Today’s Truth

He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also graciously give us all things?

Romans 8:32

Friend to Friend

I stood at Steven’s bedroom door, watching this now 17-year-old son asleep in a tangle of sheets and limbs. He was six feet tall, needed a shave, and sported a mass of shaggy, thick brown hair. I thought about how much I loved this boy.

When Steven was born, we had no idea we would be raising him as an only child. Years of infertility struggles and the loss of our second child left us with a hollow echo of the heart that we feared would never be filled. And yet, when I looked at this sleeping man-child, love filled every nook and cranny of my heart till I thought it would burst. Still, there was always the wondering what life would have been like had more Jaynes children filled the rooms, scattered their toys, and left hand prints on the walls.

“Lord,” I prayed, “You know how much I love children and how I always longed to be a mom to a house full of children. I know Your ways are higher than our ways, and that You are my heavenly Father who knows what’s best for me, but God, could You show me a purpose behind the pain of those difficult years of longing? You certainly don’t owe me an explanation, but I’d love to have a bit of encouragement today. I’d love a nugget of gold.”

Standing in the door frame, watching the rhythmic rise and fall of Steven’s steady breathing, God’s Word washed over me.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16).

“Is that You, Lord?” I asked. “Is that my nugget of gold?”

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

The words washed over me again like a spring rain on parched ground, and my breath caught. It was as if the Holy Spirit illuminated Steven like a lone actor on the stage. Steven…my one and only son. For the first time in my life I truly grasped the height, the depth, and the breadth of those familiar words. Jesus…God’s one and only Son.

Yes, I have a one and only son. I love many people in this world, but none enough to sacrifice my only son. And yet God loved me that much. He loved you that much. He loved us enough to sacrifice His one and only Son in order to make eternal life with Him possible.

All through those years of infertility and loss, Satan, the enemy, taunted me with words of doubt. God doesn’t love you, he’d say. If He loved you, He’d give you what you asked for. He doesn’t love you. You can’t trust Him with your heart.

And yet, at that moment standing in Steven’s door frame, I realized just how much God did love me. He had shone the light of His love on the enemy’s lie and revealed the truth.

With tears spilling down my cheeks, I thanked God for helping me understand His great love—for giving me a living, breathing daily reminder of that love every time I looked at my boy. If that was the only purpose behind the years of infertility and loss of a child, then that was enough.

The Bible says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28). What does God really mean by “all things”? Most likely He means all things—the good, the bad and the ugly. In every dark circumstance of life, I believe that there is a nugget of gold or a hidden treasure just waiting to be discovered. However, for that to happen, we must look beyond the dirt, push it aside, and search beneath the surface.

Is it easy? No. Is it messy? Usually. Is it worth it? Always.

Has there been a trial or loss in your life? If so, I wonder if God has a valuable treasure hidden beneath the surface of the pain, just waiting to be discovered. Do you trust Him enough to push the dirt aside and see?

Let’s Pray

Heavenly Father, thank You for loving me so much that You gave Your only Son so that I could receive eternal life the moment I believed in Him.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

You know, it brings tears to my eyes every time I think of that day standing in Steven’s door frame. How about you? Was there a particular time when you knew that you knew just how much God loves you?

Perhaps it came on the heels of a difficult situation? Perhaps it came during a time of joy? Think about that today. Praise God for that today. Remember.

I’d love to hear about your glory moment. In one sentence, join me on Facebook and share it with your GiGs. Here’s how we’ll start…One day I was reminded of God’s love for me when…

More from the Girlfriends

Today’s devotion was taken from our GiG book, Trusting God. To download a free excerpt, watch a video, or order, you can visit or This is the perfect book to use for a summer Bible study. We even have free videos to use with each chapter with an encouraging message from Gwen, Mary, or me.

10 Responses to “God’s Gifts in Dark Times”

  1. Rachel says:

    Thank you for today’s message. The day before I turned 30 I looked back at my life to see what I had achieved and burst out crying. My relationship with God had grown and improved and I remembered how He delivered me from the jaws of death last year. I don’t remember praying for healing the time I was sick, but He healed me anyway. Am nowhere near perfect, but He has brought me so far and am so grateful. I am glad for the gift of life and am glad that I am getting to know Him more when I am still alive and well. I thank Him for His Grace and Gift of Salvation through the death of His One and Only Son. I have a few issues here and there, but I have hope in the fact that “God has a valuable treasure hidden beneath the surface of the pain, just waiting to be discovered. I will try my best to trust Him enough everyday to push the dirt aside and see the hidden treasure”. May He continue to bless you and provide for you as you encourage us spiritually everyday.

  2. Nellie says:

    Infertility. It’s a painful journey. 15 years and counting (I’m 40). We’ve prayed and continue to pray that if children are not part of His plans for us, then to please take that desire away from us. I want Him to fill this void and I seek Him so that I can move on, but I can’t seem to move on. It’s so painful. I know that God is a forgiving God and that all my past mistakes have been forgiven, but deep down in my soul (and if I’m honest with myself), I still feel as though I’m being punished for them. Lord please help me.

    • Sylvia says:

      Infertility is painful. I was married for 9 years before I conceived; had a miscarriage and another 9 months went by before I conceived again. Know that our God does forgive, we often do not forgive ourself. My first born has been a hard child to parent and soon to be 29 years old, he is still lost but I will continue to pray for his deliverance. Thank you for sharing your journey for I believe others will now add you to their prayer list and our Heavenly Father will bring you peace. Forgive yourself and know we serve a loving Father who knows best.

  3. Gina says:

    One day, around Christmastime, I was reminded of God’s love for me when…I was pondering Jesus’ birth and life on earth, and His ultimate purpose of death and resurrection. I understood Jesus’ extreme obedience and desire to do His Father’s will, but I also understood that God is a God of rewards. I wondered what was Jesus’ reward for His sacrifice. Heaven? He already had that. Equality with God? Had that, too. So what was His reward? What was the prize, the incentive? That which provided the motivation to accept such a difficult assignment. I asked Him. His answer? “You.”

  4. Danna says:

    Thank you Sharon for today’s message. I too, have One and Only son and I have also longed for another child and wondered why it never happened for us? But, now after reading your story and how God was so sweet in the way He answered you. I too, have found such peace in having my One and only. I love it when God speaks to our hearts, in such a tender way, that floods our hearts and minds with His amazing Love! Thank you again for sharing this message. Also, I am reminded it’s okay, to ask God for answers, to things I have questions too. He is so very faithful to give us exactly what we need in the perfect time.
    Blessed by your words today!


  5. Rosie says:

    Thank you for sharing this! I too had a similar experience with my first born son. He was 6 mths old when his first Christmas rolled around. Everything about becoming a mom was overwhelmingly amazing, exhausting, life changing, and wonderful. One night while rocking him to sleep in the glider rocker this realization came to me…as I sang to him and laid him in his crib I stood there and wept at the sheer depth of the meaning of the Gospel of Jesus…that God sent His one and only son. I was standing there staring at my one and only son and my heart felt like bursting from the love that filled it for him…it overflowed daily. I could hardly contain my love for him. At one point shortly after I gave birth to him I remember telling my husband that I loved him so much my heart actually physically hurt like it was going to burst. I stood there and wept at the thought of sacrificing his life for sinful people..people I knew and people I had never heard of, I couldn’t fathom it, my mind couldn’t even imagine. I wept in gratitude b/c for the first time I really truly was able to understand on a deeply personal level what the Lord had done for *me* in sending His one and only Son and how painful that must have been. All I could breath was {{Thank You, Lord}} through the tears as I stood there in awe of His love for me and the world. ♥

  6. Jessica says:

    I am constantly reminded of God’s love for me throughout the days. However, often I am too blind to see the beautiful ways he has blessed me in abundance. That is something I need to work on.

    One day I was reminded of God’s love for me when, I let fear get in the way of my plan to adopt. A close friend had a broken heart after her potential adoption didn’t work out. After seeing that, I quickly backed out of my plans. There was no way I would let myself hurt like that. Then that evening at Church, one of our pastors spoke out about their soon to be adopted daughter. I was speechless. His words were filled with love, truth, and most of all they were filled with God. Tears streamed down my face. I knew right then and there that God was telling me it would all be ok, because He Loves me. He will Protect and Guide me throughout the whole adoption process. I just have to put it in His hands.

  7. Jessica says:

    In his Hands.

  8. Jessica says:

    His Hands. The same hands that were nailed to the cross, because He Loves us all That Much!

  9. Sara Beth says:

    Could you not afford to adopt? I too have always wanted a lot of kids but I have chronic high blood pressure and after my second baby my Dr said I probably don’t need to have anymore. I am also blessed with a stepson so I know I’m blessed beyond measure. But if my Dr won’t allow me to have more I wish we could afford to adopt. (We feel like i should be a SAHOM so we can’t afford to adopt on a single income.) I was just curious if you struggled with not being able to afford adoption too. I wish I could handle being a foster parent but I’d get too attached. I wouldn’t be able to give them up.

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