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Today’s Truth

The testing of your faith produces perseverance.

James 1:3

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My daughter plays competitive volleyball and recently began a specialized resistance plyometric workout called Vertimax training. The actual Vertimax equipment looks rather unimpressive. It’s a sturdy platform that hosts a complicated series of industrial-sized rubber bands. The results of training with this system, however, are anything but unimpressive. This advanced resistance-training helps to increase vertical jump, strengthen and protect muscles, and accelerate an athlete’s reaction time. Everything a volleyball player wants!

But let me tell you, it is hard work.

Kennedy trains under the careful watch of a guide who knows just how much tension to add and to allow on the platform. And she works through a rapid series of reps to the point of fatigue, and sometimes to failure.

The resistance of the bands increases her strength, but not until her muscles are worn down. After fatigue sets in and the muscles break down, healing begins, and she grows stronger as a result.

Just like in life.

Trials and tension can lead to stress or to strength. Often both! Challenges can tear us down, but they also hold the power to build us up. It’s important for us to realize that we get to choose our responses when resistance wears us thin.

I want to honor God in both good and bad times. Don’t you? I honestly do, but it’s not easy. I tend to get upset about the breakdowns and strains I have to deal with. The Bible shows me, however, that if I didn’t have any resistance I wouldn’t grow.

The beauty of resistance is that can lead to strength. (If we allow it to.)

Remember what James said?

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. (James 1:2-3)

I read these verses and a part of me want to run the other way. But I want to grow. I want to mature in my faith, to trust God more, to persevere and showcase His power in and through the pressure.

So how does this play out practically?

Well, I want my marriage to grow stronger. Always. Because even though we’ve been married a long time, Brad and I are two flawed individuals with strong opinions and crazy-different emotions. Those two variables alone set the table for tension, but there are countless sources of strain beyond our shortcomings. (And all the people said: AMEN!)

We know that marriages, and all relationships, are hard work. So for my marriage to be strong – as far as it’s up to me – I need to press through times of fatigue in order to move toward the strength I long for when Brad and I hit the tension point. I need to look to God, my Guide, who carefully watches me, knows all about the hurt, and helps me through the resistance.

If I want my marriage to be strong, I can’t just be stubborn and do things my way because my ways are flawed and weak. (This applies to all relationships!) The ways of the Lord, however, are perfect and strong. So I look to the Bible to instruct my heart and inform my attitude. She brings him (her husband) good and not evil all the days of her life. (Proverbs 31:12) She opens her mouth with wisdom, and loving instruction is on her tongue. (Proverbs 31:26)

When I’m stressed out by my man, or angry with him (people…it happens), I have to pray for God to give me the grace that my heart lacks and the willingness to forgive. Even in the times when I’m convinced that he’s wrong. Even when my feelings are hurt or my ego is bruised. Even when, even when, even when… (And believe me, Brad has plenty of opportunities to do the same with me!)

The Bible assures us, Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him. (James 1:12)

That sounds good to me. I like to know that there is a reward that follows the fatigue.

On the Vertimax platform when the tension bands are removed, an athlete experiences the benefits of the training. Testing brings perseverance. It’s a promise.

What resistance are you facing today? Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. (James 1:4)

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, Forgive me for wanting to find the easy way around the resistance that can be used to strengthen me. Help me to appreciate the value in the strains and struggles I endure. Build my strength today in the fatigue I face and help me to look to You and walk in Your grace.

In Jesus’ Name I pray,
Amen.

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5 Responses to “How Resistance Can Lead to Strength”

  1. Jane Doe says:

    Even when, even when, even when………..your husband rapes your daughter???? I have heard pastors who say that even thru things like this, you are not supposed to divorce. You’re supposed to work thru it. I have read all kinds of articles and posts, just like this one, where the author talks about working thru the hardest of hard times. This is THE HARDEST TIME in my life and I just want to flee this man. He’s a MONSTER. But from what I’ve been reading, a lot of Christians give me the impression that I’m supposed to stay. I can’t fathom that. Can you clarify your “EVEN WHEN…..”

    • Gwen Smith Gwen Smith says:

      Jane, If you are asking this from the context of your current situation, you need to hear that I would never tell a woman to remain in an unsafe environment with her children. Please find better counsel. God can work in your life in and through such a horrific situation, without a doubt… but you need to protect any child in your home from sexual predators. Even if they are members of you household. Praying for you now! Gwen

  2. Abby says:

    This hit home for me. My husband & I are going through a very rough time. Right now the only thinf that is keeping me from leaving is our child. I don’t want to abandon my child.

  3. Jenny says:

    Lord, I lift Abby & her husband up to you. I know you have only good desired for them, things to prosper not to harm as you promise in Jeremiah 29:11, even when we can’t see the end. I pray you give Your strength in their weakness as you promised Paul. Give them each grace for the day and grow them in their love for you as I believe You use that to draw us to each other. In Jesus precious name. Amen

  4. Thank you for sharing your story in God’s word. I really needed this as I felt very disappointed and deserted by my husband last night. I’ve been doing a lot of work in myself, learning to be graceful and to forgive freely, and I was struggling so hard with this. I didn’t know how to react, and I didn’t react as I usually do, but it was and is still a challenge for me. Reading this made me feel like God is truly working in me, showing me that He is changing me. It still hurts, and Inknow I can come to Him and know that preserverence wins the crown. Thank you so, so much 😉

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