healed. Today has been one of those days.

    Thank you for your encouraging words and for the timely reminder that God has a purpose in our pain. I pray that your son will be fully healed of his hearing loss and that you and your family will reap all the riches God has to offer you in this challenging season. God bless. 🙂

  4. NIkki Strunck says:

    Thank you so much for this devotional. I am a day behind on reading my “Girlfriends In God Devotions” so I went back and read yesterday’s the January 12th one to catch up, the one entitled, ” Make the Pain Go Away”. God had a reason for making me go back and read this one today!

    It’s been 11 days since I lost my only child, my son, Brendan, 24, to a heroine overdose. I struggled this morning driving to work trying to make head or tails out of my loss, my pain, what to do with it!! I keep giving it to God and TAKING IT BACK!!

    My son overdosed on Saturday, 01/02/2016. He was scheduled to go into treatment at Chad’s Hope the following Monday. Instead, I was sitting with a personal friend, whose a funeral director making plans for my sons funeral!!

    Thank You for the “What If” questions in this devotional. I have vowed my sons death will not be in vain and these questions when I’m home alone will help me focus on God’s plan in all this. My son knew the word and was saved. I opened his bible the night before last and Brendan had left his pen in the book of Romans and had underlined Romans 3:22, “God puts people right through their faith in Jesus Christ. God does this to all who believe in Christ, because there is no difference at all.” Then he had put an arrow beside it and written, “God’s Grace”

    This has given me comfort to know that my son was in the word, but the pain.. I want it to go AWAY!!

  5. theresa says:

    Have been praying and having faith for a decade and it has not changed at all. How long must I suffer? Will I die suffering? I am paralyzed by the depth of the devastation. I can’t hold on any longer even when I read the words I feel hopeless and can’t stop it no matter how hard I try to beleive.

  6. Crystal Inman says:

    In the last few months God has been bringing me step by reluctant(sometimes) step through this process you shared in your devotional. Some days it is very difficult to wait for the next step where God is leading me in order to be a woman of depth concerning my faith. I thank God for his patience with me.
    I also thank Him for timely and uplifting messages.
    I am so grateful for and how He uses you ladies in your ministry! God bless you all!

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