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Today’s Truth

This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

Psalm 118:24

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Martha was also frustrated with her marriage. She had dreams of marrying her knight in shining armor who would leave flower petals on her pillow, be distracted by her beauty, and regularly pledge his undying love. She dreamed of having three doting, obedient, well-mannered children that she could dress up in cute little outfits and parade down the church aisle on Sundays. Her tidy home would come with a well-manicured lawn, two- and-a-half baths, and perfectly coordinated décor. She would be the happy homemaker who joyfully mopped the beautiful kitchen floor in her size six khaki slacks, shabby chic blouse, and stylish haircut. She could almost picture Mr. Clean winking at her from the corner of the room, giving his hearty approval.

But life had not turned out like Martha expected. Her knight did come along, but his armor began to tarnish soon after they said, “I do.” He left his smelly socks on the floor, had a love affair with the TV remote, and hardly noticed all the work she did to keep the house clean and orderly.

Life sure has not turned out the way I thought it would, she thought. I am bored and unappreciated. Romance, that’s what I want. This man wouldn’t know romance if it hit him in the face. Why should I care how I look? He doesn’t care about his appearance. Look at that gut. He complains about me gaining weight? Well, he hasn’t seen nothin’ yet. I’ve made a huge mistake. I just want someone who will love me and appreciate me. Is that too much to ask?

And the kids? They never do what I ask. They’re disobedient, loud, and messy. I don’t know when I’ve seen a clean floor last, and I’m sure not happy while mopping. And where is Mr. Clean anyway?

The enemy had slowly crept in while Martha was unaware. Unmet expectations became the breeding ground for the lies to grow. He planted the seeds of discontentment one disappointment at a time. Rather than thinking how she could make her marriage better, she began to think how she could get out of it. Rather than enjoying her rambunctious children, she loathed their energy. Rather than being thankful that she had a home and family to clean up after, she complained about the dirt.

Martha just needs to give her life to Jesus, you might say. But she has. She is a Christian, so on top of her disappointment with life, she adds guilt to it all. I’m a bad Christian, she thinks. If I were a better Christian, I’d be happy. What’s wrong with me?

The enemy’s trademark is stamped on this woman’s thought life. He has taken her down a road of stinkin’ thinkin’. While she assumes that these thoughts are her own, it is the enemy who makes the suggestions. She simply buys into them and makes them her own. They become her own version of reality—her own version of the truth. But it is not God’s truth. When we know the truth, the lies stick out like a two-ton elephant in a herd of sheep.

Maybe you can relate to Martha’s story. Hopefully you can’t. But even if your story isn’t the same, the enemy is. He will take your disappointments in any area of life and try to stir up trouble. Your job. Your friendships. Your church. You name it. All is fair game when it comes to the deceivers attempts to suck the joy right out of you.

How do we move past being a Debbie Downer? There are many ways! Here are a few.

Live a life of gratitude. Praise God that you have a floor to clean when so many don’t. Praise God for the opportunity to learn about how to love sacrificially when you feel your husband is aloof. Praise God that you have a job in an economy where so many don’t.

Examine your thought life. Take note of how many of your thoughts are negative and make a decision to give them a positive twist. Evaluate how many of your thoughts are negative and stop it! Make new positive ruts in your brain and stop driving those negative thoughts through the ditches to make them deeper.

Dwell on the promises of God. Make a list of the promises of God. I can’t think of anything better to change negative thinking into positive thinking than a heaping dose of powerful promises.

These are just a few. But they are a start!

Now, will you join me? If so, click over to my Facebook page and say, I’m getting rid of stinkin’ thinkin’ today!

Let’s Pray

Father, my thought life is a mess. I dwell on the negative and don’t even see the positive. Help me to turn that around. Help me be a woman who dwells on the positive and lets the negative roll off her back like water on a duck’s feathers. I start right now by thanking You for another day of life!

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

List five negatives in your life right now.

Now go back and write five positive ways to look at each of those situations.

Here’s a thought. Paul was in prison when he wrote most of the New Testament letters. That was a negative situation, but he saw it as a great time to pull out the pen and ink! What a positive spin on a negative situation. I want to be like him. Don’t you?

More From the Girlfriends

You’ve heard the lies before. Maybe even whispered one or two to yourself from time to time. Maybe repeated them so often you’ve started to believe them. “Nobody loves me. I’m worthless. I would be happier married to someone else. I’m just not good enough.” The list goes on. It’s time to recognize the enemy’s lies and to replace those lies with the Bible’s liberating truth. It’s time to renew your mind and think God’s thought rather than be held in bondage by the enemy’s deceptions. It’s time to be set free to see yourself as God see you: His holy, chosen, cleansed, forgiven and dearly loved child. Now that’s a truth worth repeating. To learn more, check out my book, I’m Not Good Enough…and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. It’s a game changer!

14 Responses to “No More Debbie Downer”

  1. Heidi says:

    Just what I needed on this gloomy Wednesday morning. I am thankful for my floor, this morning!

  2. Daphne says:

    I really needed to hear this devotional this morning. Negative thoughts had begun to overtake my thought life. I woke up this morning and told myself that I needed to resist the devil and I started to read the devotional and it was right on time! Thank you Sisters!

  3. Lydia says:

    Thanks for the reminder! A book that has really helped me in this regard is “Telling Yourself the Truth”…great resource!

  4. Monica says:

    Exactly what I needed to hear, and exactly when I needed to hear it! Before I opened this devotion, I asked God to speak to me through it. And man did He! Thank you so much Girlfriends in God for your dedication to these daily devotions.

  5. Debbie says:

    I started just to lay down for a while as usual after getting my daughter off to her special needs program. I looked around, the house is a mess. I’d had a virus this week, My husband passed away suddenly 1 1/2 years ago. I am a Christian, but… I came to the computer and what I saw were the words Debbie Downer. I want to pick up the pieces go on with life. I did for a while, but I think I must have still been in shock, because now everyday is the reality that my husband is not here with me. Friends care, but everyone has their own lives to live.
    I know in my mind what I need to do, but my heart is heavy.

    • Nicole says:

      Debbie,
      I will pray for you. I lost my sister suddenly last summer. She was 9 months pregnant with her first child. I lost my niece as well. Grief. It is a foul emotion that creeps up and wrecks our days. Seeing the positive and giving thanks can be. So difficult through the eyes of grief. I used to be comforted that my sister doesn’t want me living in grief. But God doesn’t either! There truly is a time and season for pain and rejoicing! I started small. Said morning g prayers and thanks each day. Then I started talking to God again. I’m changed and so are you, I will pray that he comforts you in time of mourning, lifts you up in time of despair, and encourages you with the Holy Spirit. Blessings
      , nicole

      • Maggie says:

        Was spot on for me Nicole. Just lost my cousin to drugs 3 weeks ago and a former counsellor two weeks ago. I’m absolutely devastated and cry a lot. I just feel so sad but it won’t last forever. Please pray for me.

        Thank you.

    • Shirley says:

      I just read your thoughts and prayed for you! You have gone though a lot and having a special needs child makes it harder. Try to find a church with a program so you can go and get involved with other ladies in bible study. Try seeing how you can help one other person with something. And when you need to be still and just let God’s love wash over you. Will continue to remember you in prayer.

    • Lydia says:

      “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18, ESV) {{{HUGS}}} to you, Debbie, as God guides your steps on this journey. Remember that He is always with you.

  6. Lori says:

    Great way to start my day, thanks for reminding me. Think on whatever is good and pure.. I will be counting blessings today.

  7. Maria says:

    Oh man I related oh too well with today’s devotional. Lord help me to not focus on the bad. Instead let me rejoice in the good. I have 2 kids whom I clean up after and feed, we have food and a home. We might not have space or own it but we are not on the streets. I have had the privilege to be home with our son and daughter longer than I hoped. Yes I might have been laid off again but the good is I get to be home. The job will come, finances will come. My time to be at home with husband n kids is one time. Lord thank you for your timing.

  8. Dana says:

    Not sure if this will help with the anger I feel but I will try. Thank you for this reading. I pray it will work and the anger to go away.

  9. Kae says:

    Im a day late reading this but how great my God works, because I was able to get an uplift from this today. I feel so stressed sometimes week after week Ive been getting hit by the enemy and his tactics. I feel unloved and neglected but God is merciful and I know He loves me. My thoughts were negative but lately I have been trying to remain calm and filled with his peace.. The song I’ll just say yes by Brian Courntey is so beautiful and when the hurt and pain strikes me in the face I meditate on that song and it has helped sooo much.
    This message is a confirmation (my pastor just spoke about Paul imprisonment and his letter Sunday past) so I must begin to be obedient and read Paul’s message (Im sure I will be uplifted even more- to try and understand how a man in his circumstance can have a positive outlook) I must change my mentality because God wants me to live a happy life and so do I. Thank you for Debbie..

  10. I was in a very similar place in my life years ago. I went to a Women’s Retreat where Evelyn Christiansen was the keynote speaker. She had written a
    book titled “Lord Change Me”. She spoke about the main points in this book. It changed my life profoundly. My husband and I will be celebrating 47 years of marriage in July. God changed me and eventually my husband. I thank God for Christian writers like Evelyn and like the three of you, and many others.

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